What has your ex contributed to school uniform this year?

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Hello all. Just wondering how other people do new school uniforms. For 5 years we have halved it but this year my ex announced he's not contributing. He's saving his money for his forthcoming wedding. He bought DS a stationary set and that's it. DS starts high school this year. I've paid for new everything for them both (DD already at high school). ExH earns two and a half times what I do. What about you?

£0

Not a surprise seeing as he also pays £0 maintenance.

Now I’ve grown up (21) I realise that there’s so many pants dads out there. My mum and dad agreed when they separated on child maintenance themselves and my dad would pay for all the “extras” because he has a good salary and mum doesn’t.
He stuck to that, and always gave money for uniforms/all school trips/school stuff and even paid for days out.
Absolute shits on this thread.

Nothing, but I wouldn't expect anything. NRP are legally obligated to pay maintenance, however maintenance does include everything. Therefore, any extra money is a private agreement between RP and NRP. maintenance should be used for uniform, trips, holidays etc. No it's not great but that is where the law stands.

My DH has a child not with an ex as such, they were in the army and he had recently divorced, he had no feelings for her but has continued to support the child. He gives extras when he can in addition to maintenance; she expects him to pay for everything not only related to the child but her mortgage and bills.

Maintenance is for everyday expenses though. Trips and holidays aren't an every day expense. Neither is uniform when it's mainly bought once or twice a year depending on how fast your child grows. Maintenance goes towards bills and housing costs as the child needs a home in which to live. Food and every day clothes and shoes too.

Nothing.

Ex loves DS1 but in terms of practical stuff he's awful. It just doesn't occur to him to contribute anything.

I think far more Exes think "I pay maintenance, why should I pay anything more" rather than accept that children can be expensive things to raise. I think it gets even more complicated when those Exes get new partners who also feel that they contribute "enough".

Idont - you are right, a lot of these problems are magnified by new partners who resent the previous life.

DH paid £200 towards DSS' new secondary uniform and is buying two of the four pairs of shoes he needs - the school shoes and the football boots.

I find it astonishing that new partners discourage NRP from seeing their DC. What do they think will happen if their relationship breaks down? It's not going to be any different...

Totally agree with Idontbelieveinthemoon about new partners. My stbexh pays £12 a day for our 2 children which covers their food including school meals which are £3 each. They are very active and eat me out of house and home despite being skinny as rakes. There's certainly nothing left over for school uniform, trips and holidays! Well, maybe a pack of tights or some socks throughout the year His gf tells our dc that he gives me loads. She thinks it's actually half what it is and still thinks it's loads Although he lives with her and pays her maintenance too so he's paying into the household as well as paying maintenance. I'm not sure she'd be too impressed at so little if they split up!