What has your ex contributed to school uniform this year?

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Hello all. Just wondering how other people do new school uniforms. For 5 years we have halved it but this year my ex announced he's not contributing. He's saving his money for his forthcoming wedding. He bought DS a stationary set and that's it. DS starts high school this year. I've paid for new everything for them both (DD already at high school). ExH earns two and a half times what I do. What about you?

DH's ex hasn't paid a bean since the children came to live with him 6 years ago. So he's paid for all of DSD2 uniform and most of DSD1. DSD1 went to another school for at least a year but I don't know if he specifically paid for uniform. He was definitely paying maintenance during that time. DH's family sometimes help with paying for clubs.

DS has left school now, but in his entire schooling Ex bought, a pair of shoes, 2 fleeces and a pair of trousers. Apparently the maintenance is to contribute towards clothes!!!!! Oh and they were all in primary school, I showed the ex all the receipts for DS secondary clothing, still nothing!

Zilch, of course!

no financial contribution in any form eg maintanance etc so deffo no uniform

never wanted to see his son either

Nothing, I've thought about asking again but previous years have been unsuccessful. Went to get them school shoes today (3DCs) and came away empty handed. Got youngest some second hand shoes on Facebook, but struggling with that as he has a bad foot and really needs proper shoes. Might clear out shed tomorrow and see what I can sell!

Nothing from me yet because the court order states I dont have to. But I always buy the school shoes because my secondary school age DC likes the fact I let them choose their styles. I also buy some sports gear for the same reason - for the DC comfort and the fact I let them choose. My ex doesnt pay maintenance despite the proportion of our incomes being 10 (him) to 1 (me) so i dont feel bad. In relation to our incomes I contribute enough for school.

Like perverseconverse sweet F all.
In the the 4yrs my dc has been at school he has bought her a pair of tesco shoes that I couldn't put on her feet anyway.

Rediculously narrow feet.

He doesn't contribute in any other form either.

I buy uniform for at my place, my ex buys uniform for them for when they are with her.

Usually we alternate buying school shoes/pe kit etc.

Zero. Nothing ever. Never paid anything for her.

Same as funkychunk. Bugger all. He's never paid a penny and he's not seen her for almost ten years now.
I actually can't wait for him die.

Zero. This is in keeping with the zero maintenance contributions.

Hahahaha, good one

The arsehole has contributed not a penny since I split with him.

Nothing, he never ever has. He believes that is what his maintenance is for but a months maintenance doesn’t even cover three DC’s uniform so...

Mine has bought all the logo’d stuff - blazer, polo shirts, jumper, pe kit. All i’ve had to buy is trousers and shoes.

And he was made redundant last month.

He’s a good egg really, i do know how lucky i am.

Another one with nothing. Maintenance (which again is minimal and he refuses to tell me what he earns etc) should cover everything apparently Have emailed break down of costs previously but was just ignored. He did, after much asking buy shoes once - cheap slip-ons from Asda that rubbed and DC couldn't keep on so they lasted one day and I had to buy new ones. Sigh...

Nothing, but my child lives with me 100% of the time so it 'should' be covered by the maintenance. If I was getting less in maintenance because of shared care then I would hope to split the cost.

no spare money

Holy shit! Sorry you have to deal with this. As if making sure your kids have a uniform involves 'spare' money. It's priority money ffs. Total knob.

Another one where ex doesn’t contribute anything to uniform, in fact outside of maintenance nothing at all, which is a very little amount anyway. His answer is that’s what he pays maintenance for. On the other hand, my oh splits everything straight down the middle, from weekly pocket money to school trips. Complete contrast to my ex.

Fuck all. He pays a token contribution each month for child maintenance and thinks I should use that. In his words ‘he can’t afford it’ but he can afford to rent a 5 bed house and continue to participate in motor sports

Never paid anything. He says he pays enough maintenance (he pays exactly what he should). He has a well paid job and lives a great life. I used to have to pay for his son's uniform when i supported him through his training for his good job

Nothing from my ex this year (and no maintenance for the last year). He contributed nothing last year either and the year before it took him 6 months to pay back what he owed me for his half of what I’d paid out.
On the other hand, DH sat down and worked out what my DSC would need (used the online school shop for costs) as moving from primary to secondary. Split (halved) the cost and added some extra on and sent it to mum as soon as secondary place was confirmed. This apparently wasn’t good enough and god forbid we offered a pair of second hand astro boots that one of my children had hardly used (and so in bloody good condition) DSC will not be starting a new school with anything second hand apparently Dh pays more than a decent amount of maintenance per month but because he tried to help out by thinking ahead and not waiting until he was told he should have offered uniform money it wasn’t good enough and his ex had a complete hissy fit!

Absolutely nothing, same as every other year.

In 11 years he has paid around £200 in maintenance and the CSA/CMS has done sweet FA about it. Pisses me off royally...

Nothing here either. It’s both the DCs birthdays this month too...two parties I have to pay for, he’s only ever turned up to one in the past let alone give any money towards any of it.

But of course he pays the legal minimum for maintenance, based on his 2012 salary, so of course I should be grateful.

Does he pay child maintenance?
If he does then unfortunately theres not much can be done about it.
My ex has never contributed to any school wear. I get a poor 100 every 4 weeks for 3 kids, 16, 15 and 12. I could go to csa and get more but the atmosphere it would cause and how the ex would react would not be fair to stick the kids in the middle of it. I do however keep telling him to take the children out more and spend more time with them id rather he did this and spend the money to take them out more.

Nothing, his mum did I've bought PE kit and skirts. I guess he thinks he doesn't need to seeing as his mum's covered it. Such a lovely thing for her to do.