My friend took my child's dummy from him

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Hello Ladies

I'm brand new on here but have been an obsessive lurker for a long time! And thanks to this lurking have picked up some fabulous advice on all sorts of issues. So thank you to you all!
I have a dilemma and was wondering if anyone could help me.
At the weekend we were at a friends BBQ (this friend is also DS's Godmother) and DS lost his dummy. He wasn't feeling particularly well (teething and temp) so we had arrange for in laws to pick him up after a couple of hours of socialising.
He became quite fractious for the last 20mins or so and I went to give him his dummy and it was nowhere to be seen.
Luckily I had a spare but was stumped as to where the first had gone
Turns out (I found this out this morning), my friend (his godmother) had taken it from him and hidden it in her DH's pocket and when we had gone home she told the rest of our friends what she'd done! Apparently she said "I took it from him because he doesn't need it".
I was naturally furious but DH is saying let it go...but I'm obviously not listening to him! Lol!
Any advice on how handle this is welcome!

headbutt her

What is it that you hate Jane?Do they look a bit too chavvy for your liking?

Nothing to do with chavvy, it's the hygiene angle. I've seen so many mums sucking them and then putting them in the kids mouths to shut them up. No way I'd be doing it or condoning it.

to make someones name bold * each side of the name...

It doesn't really matter whether anyone hates dummies or not..My Ds had one after spend an hour and half stuck on my boob...I was just a human dummy... At 3 months he gave them up in place of a thumb..Far easier to get rid of a dummy than a thumb...

However the point is no one else has the right to make choices how anyone else parents.

I have never understood the fuss about dummies.. I am a childminder...Some come with dummies some don't.. some because parents don't want them some because the babies don't want them...I do not see what anyones parenting choices are makes them superior.

Excellent post

I wouldn't have done that. I've seen people put their fingers in babies mouths though - ewww!
Children who want to suck will suck blankets and clothing which may not be clean, whereas dummies are really easy to keep clean.

There is no way any child I have or will be looking after will have a dummy. They are filthy disgusting things IMO. So just no!!
I hope my ddil is reading this as I will not look after any child with a dummy.

Yes, jeronimoh! I used to watch a mum let her baby use her finger/knuckle to suckle on endlessly. Clearly, she was anti-dummy, but some babies need to suckle lots for comfort, and I'd sooner use a sterilised dummy than my germy hands all the live long day.

I hope that you never become a child minder then Jane!

How rude!

Fancy taking a toddler's dummy away

My flabber is ghasted.

Some seriously nuts posters on here. How anyone can be so weird about dummies is beyond me. Yes, babies have thumbs but they can't suck them early on. Also, dummies are usually sterilized so the hygiene thing is nonsense too. But, really, who cares? How something so inoffensive can cause some people so much disgust is beyond me.

OP, your friend was out of line. Just be straight with her and tell her.

Dummys are no more 'filthy disgusting' than retainers or mouthguards. Let's hope that your grandchildren don't need any orthodontic work Jane!

Honestly Jane, you'll refuse to see your grandchild if it's using a dummy? Stop the world, I want to get off

Fuck being Janes dil.

No I wouldn't refuse to see a grandchild if it had a dummy, but I would refuse to care for it.
Dummies are disgusting and I couldn't have one in the house. Just NO!

Janethegirl - my friend thought the same as you re thumbs and dummies. Her DD still sucked her fingers at nearly 10 and kept giving herself worms.

DS1 sucked his own fingers. Dreadful, dreadful habit to break. I am no dummy advocate (especially when the child is older) but rather that than fingers any day.

Janethegirl I look forward to reading the MiL posts from your DDiL in the future, I'm sure they'll make for an entertaining read

I think dummies are an easy cop out.

Ok flame me even more! I do not care!

You do know Jane that dummies are recommended as a safeguard against SIDS?

I just think you sound stupid Janethegirl.

Dummies are called 'soothers' for a reason.

So Jane what would you do if your son and ddil arrived for a visit with your gc who had a dummy?

It's coming across that you have some issues with hygiene and cleanliness - sorry.

Jane I hope for your sake that any grandchildren are not self soothers as trust me, looking at two permanently wet, wrinkly, slightly shrivelled little fingers that you can not just take away is much worse than a dummy.

I'm ok, Ds and ddil will never stay with me as we live too close, so not an issue.
Cleanliness is a concern but I loathe the concept of dummies and that will not change. My dc know my views so it's not a big issue.

It might be a big issue for your ddil Jane!