I've been a prostitute on and off since I was a young adult. AMA.

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Just that, really. I am drunk and bored, and I've noticed in the past on MN, many sweeping statements made about sex workers that I don't always agree with (i.e we are all brainwashed into thinking we are happy with our career choice, but really we are miserable)

For background, I started when I was 19, maybe late 18. I got into it because I was lapdancing and noticed those who offered "extras" after hours made 3x what I did. I was young and stupid, and sex just felt like sex to me, so it was quick, easy money. I left when I was 23/24 and met DH.

I got back into it when I was in my early 30s and left DH with nothing to my name, but left again when DH and I agreed to a suitable child maintenance arrangement, and I could afford to live.

I went back into it 2/3 months ago when possible redundancies were announced at my work, and I realised benefits covered only around 2/3 of my basic outgoings. I am in my early 40s with two adult children who still rely on me. DS is in uni, and DD has just started an NMW job; both still live with me.

Deformed and ugly women usually have to manage without paying for men's bodies.

If your DH left all his assets to your DD, surely you don't need to financially support her?

People who are deformed in some way can still have relationships with women without resorting to going to prostitutes, and they do.

I do kiss clients. That is the part I like least, I don't like kissing in general, even in my private life. I think if I'd had different parents, I wouldn't have left home so young, I would have gone to uni earlier than I did and been able to build a better career, so yes, my life would have been different.

@Mapletree1985 I can be a bit lazy sometimes, so I don't always enjoy the thought of having to get showered, dressed, and leave the house after a day at work. I enjoy meeting new people.

@Bepo77 They chat first, but generally not for long, and they make the first move.

There are specific websites, and I don't need to be drunk. I was drunk last night/this morning because I'd been out with friends.

A lot of Dutch people DON'T like it being normalised in Amsterdam, remember. It's also worth noting the workers are often poor women from other countries, not Dutch women who usually have better options

Op, thank you for coming back. Can I ask, are you able to vet clients? And do you use protection? How do you ensure they don't hurt you?

On average, one woman is killed by an abusive partner or ex-partner every five days in England and Wales, which translates to about 1.4 women per week. This statistic highlights the ongoing issue of domestic violence in the UK.

Um, isn’t that itself a rhetorical question?

Do you/have you done drugs alongside the sex work?

Imo rape IS to do with sexual desire : warped into a twisted & misogynistic form.

It's definitely not done from sexual frustration though: loads of rapists have wives and girlfriends or are sexually successful.

So you think it's safer being a prostitue than being with your own husband?Your statistics are not related to or comparing the two also don't prove either way one is safer than another.

What has Jesus got to do with anything?

Do you ever enjoy it or do you feel revulsion?

Op, yes thanks for coming back to the thread, I hope you have a long, safe and happy life.

I pay tax on my earnings from my main/day job but no, I do not pay tax on my earnings from this. I'm not entitled to any benefits, so I don't know why I would need to tell the benefits office. Once my redundancy goes through I will be entitled to around £900 a month if I haven't found another day job by then.

I don't need to support DD or DS, they both inherited from DH, but I choose to because I want them to save their inheritance to buy a house once they leave home.

Why shouldn't Jesus be relevant? 🤣 Seriously though, I get a bit frustrated when I see people misunderstanding the 'cast the first stone' story,I wanted to correct.

I would...

And why is he preventing women from getting stoned? 🚬🤯

The prevalence of human trafficking in the Netherlands has been recognized both domestically and internationally.

In 2017, it was estimated by the Dutch National Rapporteur on Trafficking in Human Beings and Sexual Violence against Children that more than 6,000 people in the Netherlands fall victim to human trafficking each year.

Two thirds of the people trafficked, about 4,000 people per year, fall victim to sexual slavery and abuse.

In 2016, the mayor of Amsterdam admitted, for the first time, that the Dutch experiment to curb abuse by legalizing prostitution had failed miserably. Policeman in Amsterdam’s infamous red-light district were quoted by Dutch media as saying “We are in the midst of modern slavery.”

This

Sorry, what does the cigarette emoji mean?

Thank you!

The misconception that sexual assault is about sex is not only inaccurate but also harmful. It perpetuates victim-blaming, minimizes the trauma experienced by survivors, and obscures the true motivations of perpetrators. Sexual assault is, at its core, an act of violence intended to exert power and control over another person. It is about domination, intimidation, and the assertion of superiority.
When we frame sexual assault as being about sex, we inadvertently sexualize the act, suggesting that it is somehow related to desire or attraction. This is simply not the case. Perpetrators may use sexual acts as a means to achieve their goal of control, but the underlying motivation is not sexual gratification.
Consider the different forms that sexual assault can take. It can range from verbal harassment and unwanted touching to rape and sexual coercion. In all of these instances, the common thread is the abuse of power. The perpetrator is using their position of authority, physical strength, or social influence to violate the victim's boundaries and assert their dominance. This can occur between strangers, acquaintances, family members or even within intimate relationships. The dynamic of power imbalance is the critical factor.
This distinction is crucial for understanding the patterns of sexual assault. Perpetrators often target individuals they perceive as vulnerable or less powerful. They may prey on individuals who are younger, disabled, or in a subordinate position. Recognizing this power dynamic is essential for prevention efforts. It allows us to identify and address the factors that contribute to this imbalance, such as societal norms that perpetuate gender inequality or institutional structures that protect perpetrators.

This. Your children should suppprt themselves, you shouldn't have to sell sex for them.

In the absence of a spliff emoji it had to do 🤷‍♂️

I do miss the Olympic torch emoji, that looked exactly like a spliff.