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A thread to share latest posts on our blogs

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MmeLindor. · 24/05/2011 18:20

Anyone?

I will start off with a link to my latest post, a part of the story of Beth (formerly known as Dora) who moved to Geneva to escape a relationship turned sour.

This is NOT me, by the way. I have drawn on my knowledge of Geneva but it is not an autobiograpy :)

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TrillianAstra · 27/08/2011 20:48

Love your drawing at the bottom SweetestThing :)

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MmeLindor. · 27/08/2011 21:11

Your blog is very good, SweetestThing. Good luck with the further treatment, will be following your journey.

Thanks, Tee. Sorrows are well and truly drowned. My friend is pregnant and asked me to drink a couple of glasses for her.

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MmeLindor. · 27/08/2011 21:11

Trills
Let me know if I can help them in any way.

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TrillianAstra · 27/08/2011 21:18

That's very sweet, thanks :) Friend lived there for years a while ago (although her boyfriend is having to learn French) so I think they vaguely know what they are doing.

DirtyMartini · 27/08/2011 21:25

SweetestThing, I've been reading through your blog - it is so good. I normally just visit briefly the first time I see a new blog, to mentally bookmark it, & then go back later, but yours is hard to click away from. Are you a writer in other contexts?

Was wincing at the description of the hospital staff trying to take out the drain so you could go home. gaaaaaah!

Mme, saw yours too, glad the sorrows are drowned. Got any caramels left?

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MmeLindor. · 27/08/2011 21:32

I agree, DM. I read a lot of SweetestThings blog and was wondering if she were a professional writer.

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TheAlphaParent · 28/08/2011 00:20

Tee to answer your question I believe they are pissed off because of poor support, guilt, being milked of their cash, and a load of other things I'm saving for the article.

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MmeLindor. · 28/08/2011 00:24

TheAlphaparent
I am more likely to get pissed off at people assuming that I must be wracked with guilt for not BFing.

And I don't see why I should be pissed off at the money spent. It was that or the dc would not have had milk.

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Tee2072 · 28/08/2011 06:31

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DirtyMartini · 28/08/2011 07:46

Alpha, I know controversy is part of your USP as a blogger, as you pointed out to me when I commented on your HV post, but courting it on this thread seems misguided.

I do think it is important to be positive about BF, but am realising it was perhaps naive of me to think that was the main point of your posts. When it translates into generic criticism or misrepresentation of people who don't/didn't bf, for whatever reason, it really undermines the message IMO.

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MmeLindor. · 28/08/2011 09:17

Don't read my latest post. I will write you a happy one today. Ok?

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FlamingoBingo · 28/08/2011 09:57

Alpha, I am a tad concerned that your 'controversial' approach could well end up tarring all breastfeeding supporters with the same brush...in much the same way you are tarring all formula feeders with the same brush!

Tee, FYI, I am not "pissed off because some people don't bow down at their supposedly superior feet.", only pissed off because so many women who wanted to breastfeed were not able to - 90% of women who stop breastfeeding before their babies are 6 weeks old wish they hadn't! I think that is shocking and unacceptable.

I am, however, as a bfc and a blogger, family-centred, and if a mother doesn't want to breastfeed, I think it is entirely appropriate that she does not. A resentful mother will do more emotional harm to her child than a happy, at-peace-with-her-decisions-even-if-that-means-formula-feeding will.

Hence why my blog's USP is Free Your Parenting - know the facts, know your feelings and those of your family, and then do what's right for you all, not what's right for anyone else!

Please don't all think that all breastfeeding supporters are anti-formula, or pitying of formula feeding mums, or anything negative like that. I can't speak for all the organisations but NCT BFCs are trained to be mother-centred and non-judgemental and if you come across one who doesn't act in that way, then you've unfortunately found a bad apple, as you will in any profession.

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MmeLindor. · 28/08/2011 10:13

Good post, FB.

Can we perhaps move the discussion back to our blogs. Alphaparent - I would appreciate it if you would start a new thread for discussion on your blog's stance on bf/ff so that we can keep this thread free from arguments. It is a lovely safe place from the argy-bargy of MN.

Happier post today on counting my blessings

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FlamingoBingo · 28/08/2011 10:23

Yes, great idea, MmeLindor.

Back to blogging! Woohoo! :)

TheAlphaParent · 28/08/2011 11:05

DM (and others) rather than courting controversy on this thread, I was testing to see how an idea would be perceived and if it had any significant flaws before I put in any substantial amount of work into it. The reason I make the gross generalisation "formula feeding mothers are pissed off" is because, well one only has to find any thread about breastfeeding and formula feeding on any parenting forum to see the war that ensures. In these wars formula feeding mothers come across as angry, bitter and ignorant. It's very common indeed to hear phrases such as "here we go again, breastfeeders shoving it in our faces, why do they always make us feel guilty" and "there's little difference between formula and breastmilk in developed societies" and "my baby has eczema but it's not because he was formula fed" and there's ALWAYS the speech about why they couldn't breastfeed, even though no one asked. So add defensive to the list. My article is/was going to be quite sensitive actually (for me) and tackle issues such as poor support, the pressures places on mothers to optimize all areas of their child's development, and formula marketing.

Today's offering:

It's a breastfeeding room, so what do they put on the door?

GentleOtter · 28/08/2011 11:23

Hello!

It is cold, wet and horrid outside so today will be spent reading lots of blogs, eating scones and wearing new 2.3 tog thermal socks.

New additions Besotted with Grace.

Tee2072 · 28/08/2011 11:28

sigh MmeL. You had me at 'the chocolate'. Grin

TrillianAstra · 28/08/2011 11:30

Fab post Flammers :)

FlamingoBingo · 28/08/2011 11:32

Thanks Trills :)

Tee2072 · 28/08/2011 11:34
stitchthis · 28/08/2011 12:10

Back to blogs! Hurrah! here's today's posted from Sickroom Towers by the Sea.

Glad to hear you are happier mme. If I lived in Switzerland I'd be a whale by now, that chocolate sounds marvellous.

TheAlphaParent · 28/08/2011 12:27

Loving the olive green on that scarf.

Wish I could knit. I bought an adorable knitted hat from eBay for my youngest recently. It's baby blue with little bear ears.

SweetestThing · 28/08/2011 15:41

Thank you for the warm welcome and the kind comments, both here and on my blog. I'm not a professional writer (flattering as it is that you might think that!) but I love words, read a lot and enjoy writing, so maybe that comes across.

MmeLindor, glad your blog is happier today. My friend brought me some Lindor chocolates during the week and I have managed to eat one or two - very yummy! I'm with stitchthis - I'd be the size of a whale if I had access to all that lovely chocolate!!

Raining here, interspersed with sunny spells, so I shall catch up on some blogs and probably update my own too. I was lying in bed last night and remembered a couple of things I should have put in yesterday's blog - doh!

Hope everyone is having a good Sunday.