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AMA

I’m a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist (CBT), ask me anything

103 replies

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 16:38

I’m a Cognitive Behavioural PsychoTherapist (CBT) AMA ?

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Manchestermummax3 · 15/03/2026 18:42

Why do you think CBT is widely used by the NHS, especially gps suggesting it & DBT is rarely spoken of?

I preface this with having spent years bouncing around the mental health/crisis teams (over 20 yrs). I finally was told about DBT & it truthfully saved my life!

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:43

LifeOfAShowgirl13 · 15/03/2026 17:45

Have you ever had a patient chuckle when you said CBT? I am a psychologist and have…I didn’t understand why and had to ask a friend to explain 🤣

No, but a lovely old consultant psychiatrist told me why he finds CBT funny 🤣 -

and it’s nothing to do with therapy !

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:46

MathsandStats · 15/03/2026 18:00

I'm wondering about this too. I have huge frustration that, in our local NHS at least, whatever your issue, the first "hoop" to jump through is 6 weeks of CBT.

I had to go through this whilst coping with a dire family situation where all the reframing in the world wasn't going to change it. If I mentioned this the CBT practitioner was clearly a bit stumped - and it felt as though they actually didn't care and were hired to read me a script.

Once I proved this "hoop" didn't work I got put on the waiting list for a counsellor, who was genuinely helpful.

But the point is it's left me with a really negative view of CBT and means that I refuse any CBT type interventions from my otherwise very good therapist. I've also heard a lot of negative things about CBT from others who have been through this NHS path. So I do wonder if you feel this NHS model is doing your specialism a real disservice?

Yes, well delivered CBT is about being the right modality for the appropriate difficulty and suitability to the person with the psychological difficulty

six session of CBT rarely is sufficient for a true psychological disorder
and there are varying levels of skill set within CBT

CBT shouldn’t be a hoop to jump through to access a more suitable intervention

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:48

SoSadSoSadSoSad · 15/03/2026 18:01

Does CBT help with trauma?

Yes - it can be very effective but also totally wrong approach -
depends on the trauma

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:49

Manchestermummax3 · 15/03/2026 18:42

Why do you think CBT is widely used by the NHS, especially gps suggesting it & DBT is rarely spoken of?

I preface this with having spent years bouncing around the mental health/crisis teams (over 20 yrs). I finally was told about DBT & it truthfully saved my life!

CBT is viewed as ‘easy to learn, easy to practice’
DBT seen as more of a specialism-
DBT highly effective for the right problem focus of course -
the training is much harder to access for DBT

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PuzzledObserver · 15/03/2026 18:50

Have you worked with clients with Binge Eating Disorder? If so, what proportion of them are significantly helped by the therapy? Do you do any follow up, e.g. 6-12 months later, to see of they are still binge free?

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:56

JustPleachy · 15/03/2026 18:12

I was surprised to find out that CBT practitioners don’t actually diagnose anything. Apparently it’s just “working with the client on areas where they would like to focus”.

Troubled teen was referred and had 30+ sessions, was told she was depressed, was strongly encouraged by therapist to change her whole life (e.g. drop out of uni), but when asked for any supporting evidence e.g. to give to the uni she was told the above. Is this normal?

CBT practitioners are not qualified to diagnose - that’s a medical (doctors) remit
however, a CBT practitioner should provide a written discharge letter stating what the psychological problem area was - e.g. low
mood that was presenting as Xxxx
causing xxxxx difficulties for the person etc that led to being unable to continue in education etc …

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:00

PuzzledObserver · 15/03/2026 18:50

Have you worked with clients with Binge Eating Disorder? If so, what proportion of them are significantly helped by the therapy? Do you do any follow up, e.g. 6-12 months later, to see of they are still binge free?

Yes, and it depends on the drivers of the binge eating -
it can be very effective, but not for all -
good services offer a follow up to monitor progress, but may can’t because wait lists are
long
have a look online for CBT randomised controlled trials for binge eating disorder- there have been a few -
CBT-E considered quite effective

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:03

pios · 15/03/2026 18:19

which issues won’t you take on as CBT might not be the best therapeutic approach for them?

Issues that related directly to someone’s personality disorder, as there are better more evidenced based therapies
complex trauma sometimes is better attended to by a psychodynamic approach,
attachment, interpersonal, relationships issues - better served with other modalities

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GloiredeDijon · 15/03/2026 19:03

autistickie · 15/03/2026 17:07

Do you practise adapted CBT for autistic clients? Myself and many other autistic people have struggled with CBT in the past but I've heard adapted techniques can be really helpful for a lot of people

Good point.

I have autism and have been given cbt three times as it is all the nhs offers.

They seem to love the measurability and relatively short timescale.

For me it is like them putting a plaster on a gaping, festering wound thus causing more problems than ever.

I ended the last lot and have told them (more politely) to shove it where the sun doesn’t shine because I am fed up with their bloody one size fits all approach.

I understand it may be helpful for more straightforward issues but it does bugger all in complex trauma and, as I now know, for people with autism.

I have both.

I have found cbt utter shite and if anyone ever asks me to score things out of ten again I will not be responsible for my actions.

Yes, I am a bit cross.

In modern parlance, even the term cbt “triggers” me.

maria127 · 15/03/2026 19:15

For general (but constant) anxiety, would CBT or Play therapy be more effective for a 10 year old?

PuzzledObserver · 15/03/2026 19:15

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:00

Yes, and it depends on the drivers of the binge eating -
it can be very effective, but not for all -
good services offer a follow up to monitor progress, but may can’t because wait lists are
long
have a look online for CBT randomised controlled trials for binge eating disorder- there have been a few -
CBT-E considered quite effective

Yeah, I’ve looked at CBT-E. The problem I perceive with it for binge eating disorder is the assumption that dietary restraint is the primary driver of binge eating. True for some binge eaters but not for all.

Subject is (or believes themselves to be) fat -> subject diets/restricts -> subject binges as a physiological response to under nutrition. In this model, then encouraging the subject to eat all foods in moderation rather than exclude certain food groups makes sense.

However if the binge eating came first, with weight as a consequence and then dieting behaviour later, then that model doesn’t work.

You said it depends on the reason for the binge eating. Do you believe it can be a consequence of addiction to specific foods? Sugar or UPF’s, for example?

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:18

LayersInTheRock · 15/03/2026 18:28

I have seen some studies showing CBT has limited positive effect for autistic people and actually, in many cases, causes harm. Do you have links to studies supporting your opposite view that you can share?

No, there are plenty of studies showing how people with neurodivergence’s don’t fare well with psychotherapy not just CBT -
but any experienced mental health professional including CBT have experienced some good outcomes when the person in front of them including the neurodivergence is taking into account and the therapy tailored

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CatchHimDerry · 15/03/2026 19:18

Does it work for phobias? Been recommended for emetophobia or more specifically sickness bugs and me catching them. Long waiting list though

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:21

cuberoot · 15/03/2026 18:20

I did this through the NHS for my postnatal anxiety back in 2018. I had a young graduate trainee as counsellor who had her supervisor watching remotely (which was already anxiety-inducing in itself). She suggested, based on this idea, that I should record my voice describing all the terrifying scenarios in my head and then listen to them multiple times a day to desensitise myself.
It didn't work as I got obsessed by my non-British accent while listening back and couldn't focus on the content.
So she told me to write them down and she would read them while I recorded on my phone.
It didn't work either and 1 year sessions were absolutely useless until I actually started medication.
Is it possible that with some personalities CBT simply doesn't work?

It is true that some people don’t suit psychotherapy including CBT

but before concluding that it doesn’t suit you, a trial with an experienced practitioner would be a good idea but I appreciate accessing an experienced CBT practitioner with specific skills in your presentation is the hard bit

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:23

CatchHimDerry · 15/03/2026 19:18

Does it work for phobias? Been recommended for emetophobia or more specifically sickness bugs and me catching them. Long waiting list though

Yes -
CBT is highly effective for many people wit phobia
emetephobia is one of the more challenging phobias, but very effective-

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Dymaxion · 15/03/2026 19:25

Do you ever use CBT in the area of palliative care/EOL care ? I have read a few books and articles which suggest it can be really useful in this area of healthcare, just wondered if you had any experience ?

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:37

maria127 · 15/03/2026 19:15

For general (but constant) anxiety, would CBT or Play therapy be more effective for a 10 year old?

No one should pretend to be able to answer that without assessing your child and their particular difficulties and what your child is like as a person - sorry

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:40

Dymaxion · 15/03/2026 19:25

Do you ever use CBT in the area of palliative care/EOL care ? I have read a few books and articles which suggest it can be really useful in this area of healthcare, just wondered if you had any experience ?

Sorry, not in my clinical experience -
CBT is an active, structured quite demanding therapy - it doesn’t make sense to me that it would be appropriate for someone under palliative care-

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Jamspeas · 15/03/2026 19:42

Can you suggest anything for someone who hasn't found CBT effective for anxiety mainly because they have untreated ADHD and a lot of thoughts?

Would it be better for the ADHD be treated with ADHD medication or the anxiety with anxiety medication?

youalright · 15/03/2026 19:43

Does cbt work on people with eupd my area doesn't offer dbt. Ive had no luck with cbt

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:45

PuzzledObserver · 15/03/2026 19:15

Yeah, I’ve looked at CBT-E. The problem I perceive with it for binge eating disorder is the assumption that dietary restraint is the primary driver of binge eating. True for some binge eaters but not for all.

Subject is (or believes themselves to be) fat -> subject diets/restricts -> subject binges as a physiological response to under nutrition. In this model, then encouraging the subject to eat all foods in moderation rather than exclude certain food groups makes sense.

However if the binge eating came first, with weight as a consequence and then dieting behaviour later, then that model doesn’t work.

You said it depends on the reason for the binge eating. Do you believe it can be a consequence of addiction to specific foods? Sugar or UPF’s, for example?

binge eating usually benefits from mechanical -
planned regular eating -

working on what appears to be maintaining the binge eating : emotion regulation, self esteem, environmental factors, interpersonal factors, craving for UPFs / sugars etc —
And working systematically through the triggers -
you are right of course, for many it is not control of shape and weight dietary restraint driven

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PurpleLovecats · 15/03/2026 19:45

I have personality disorder but no history of trauma. How could it help me?

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:49

PurpleLovecats · 15/03/2026 19:45

I have personality disorder but no history of trauma. How could it help me?

it would depend on how your PD affects you,
and what you focus for psychological therapy would be ?

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 19:52

youalright · 15/03/2026 19:43

Does cbt work on people with eupd my area doesn't offer dbt. Ive had no luck with cbt

CBT can help if someone has EUPD but that’s evolved to be relatively manageable and the person is looking for psychological therapy for a problem that CBT has a good evidence base for like panic disorder, social phobia, OCD etc

for EUPD - if DBT isn’t available, mentalisation tnerapy, dynamic interpersonal therapy, emotional regulation skills can be helpful -

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