I've been a prostitute on and off since I was a young adult. AMA.

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Just that, really. I am drunk and bored, and I've noticed in the past on MN, many sweeping statements made about sex workers that I don't always agree with (i.e we are all brainwashed into thinking we are happy with our career choice, but really we are miserable)

For background, I started when I was 19, maybe late 18. I got into it because I was lapdancing and noticed those who offered "extras" after hours made 3x what I did. I was young and stupid, and sex just felt like sex to me, so it was quick, easy money. I left when I was 23/24 and met DH.

I got back into it when I was in my early 30s and left DH with nothing to my name, but left again when DH and I agreed to a suitable child maintenance arrangement, and I could afford to live.

I went back into it 2/3 months ago when possible redundancies were announced at my work, and I realised benefits covered only around 2/3 of my basic outgoings. I am in my early 40s with two adult children who still rely on me. DS is in uni, and DD has just started an NMW job; both still live with me.

Sorry, what does a spliff emoji mean? 🤣 I'm dense about MN emojis!

Plenty of women (and for that matter, men) use their looks and sexuality to get ahead in life, being a prostitute is just doing that in a more direct and some would say, more honest, way.

• so selling sex is just more direct and honest than being a model,or actor, or any other job where looks are a key factor?

Don't worry.

It was just a joke but if you don't get it, I don't want to take the OP's thread off on a tangent.

🤣 that's OK. There's definitely some disturbing stuff in the Bible, some scenes to seem a bit hallucinogenic...

If you can't use Google to search for South West London prostitutes, Mumsnet isn't going to help you.

Perv off.

This isn't a solicitation forum. Reported.

@OonaStubbs
This was for you

The prevalence of human trafficking in the Netherlands has been recognized both domestically and internationally.
In 2017, it was estimated by the Dutch National Rapporteur on Trafficking in Human Beings and Sexual Violence against Children that more than 6,000 people in the Netherlands fall victim to human trafficking each year.
Two thirds of the people trafficked, about 4,000 people per year, fall victim to sexual slavery and abuse.
In 2016, the mayor of Amsterdam admitted, for the first time, that the Dutch experiment to curb abuse by legalizing prostitution had failed miserably. Policeman in Amsterdam’s infamous red-light district were quoted by Dutch media as saying “We are in the midst of modern slavery.”

Sorry but this is ridiculous. So just because a man pays for sex means he’s a terrible person and coercive? Unless he forces this women into doing something she doesn’t want to do, which doesn’t sound like it…she is providing a service (willingly) and charging accordingly. If the man pays her as promised and doesn’t do anything against her will, I’m not sure how is can be coercive! OP had clearly said she’s doing this to have more money, not out of a basic dire need. Is it something I’d do? No, but if you can make money from it and do it at free will I’m not sure why it’s an issue.

You think 'maintenance sex' in a relationship is the same as prostitution?

Really?

Just to clarify, I am not saying the Red Light District is part of a ‘normal functioning’ society, just that it’s so bizarre to observe something that is usually seen as horrific being done so openly.

Lots of bad things have been around forever, doesn't mean they should be accepted as 'just how it is'.

Actually, that reminds me of this song...

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DWyYC9qRlJxY&ved=2ahUKEwjYv8md2bOTAxU6WUEAHXhICLEQwqsBegQIWRAB&usg=AOvVaw3Hb_DiHU142WefmsTSorci

Wasn't the red light district seen in Band of Gold based on Birmingham's attempt to do something similar?
I don't think it went well.

A lot of people are judging the woman, and judging her hard - right down to being lazy and not paying taxes!

Yes, strip clubs are often sanitised in some AMAs that have been done.

A man paying for sex can NEVER know that woman’s circumstances. Please read up on trafficking of women and GIRLS.

Most men are happy to take this risk towards women because they will convince themselves that men's needs are more important than the fact the woman may be trafficked or kept against her will.

Men who use prostitutes are the absolute worst type of humans.

Selling sex isn't lazy imo, it sounds incredibly stressful.

She is avoiding taxes though: that's not incorrect

A previous poster claimed that there are male prostitutes used by women. That's a myth. Where there are men working as prostitutes their customers will be other men.

I would find such a man quite a terrible person yes.Not everyone would.agree ie you!

It absolutely is not.

Ever heard of a actor being trafficked?

No thought not.

I agree! I was quoting a pp.

Forcing someone to be a model isn't a crime in the same league as forcing someone to have sex.

What I don’t understand on mumsnet, is that everyone who does these threads claiming to be a sex worker claims they’ve never been hurt by their clients and largely only had nice clients, no violence or STIs, found it easy to find this decent work. Almost glamourising sex work and making it sound appealing. None are keen to be open about the real and exploitive side. Seems really odd.

I worked when they were with their dad.

The extras didn't happen inside the strip club. I've never worked in one that allowed that. The women would arrange to meet up with the men after the club closed.

I don't do drugs. When I was working in brothels I did speed and coke but that was more to stay awake all night than it was to cope with the sex and because everyone else was doing it and I was young and stupid.

Yes he is.

He knows the woman doesn’t want to have sex with him. He still has sex with her.

Would you pay a man to give you oral sex? Or would you feel completely disgusted by the idea that he did not find you sexually attractive at all and was unwilling to do it without payment?

Think how little you’d have to think of that man to put him through that.

Then apply it to men doing it to women.