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whats the most offensive thing anyone has ever said to you?

166 replies

mummyof2girls · 08/09/2005 22:17

i was told by my ex that i looked like a summo wresler when i was heavly pregnant and wearing a thong. what a bastard!

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GrumpyOldHorsewoman · 30/03/2007 13:15

Can someone please explain the term 'natural mother'? (as posted by Blu)

melminx · 30/03/2007 13:37

when i was 16 i got pregnant i got pre eclamptic toxemia and it was to late to save my precious son jacob. i spent 5 days in intensive care fighting for my life and my x mil 2 be phoned my mum up and said " i know exactly what she's going through i've had a hysterectomy!!" the cruelst thing thats ever been said in my world.

Miaou · 30/03/2007 13:40

Blu - out of all the mothers in the world, you are the least deserving of such a remark. That's just such an awful thing to say to anyone, but to you in particular IMO!

You poor soul

motherinferior · 30/03/2007 13:42

Blu, that makes me so SO angry. Scummy is so so right. Christalmighty, it's such total rubbish I'm speechless. What on earth...?

motherinferior · 30/03/2007 13:46

My last long-term boyfriend before DP ditched me by making a list of all the things he found awful about me, adding that he did actually after all want children, but not with me, as I shouldn't have children as look what my parents had done to me and I'd repeat that to my own children, look how people who'd been abused became abusers.

(This still makes me cry.)

berolina · 30/03/2007 13:46

Greeny, Blu

My mother has variously referred to me as 'mental' and 'round the twist' and said that I'd 'never been a proper daughter'. A frequent comment when I was growing up was 'Why can't you be more like my friends' children?'

In more recent times, the most offensive thing was being referred to by a student of mine as a selfish uncaring working mother.

powder28 · 30/03/2007 13:53

grannycracksopenabottleofwine,

Why did your mum say that? That's just bizarre!

mytwopenceworth · 30/03/2007 13:55

well, my dh has said a few things.......

we went to arrange our marriage and had to pay £20 deposit to the registrar. dh nodded at me and said to her "its amazing how much you can get for 20 quid these days"

the other day he went to get a pack of sausage rolls and came back with 2, i said why did you get 2, grandad only wanted 1, he said "i like to have things in pairs" (eh?) so i jokingly said "oh, so how many wives have you got?" he said - "one

the size of 2."

i think i win.

mytwopenceworth · 30/03/2007 13:57

sorry. i didnt read the thread, i realise it has become serious, with some really dreadfully sad tales. sorry.

Greenleeves · 30/03/2007 14:07

Not at all MTPW, we need a bit of lightening up

Greenleeves · 30/03/2007 14:07

And that was bloody rude of your dh

I hope you got your own back!

TheArmadillo · 30/03/2007 14:09

when ds was 2 days old he got taken to the NICU because he was dehydrated. We were still in hospital cos it was a difficult birth.

I was feeding him and one of the nurses told me I wasn't doing properly and he wouldn't get better if I didn't do it right. She said she didn't have time to help me and walked off.

I cried.

LilRedWG · 30/03/2007 14:09

Just to make it all serious again My Mum commented a few years ago the when my older brother (14 years older than me and I adored him) met his wife, when I was about eight, that I was a "jealous little bitch". Gee, thanks Mum!

grannycracksopenabottleofwine · 30/03/2007 14:14

mtpw - such is life, good and bad

powder - i come from an abusive background. i guess she said that to isolate me and knock my self confidence and to stop me liking my dad and sister.

Miaou · 30/03/2007 14:16

Oh, I had the "why can't you be like my friends' daughters" from my mum. She's not particularly heartless, but she never thought about the impact of the things she said when I was a kid. Loads of things I have never forgotten, all little barbs, but I guess they add up over time.

powder28 · 30/03/2007 14:20

This is just awful, hearing some of the horrors people had to face as youngsters.
It just makes me want to cry tbh!

Blossomhill · 30/03/2007 14:28

That my dd was a sandwich short of a picnic
She has sn

MrsApron · 30/03/2007 14:29

when i was 4 we lived near an orphanage. My brother told me that i was adopted and if my mum and dad found out that I knew I would be sent back.

Bastard. I fretted about it for years as he turned the knife every so often to make sure i didn't forget. I periodically asked to see my birth certificate and was told "no you don't need to see it" by my mum for whatever reason of her own.

He was finally caught out in high school when he was laughing about it near my birthday saying to a bloke in his year "oh I will have to get a happy birthday adopted sister card" and then told the bloke the story.

bloke was horrifed and came to tell me about it. I finally brought it up at dinner while crying and my parents laughed at me.

Thanks a lot family.

MrsApron · 30/03/2007 14:30

there are some v funny things on here and some very very ones.

mosschops30 · 30/03/2007 14:39

i was told by one of dh's 'friends' at a wedding that i was 'a f*ing english bitch who had no right to be in this country and should f**k off back to my own where I belong'

have also been told that 'I (yes me personally) have robbed the welsh of their language'

just another happy day with those lovely welsh folk!!!!!

foxinsocks · 30/03/2007 14:42

oh Motherinferior, what an outrageous and insensitive thing to say to someone - especially as that's just the sort of thing you'd have at the back of your mind anyway (trying to prevent it recurring).

Makes me think of my god awful GP (a f'ing doctor of all bloody people) who, after I'd opened up about my upbringing ONLY because I had to explain why I didn't know what was hereditary or not, then said 'but how can you possibly be a good mother when you've had no role models' as if somehow, I was this strange monster and she looked at the children with pity ggrrrr.

IntergalEGGticWalrus · 30/03/2007 14:46

One leering man in a pub whispered in my ear "I love a girl with a nice big arse like yours"

I just said "I love men with drinks on their heads. Would you oblige?" He walked off.

Another time, in a pub, I was stood at the bar, and this guy tapped me on the shoulder. When I turned round, he said "Oh, shit, you are much uglier then I imagined"

I have also had a few offesnsive, but masquerading as well meaning, comments about DS2's hand. The worst was some nobbos in a cafe "Oh, look at that kid's fliddy hand" He's a baby FFS. DP gave them a mouthful for that one. and

OrvilleRedenbacher · 30/03/2007 14:46

"no"

aol · 30/03/2007 14:47

When I was a hv I rang a doorbell for a pre arranged visit, the net curtain twitched and I heard a voice inside shout " It's that posh bitch again!" and then I saw their shadows through the bubbly glass on the door as they crawled through on their hands and knees to the kitchen to hide. I was tempted - so tempted - to open the letter flap and yell at their departing fat bottoms - 'The posh bitch will call again later".

ScummyMummy · 30/03/2007 14:50

God, that would have been v funny, aol! I bet they'd have cacked their pants

mi- bet that prick would kick himself if he saw the absolutely lovely children you produced.

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