Heartbroken at a wedding

[Loveache]

So my partner and I (same sex couple) split this week. Not my wishes and consequently feeling pretty horrendous at the moment. Owing to domestic circumstances, we'll still be living together for a few months yet which doesn't make things any easier.

I have a friend's wedding to go to this weekend. It occurred to me today that (I know just about the entire guest list) I will literally be the only person there without a long-term partner. How depressing is that at a vulnerable time. Additionally and importantly, my table will have an ex-friend who I know will enjoy passive-aggressively rubbing it in. I don't feel strong enough in myself right now for things like that to not get to me.

Any advice on how to get through this without crying in public/drinking the bar dry/both combined would be gratefully received!

OH, one other thing. Make sure you are first into the dining room so if they’ve accidentally put you next to ex-friend, you can quickly switch the name places over (I wouldn’t normally but it sounds reasonable here!

Just remember in time you will be happy again. They two nasty people will always just be nasty people.
Ignore them, Be strong and try have the best time you can.
I hope it goes well ❤

Hmm even half a valium and a tiny drink might be enough to trigger disaster... I would truly either find a good reason to leave straight after the ceremony or rope in at least two 'minders' to keep me from making a tit of myself and embarrassing my friends on their special day.

Plan B, that no one else has suggested yet...

Send a big box of chocolates stuffed with laxatives anonymously to Cowbag ex Friend and Nasty Schoolgirl, timed to arrive the day before. Hopefully they'll be far too drained in every sense of the word to turn up to the wedding [evil]

That is inspired!!

God it would be so much better if even one of them couldn't come! Evil ideas? (Lighthearted.. ish)

Mate, I know it's shit but don't take a Valium and drink. If you do, you'll be the sad single zoned out snoozy person in the corner which is a) not a good look and b) more grist for the mean girls' mill.

Be fabulous. Not zonked.

Wine makes me tired so would avoid that with the dinner anyway, it's a long evening. A glass of prosecco at the opening reception and something at the party afterwards. Two should be fine.

If you know a lot of the people attending, try to get through the meal as fast as you can then excuse yourself to 'mingle' and go visit other tables.

Valium + alcohol is a recipe for an over-abundance of emotional display. If you must, do one or the other. The last thing you want is to have your emotions get the better of you. TBH (and don't shoot me!) I'd rather take a couple of tokes of weed. Makes you happy without the 'come down' that booze or Valium gives you. But weed is legal where I live. Probably not an option for you.

No no no no never mix Valium and alcohol.

Valium is just a muscle relaxant anyway it doesn't nothing for anxiety.

Save the Valium for when you get home and want to collapse asleep.

Can you not bring a platonic friend along?

loveache please come back on and let us all know how it went. Hopefully it all goes well.

En route. Wish me luck. I amgoing to fucking need it.

Best of luck. I won't say it'll be easy, but I will say you can get through this. Head up, chin up. Fuck 'em all!

Fingers crossed. 🤞