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whats the most offensive thing anyone has ever said to you?

166 replies

mummyof2girls · 08/09/2005 22:17

i was told by my ex that i looked like a summo wresler when i was heavly pregnant and wearing a thong. what a bastard!

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TeeCee · 30/03/2007 10:47

That children with special needs, I think she may have actually said with Down's syndrome, were considered to be a burden to society.

lou33 · 30/03/2007 10:47

*repercussions

lou33 · 30/03/2007 10:48

oh yes i was told that as well in the past, about dd1 (who has now overcome the sn she had)

i was also told after having her i should be forced into having abortions if i got pg again

ProfYaffle · 30/03/2007 11:08

I took newborn dd2 to see one of my friends the other week, she looked her up and down and said 'do you let dd1' (aged 2) 'pick her outfits?' Me, ' no!'

When I briefly worked as a barmaid one of the regulars said to me 'Your hair needs combing' (it was the 80's and it was backcombed) I said 'tell you what, why don't a shave a patch off at the back so I look like you?' He was a baldy old bloke and satisfyingly mortified.

When I worked on a long term temp assignment in an office we had a visiting 'dignitary' from head office. Our manager brought him round introducing him to everyone, she breezed past my desk, waved vaguely in my direction and said 'that's the temp'.

HoppyDaddy · 30/03/2007 11:28

Ex once told me, "You should feel lucky that your dad is dead". And she wondered why I never opened up to her.

lou33 · 30/03/2007 11:29

there are some lovely people in the world arent there?

Dinosaur · 30/03/2007 11:29

I told someone at work about DS1's ASD dx and she then promptly came out with all this stuff about how she was sure that parents just got these diagnoses for their kids as a way of getting them extra help at school and therefore playiing the system. I was gob-smacked.

peevedfrompurley · 30/03/2007 11:31

that I was an interfering old bag, can't see it myself...

greenday · 30/03/2007 11:48

Gosh, Greenleeves, so sorry that you went through all that. Sometimes smallest things can trigger bad and sad memories. I don't know if I could be as strong as you. Hope you're feeling better now.
From the other Greenie.

Tortington · 30/03/2007 11:50

a friend of a friend ( certainly no friend of mine!) said that i wasn't white enough to be english. her theory was that everone bred so that eventually everyone would be white.

she went on to say that it wasnt a coincidence that i met up and married a ginger haiored man and produced white children - iut was something that the iniverse intended becuase the iltimate aim is for everone to be white " so your kids are ok, its just you"

so i asked her how her being a lesbian fitted in with this theory

she said she was the ultimate becuase she didnt need to breed anymore.

shes addicted to drugs now and an alchoholic. she passed out cigarette in hand and suffered terrible burns to all of her body.

i think i believe more in karma misel'

dejags · 30/03/2007 11:55

When my dad said that my abusive upbringing was a figment of my imagination and that I needed counselling, not to get over the abuse, but rather to make me see sense (i.e. to cure me of my nutty intepretation of being beaten the crap out of for years).

BizzyDint · 30/03/2007 12:01

FIL was in the graden painting our fence. i went out in bare feet to give him a cup of tea.

he said 'oh 'eck you haven't got any shoes on, watch your feet love!'

i said (half jokily) 'it's ok, remember i'm half african, i have very thick soles, my family are used to walking long distances in the desert and mountains and stuff, i'll be fine on this decking'

he said 'yeh well as long as you don't go swinging from those trees.'

Blu · 30/03/2007 12:12

That I am a bad mother, do not prioritise my child and am not a natural mother.....it has ripped the stuffing out of me.

GrumpyOldHorsewoman · 30/03/2007 12:14

Custy - karma, divine retribution, whatever. What a tosser! (well, you know what I mean)

The most offensive thing I have ever heard was not said to me, but to my Nan. Her mother had just died in the hospital, and my nan (then aged 21) was crying in the corridor outside. A Nun came up to her and softly asked her if her mum had attended mass on Sundays. Nan replied that, having had 12 children and lots of 'adopted' children, Sundays had always been too hectic for her to attend mass, but she went every other day of the week. To which the Nun replied "But she never went on Sundays?"
Nan: "No"
Nun: "Well, you know where she's gone then, don't you?"

Suffice to say that, apart from weddings, etc, Nan has not set foot inside a church since then.

tissy · 30/03/2007 12:15

I'm afraid I'm guilty....

A colleague complained that someone else had said she looks like BA Robertson. I said, " No, not BA Robertson, you look much more like Phil Lynott"

(well she is very tall and thin, and has curly black hair....)

Dinosaur · 30/03/2007 12:15

Blu

Carmenere · 30/03/2007 12:19

A bloke I had been dating for a couple of weeks told me when we were out to dinner that he diddn't think it was going to work out because I was too fat.
I was a size 14 and looked pretty damn fab tbh, he was about 6 inches shorter than me and a total waster. I actually took it in my stride because, although it was my ultimate nightmare, I knew coming from him it diddn't mean anything. Still hurt though.
I met dp 2 weeks later, he was furious on my behalf when I told him

bossykate · 30/03/2007 12:24

blu tis bllx.

tissy · 30/03/2007 12:25

blu, you know that's not true

BizzyDint · 30/03/2007 12:26

when i first got together with dh he came out with some shockers, the poor love didn't know any better..he does now though.

we were discussing how many children we'd want. i was saying how we'd have no idea what they'd look like, cos i'm mixed race, he's blonde and blue eyed. i was saying how some of my family have very curly hair and dark skin, some are very fair with very straight hair so our children could be anything at all...

he said 'they'll probably not be very dark nor very light, they'll probably just look like they need a good wash' and he laughed

joash · 30/03/2007 12:37

A certain perosn once told me I had cow eyes (suposedly as a compliment). I think he was trying to cancel out the fact that he said I had a nose like Karl Maldens. He also went on to say that he was surprised becasue I "...didn't sweat much for a big girl"

ScummyMummy · 30/03/2007 12:57

What absolute fucking rubbish, blu. Whoever said that is so very, very wrong. I think you are a brilliant mother. You combine sensitivity to emotional, care, social and educational issues with knowing how to play and have fun in a way that is actually quite rare, imo. Your son thinks you are fantastic too. Have you seen the way he looks at you as though you are the greatest? er, that's because you are the greatest.

RedLorryYellowLorry · 30/03/2007 12:57

I was at a 1st birthday party. Dd was 11 months old at the time and the Grandmother of the birthday boy was giving out birthday cake. She asked if dd wanted some and I said she wouldn't eat the creamy stuff so I'd eat that and she could have the sponge. She said " that's why you're putting on so much weight". I thought I'd misheard so just smiled . I was/am a size 12 and am 5'6" tall. She then turned to address everyone around her and said "the first time I met this girl she was half the size she is now AND she was 6 mths pregnant". I muttered something about not putting on any weight and everyone just looked . After thinking about it alot I think she was trying to make her dd feel better about herself as she had found it hard to lose weight and after months of diet and exercise has lost lots but still ... Whereas I has put on no baby weight and was back in my normal clothes after 3 weeks (was not so with baby no. 2) Why do some woman have to put others down ?

Dinosaur · 30/03/2007 12:58

Hear hear Scummy.

Blu, I agree with every single word of that.

grannycracksopenabottleofwine · 30/03/2007 13:15

sometimes it's not knowing that's the worst -

when i was about 12, my mother told me that my father and sister thought such bad things about me, which were so terrible she could never tell me what they were, but she was shocked that they could hate me so much. i wondered about it for years. of course, it was only when i was much older that i realised there was probably nothing ever said, although i still can't help wondering now

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