What has your ex contributed to school uniform this year?

[surlycurly]

Hello all. Just wondering how other people do new school uniforms. For 5 years we have halved it but this year my ex announced he's not contributing. He's saving his money for his forthcoming wedding. He bought DS a stationary set and that's it. DS starts high school this year. I've paid for new everything for them both (DD already at high school). ExH earns two and a half times what I do. What about you?

I just get them out of the maintenance he pays (CSA rate). I don’t ask for anything on top.

Nothing here either..I was rather patronisingly told " no that's not how it works that's what maintenance is for" he recently cut the maintenance by half with no advance warning as he is having another baby that he apparently can't afford.
Sorry to hear there are so many crappy dad's around.

Haha he's paid nothing for them, ever. Not for uniform, clothing them, keeping them in shes, feeding them.... I can live without the £5 I'd get from his benefits if i bothered to get csa involved, I'd love pay that not to have to talk to him

All clothes come out of family allowance. Along with after school club fees/haircuts/sports clubs. Money goes in a joint account we still have and we both top it up with a bit extra each month. 50-50 parenting no maintenance.

Nada. And the maintenance he sent me 3 days late this week was handed over to Clarks within hours.

He hasn't bought them any clothing since I was pregnant with my first... But he does like to criticise what I dress them in. Personally I try to avoid the "wee Ned" look.

As a previous poster said - I don't get as much as CSA guidelines suggest - but I can't face the fury if I were to ask for more.

Nothing - in his defence, all I've had to buy was a PE skirt, though we'll be double checking the shoes/trainers this weekend.

Sorry to hear of all the deadbeat dads.

Hi.
I have a pair of clarks girls shoes size 3. Bought for last week of term and no longer fit. They are as new.

I don't want anything for them - would like them to go to someone that needs them

Also got a pair of girls adidas trainers in size 4. They come up small.

I'm happy to post them if they will help someone out x

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Griffin-Mia/p/26115634

@kackle my dd is desperate for Adidas trainers so if no other takers then I would love them for her please.

Pm me your address and I will get them in the post for you x

Nothing.

Said he will. Still waiting.

Nothing so far and I have 3 in secondary now with the one starting in September, haven't finished yet but think it will cost me close to a grand what with 3 pairs of kickers, pe trainers and football boots not to mention all the logo uniform they all need new due to growing, bags etc

I've had nothing at all for about 5 years now. I've even provided picnics and sun cream on occasion!

My ex pays more than the CM minimum, but then he earns a lot more than me. His payment is one large outgoing which ultimately benefits him aswell, and makes him look like Mr Generous.

He sees the kids a lot, spends money on meals out, bowling, cinema when he's with them. But refuses to buy them anything useful (and useful to me) such as clothes, shoes, haircuts etc.

I have never asked him for a penny, and never will. I therefore pay for everything, including all school trips etc. My kids see him for what he is, and know that with me they come first. This doesn't give me any pleasure, but he bloody deserves it.

So the answer to your question OP, is nothing.

Not a penny,ever. Ds is due his GCSE results on Thursday

Kackle that’s really nice of you 😊

He's paid half thankfully as I'm skint. She needed everything as she's starting high school.

So many of these men 🤔🤔. Do they not get it?

If you're mean with money and with love, your kid aren't gonna visit you in your council-funded if you're lucky care home.

And worse than that... they are evebtualky going to see you as a peripheral influence in their lives. Stupid, stupid, feckless, absent fathers.

Contribution? Ha! What does that look like?!

He has never paid a penny towards DD in her 11 years on this earth. I could almost forgive the lack of maintanance if the arse actually bothered to send her a birthday card. She’s never had a single thing from him ... ever.

She’s going to high school next year and I dread what that will cost me Kitting her out for P7 this year set me back nearly £200 by the time we’d bought Clark’s shoes and new trainers. We’ve reused what we could - bag, pencil case and stationary, and raincoat. I simply couldn’t afford to buy new. Her winter coat and boots in a couple of months time will probably be another £60-80. I was still able to buy some cheaper items from supermarkets this year (socks and tights ), but she’s hitting that funny age where she wants to pick her things now, so I couldn’t get away with George this year. Fucking M&S fleeced me!

I’m the NRP with my eldest. I’ve bought the lot! His Dad (who he lives with) hasn’t even bought a pencil case. Starting high school so it’s cost a fortune!

Absolutely nothing, and it's never been any different.

Zero, zilch, nada, nothing not a pound nor a penny. He never has and I'm sure he never will.

Very sad to read about all these dad's with a complete lack of responsibility to their children, I don't know what I would do if my ex was like this!

He pays a decent amount in child maintenance (relative to his earnings, not above it) and he has bought the school shoes while I buy the rest which is mostly non logo and therefore purchased in sainos 25% off week! I buy all other clothes and shoes tho which while she is this age (6 coming up 7) seems to equate to a new wardrobe every summer and winter!

He is also splitting her birthday party with me this year as she's having a "proper" one. Last two years since break up I've had a home party for her which he's not contributed to.

Zero. Plus zero child maintenance.

Same as every year. Nothing