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The AAA Room in the Dept of Psychology at the University of Milton North.

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LadyDamerel · 29/11/2011 22:41

Sigmund is available for appointments.

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TheSmallPrint · 01/12/2011 07:28

Oh Vamps, so sorry to hear that your lovely MC has passed away and that BIL didn't get there first.Sad At least she went peacefully and is no longer in pain. Sending huge hugs to you and the colonel, take care.

VictorianChristmasVamp · 01/12/2011 08:17

Having cuddles with my lovely oldest nephew who's 4 weeks younger than Vampboy. Think plan is to sort out what we can today then everyone is coming over to ours for weekend. No point hanging round here all weekend.

Thanks again for your support last night, it meant the world to me. Smile

PassTheTwiglets · 01/12/2011 08:20

Aw Vamps, so sad that BIL didn't get there in time :( Was the Colonel ok about not being there? Sounds like she was a lovely lady. You must be exhausted. Hope you managed to get some sleep. xx

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 08:34

Oh Vampy, I'm so sorry. Sending you more love and strength for the coming days.

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VictorianChristmasVamp · 01/12/2011 08:54

Thanks all. Colonel was there in the end twigs but he found it really hard watching her the last few hours. I think in a way BIL may have it better having memories of her happy and healthy IYSWIM?Confused

Got some broken sleep from 4-6. Off for a shower now. Brought nothing with me as not expecting to stay last night!! UWLCAWHTBCW has nothing on me!!Grin

Wow. I love my phone! I just typed in UWL and it automatically filled in the rest for me!! Shows how often I must type it!!Grin

TheSmallPrint · 01/12/2011 10:48

I have obviously been away too long, I have no idea what UWLCAWHTBCW means Confused.

I do understand what you mean about BIL Vamps, it's a very valid point.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 01/12/2011 11:11

Vampy ? I posted this an hour ago and broke MN, so will try again now!

I am so sorry that your MiL passed away before BiL could get there, but I am sure she will have known that he was on his way and will have drawn much comfort from that, and from having you and The Colonel there. Spending the weekend as a family for mutual support sounds like a lovely idea. I expect you will need to spend a lot of time today dealing with all the admin, but perhaps a little outing (even if it?s just a trip to the park with the VampOffspring) will be a welcome diversion over the weekend?

Thanks Thanks

Oh, the discombobulation was caused by a link to one of the fan sites, where all the cravats had been gathered into one gallery, like a Victorian Thuds-a-gogo version of Tie Rack!

Now pay attention Small - it's the Unwashed Leather-Clad Arsonist With Homicidal Tendencies (But Comely Withal).

TheSmallPrint · 01/12/2011 12:45

ah of course Maud.

SupermassiveLBD · 01/12/2011 13:08

Oh, Vampy, so sorry I am late with this - the last, it seems. My sympathies, to the colonel too and all the family. You have been an utter tower of strength, and it must have been a huge comfort to everyone involved

Thanks Thanks Thanks

Do take care of yourself. And as LadyD says we continue to send you our love and support through the ether. So don't be wearing that tinfoil hat.

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 13:09

This wasn't the illustration I was going to use but it made me laugh in a very infantile way.

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SupermassiveLBD · 01/12/2011 13:12

The past is a foreign country, LadyD. Poor kid, though! Can you see them daring to do that now?.

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 13:17

The previous post is for Smallio.

Vampy, how's BIL? I was awake several times in the night last night, hoping and praying she'd managed to hang on long enough to see him. If you need anything at all over the next few days you know where we'll be. Hugs for you.

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ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 01/12/2011 13:28

On closer inspection, I see that two letters were omitted from the acronym. It should, of course, be the Unwashed Leather-Clad Psychologically-Damaged Arsonist With Homicidal Tendencies (But Comely Withal).

I'll look a bit later for someone who might give Vampy a hug while not holding a dagger in his hand.

VictorianChristmasVamp · 01/12/2011 13:32

Oh it's awful. BIL Is so upset that he missed her and didn't get to show her DS2. SadSad

No amount of anything can give him that chance. SIL is being slightly curt with me though - not sure if it's her Australian nature of just her, tiredness, jet lag, or cos FIL is leaning on me so much. Believe I'd give anything to be at home with my babies. I'm exhausted beyond belief and have a 2-3 hour drive ahead of me yetSad

Sorry just hit me bringing her things home from the hospice. My little
Nephews are so sweet. She would have loved them. Just watching 90 year old great grandmother with them is gorgeous. Smile

Anyway, just waiting for FIL and SIL to get back from shops and grab some lunch and go on home. Need to get house sorted for an onslaught of people tomorrow afternoon! Just want to snuggle up with my family!

Thanks for the hugs. He looks so caring there - what I wouldn't give to have the chance for a hug like that just now. The colonel is on his way home to retrieve children and dog - FIL wanted me to stay a bit longer and go to the hospice with him. He's going to have to do the undertaker himself tomorrow morning well with BIL and SIL but I need to get home to my babies - that's not wrong is it? We're meeting them tomorrow o have a look at the burial ground and then they are coming back with us.

Thanks for being here with meSad

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 01/12/2011 13:46

Vampy - No it's not wrong to get home to your babies. They need you and you need them, especially now. It must be terrible for your BiL right now, but perhaps in time he'll be able to reflect that he delayed coming over because that was what his mum asked for and then, as soon as things changed, he did everything he could to get back in time. Maybe your SiL is just tense - had she met your PiL very often? this is a difficult situation to be catapulted into if you don't know your in-laws well - but if she's feeling jealous of the attention you're getting you probably need simply to turn a blind eye. Is your BiL older than The Colonel? Does she think (if he is) that BiL and she should be taking the lead in making the arrangements? (Seems a bit peculiar to me, and she ought to be grateful that you've done so much, but I know that some families do have a pecking order based on age).

Thinking of practicalies, is there anyway that you could leave the car at FiL's house and go home by train, so you can snooze on the train? Could one of the family drive the car back for you tomorrow?

Take care of yourself. xx

VictorianChristmasVamp · 01/12/2011 13:52

Thanks Maud. You made my cry! Don't be nice to me!!Smile

Not v straight forward to take train and easier to have car down home anyway. Besides noone else here can drive it except FIL and he'll want to drive his car tomorrow.

May just go soon if they not back by 2.30 as I don't want to get stuck in traffic.

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 13:56

Vampy, going home to the MiniDs was the only thing I wanted to do once G'pa had died. I needed the normality of the noise, the mess, the arguing and the cuddles by that point. You do have to put your own wants and needs first occasionally through everything that is still to come if you are to get through it. Please don't feel guilty about it.

I am sure relations between you and SIL will level out once you are both less tired and emotionally wrought, it's been an exceptionally hard 24 hours for both of you.

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SupermassiveLBD · 01/12/2011 14:16

How can I add anything to all those wise words, other than say I am senidng and supportive thoughts.

Safe journey back to your babies, Vampy.

VictorianChristmasVamp · 01/12/2011 16:37

Thanks again ladies!! I'm home safelySmile

The Xolonel is giving vampjuniors something to eat then we are going to tell them. Probably taking them with us to look at the burial site tomorrow and a play in the woods with their cousins - grandma would have loved that!

Only a few more hours to push then I can sleep I hope Smile

DumSpiroSpero · 01/12/2011 17:04

Glad you're home safely. Hope all goes ok with the little Vamps.

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 17:10

Glad you got home okay, Vampy. Did the MiniVamps know she was ill? I can't remember how much you'd told them.

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TheSmallPrint · 01/12/2011 17:19

Glad you're home Vamps, good luck telling the Vampjuniors. Smile

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 17:51

read the very last line of this. Do you think we should start a campaign?

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LadyDamerel · 01/12/2011 17:52

Grrr, let me try that again.

Massive, read the very last line of this. Do you think we should start a campaign?

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SupermassiveLBD · 01/12/2011 18:14

I am hugely relieved that you are back safely, Vampy. The thought of you having to drive after all that stress was bothering me no end.

I hope all goes well with telling the Vampjuniors. I imagine they are too little to understand properly. Still thinking of you and the Colonel, and BIL etc. now too, and sending love and Thanks

What a lovely interview, LadyD. He's pretty consistent, isn't he? He never disappoints with his thoughtful answers.

As for a Gizzy spin-off, it's an old interview of course, but we can but dream. It's great to know he holds the character in affection but obviously he will be too big from now on to be able to consider it.

Though I always knew what we saw at the conclusion of RH3 was not the end of him Wink He was patched up, and lived on quietly in France, to a ripe old age, take it from me.

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