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AMA

I’m a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist (CBT), ask me anything

103 replies

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 16:38

I’m a Cognitive Behavioural PsychoTherapist (CBT) AMA ?

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:51

autistickie · 15/03/2026 17:07

Do you practise adapted CBT for autistic clients? Myself and many other autistic people have struggled with CBT in the past but I've heard adapted techniques can be really helpful for a lot of people

Definitely
in my experience across mental heath services, the needs of people with neurodivergence’s have been not recognised and not met
in recent years, services are recognising that people with neurodivergence are more likely to require mental health services, and more likely to have poorer outcomes within mental health settings,

the responsibility of the therapist is to develop a shared understanding with the person of the psychological difficulties and tailor the CBT to the individual with adaptations for the impact of the ND - when this happens it can be very effective

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:54

Crazycat53 · 15/03/2026 17:26

Is it suitable for someone in the early stages of dementia?

Yes, it can be, if the person with dementia is experiencing a psychological problem that there is a CBT treatment protocol for - such as depression, panic disorder etc ..
it would require adaptations for the individual and would need the Individual ro still have ability to learn new information and retain it, or it would be the wrong approach

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:59

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 15/03/2026 17:30

Do you really think it appropriate that your chosen therapeutic mode is the only one “our” woefully inadequate NHS will pay for when many obviously need the deep approach of psychoanalytic psychotherapy rather than a series of fairly superficial cognitive coping methods?

Why did you choose to train in a tradition that thinks only the conscious mind is relevant?

I trained in CBT a few decades ago when mental health services were more multidisciplinary-
psychdynamic / cognitive analytical /
etc etc

it is not good that CBT has become the ‘little bit will help / fix most things” that the NHS has set up, in recent years

I work with disorders that will benefit from CBT -
there are psychological difficulties that I do not work with because CBT is not appropriate-

it is not good that access to good quality other modalities of psychotherapy are hard to access

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MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 15/03/2026 18:00

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:59

I trained in CBT a few decades ago when mental health services were more multidisciplinary-
psychdynamic / cognitive analytical /
etc etc

it is not good that CBT has become the ‘little bit will help / fix most things” that the NHS has set up, in recent years

I work with disorders that will benefit from CBT -
there are psychological difficulties that I do not work with because CBT is not appropriate-

it is not good that access to good quality other modalities of psychotherapy are hard to access

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

MathsandStats · 15/03/2026 18:00

nopalite · 15/03/2026 17:34

I’ve seen CBT described as therapeutic gaslighting and I think for some there is some truth in that. There often seems to be a sense that if the therapy isn’t working it’s because you haven’t tried hard enough instead of seeing that it might not be the right intervention.

Is there a frustration in CBT therapists that it’s treated like a low cost ‘catch all’ in adult services because alternatives are too long/expensive? I wonder if it devalues the benefits of CBT.

I'm wondering about this too. I have huge frustration that, in our local NHS at least, whatever your issue, the first "hoop" to jump through is 6 weeks of CBT.

I had to go through this whilst coping with a dire family situation where all the reframing in the world wasn't going to change it. If I mentioned this the CBT practitioner was clearly a bit stumped - and it felt as though they actually didn't care and were hired to read me a script.

Once I proved this "hoop" didn't work I got put on the waiting list for a counsellor, who was genuinely helpful.

But the point is it's left me with a really negative view of CBT and means that I refuse any CBT type interventions from my otherwise very good therapist. I've also heard a lot of negative things about CBT from others who have been through this NHS path. So I do wonder if you feel this NHS model is doing your specialism a real disservice?

SoSadSoSadSoSad · 15/03/2026 18:01

Does CBT help with trauma?

JustPleachy · 15/03/2026 18:12

I was surprised to find out that CBT practitioners don’t actually diagnose anything. Apparently it’s just “working with the client on areas where they would like to focus”.

Troubled teen was referred and had 30+ sessions, was told she was depressed, was strongly encouraged by therapist to change her whole life (e.g. drop out of uni), but when asked for any supporting evidence e.g. to give to the uni she was told the above. Is this normal?

pios · 15/03/2026 18:19

which issues won’t you take on as CBT might not be the best therapeutic approach for them?

cuberoot · 15/03/2026 18:20

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:36

No, because everyone experiences intrusive thoughts, but when intrusive thoughts are problematic- as in OCD, CBT can change the person’s relationship with the intrusive thoughts so they are not experienced as terrifying / dangerous / preoccupying etc … which will reduce the frequency and intensity of the intrusive thoughts

medication and CBT for some can be a good combination for working on intrusive thoughts if really severe

I did this through the NHS for my postnatal anxiety back in 2018. I had a young graduate trainee as counsellor who had her supervisor watching remotely (which was already anxiety-inducing in itself). She suggested, based on this idea, that I should record my voice describing all the terrifying scenarios in my head and then listen to them multiple times a day to desensitise myself.
It didn't work as I got obsessed by my non-British accent while listening back and couldn't focus on the content.
So she told me to write them down and she would read them while I recorded on my phone.
It didn't work either and 1 year sessions were absolutely useless until I actually started medication.
Is it possible that with some personalities CBT simply doesn't work?

pios · 15/03/2026 18:20

JustPleachy · 15/03/2026 18:12

I was surprised to find out that CBT practitioners don’t actually diagnose anything. Apparently it’s just “working with the client on areas where they would like to focus”.

Troubled teen was referred and had 30+ sessions, was told she was depressed, was strongly encouraged by therapist to change her whole life (e.g. drop out of uni), but when asked for any supporting evidence e.g. to give to the uni she was told the above. Is this normal?

a therapist should be happy to write a supporting letter/report for University if they’ve spent 30 session with a client. Did they refuse to?

Strawberriesandpears · 15/03/2026 18:21

Could CBT help me with constant and worrying thoughts about being alone in old age? My worry stems from the fact that I have no children and am an only child myself.

pios · 15/03/2026 18:23

cuberoot · 15/03/2026 18:20

I did this through the NHS for my postnatal anxiety back in 2018. I had a young graduate trainee as counsellor who had her supervisor watching remotely (which was already anxiety-inducing in itself). She suggested, based on this idea, that I should record my voice describing all the terrifying scenarios in my head and then listen to them multiple times a day to desensitise myself.
It didn't work as I got obsessed by my non-British accent while listening back and couldn't focus on the content.
So she told me to write them down and she would read them while I recorded on my phone.
It didn't work either and 1 year sessions were absolutely useless until I actually started medication.
Is it possible that with some personalities CBT simply doesn't work?

I suspect that CBT is a therapeutic approach which requires an extremely high level of readiness and willingness to change from the client at the beginning , which is unrealistic in many cases and definitely with children and young people.

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:23

nopalite · 15/03/2026 17:34

I’ve seen CBT described as therapeutic gaslighting and I think for some there is some truth in that. There often seems to be a sense that if the therapy isn’t working it’s because you haven’t tried hard enough instead of seeing that it might not be the right intervention.

Is there a frustration in CBT therapists that it’s treated like a low cost ‘catch all’ in adult services because alternatives are too long/expensive? I wonder if it devalues the benefits of CBT.

Yes - CBT : reframing your thoughts can look like gaslighting and the therapist has to make sure they are not gaslighting-
e.g. Person struggles with self critical thoughts - therapist says change that to I am good enough - person feels gaslighted -

therapist should dig into the specific thoughts/ meanings/ behaviours reinforcing the beliefs and hep the person to step back, look at the evidence and form their own reasoned response to the critical voice

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:24

nopalite · 15/03/2026 17:34

I’ve seen CBT described as therapeutic gaslighting and I think for some there is some truth in that. There often seems to be a sense that if the therapy isn’t working it’s because you haven’t tried hard enough instead of seeing that it might not be the right intervention.

Is there a frustration in CBT therapists that it’s treated like a low cost ‘catch all’ in adult services because alternatives are too long/expensive? I wonder if it devalues the benefits of CBT.

And yes to your 2nd question
CBT delivered on the cheap devalues CBT and people

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:27

WaitingForMojo · 15/03/2026 17:36

Do you think CBT encourages masking in autistic people?

Yes 👍 definitely-
the therapist should facilitate the person to develop an acceptance of their authentic self -
if that means they can’t achieve the things they want to do - such as go into a cinema, we can look at how they can manage their needs in space where there may be challenges and find a way to achieve their goals without masking -

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LayersInTheRock · 15/03/2026 18:28

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:41

Yes 👍
well, CBT won’t treat the autism, as that is a neurological condition,
but CBT can treat the psychological difficulties associated with ASD - such as anxiety / emotional regulation / social anxiety / low mood / disordered eating / avoidant behaviours etc

if is vital the the therapist is able to tailor the CBT to the individual, which is always the case, but needs more thought when working with an Individual with autism -

self esteem is often a big problem for those with ASD and the therapist should weave in attending to this throughout

I have seen some studies showing CBT has limited positive effect for autistic people and actually, in many cases, causes harm. Do you have links to studies supporting your opposite view that you can share?

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:29

toomuchgoingonhere · 15/03/2026 17:37

Is there a particular CBT or company, or something that can help with exam time? I want to suggest it for school. Some sort of Cbt training?

Not that I’m aware of sorry,
but the Mental Health in schools teams often employ CBT practitioners so the ones in your locality should advise

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Crazycat53 · 15/03/2026 18:30

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 17:54

Yes, it can be, if the person with dementia is experiencing a psychological problem that there is a CBT treatment protocol for - such as depression, panic disorder etc ..
it would require adaptations for the individual and would need the Individual ro still have ability to learn new information and retain it, or it would be the wrong approach

Thank you. That's very helpful.

LayersInTheRock · 15/03/2026 18:30

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:23

Yes - CBT : reframing your thoughts can look like gaslighting and the therapist has to make sure they are not gaslighting-
e.g. Person struggles with self critical thoughts - therapist says change that to I am good enough - person feels gaslighted -

therapist should dig into the specific thoughts/ meanings/ behaviours reinforcing the beliefs and hep the person to step back, look at the evidence and form their own reasoned response to the critical voice

But this presupposes that the problem is the person’s thought processes and within their control, when often if there is a biological cause of their difficulties or it is due to difficult life circumstances they may already be doing everything possible that could be expected to cope and CBT is effectively just blaming them for the situation.

TicklishNewt · 15/03/2026 18:32

Is it worth going private? I hear people have more success with it I assume because use sessions aren't limited as they are with the NHS?

redboxerclub · 15/03/2026 18:32

How would you sum up CBT in a few sentences?

what conditions/ issues /ilnesses does it work the best for?

I have a very vague notion of it and I could google it but would like your take on it as a practitioner

JustPleachy · 15/03/2026 18:35

pios · 15/03/2026 18:20

a therapist should be happy to write a supporting letter/report for University if they’ve spent 30 session with a client. Did they refuse to?

He told her he could write a letter to say how much she had improved, but the university said they needed an actual diagnosis to be able to make any adjustments.

Of course, part of this might have been (young adult) teen’s interpretation, hence my question.

There is no doubt that CBT definitely helped though, at least in the short term.

pios · 15/03/2026 18:38

JustPleachy · 15/03/2026 18:35

He told her he could write a letter to say how much she had improved, but the university said they needed an actual diagnosis to be able to make any adjustments.

Of course, part of this might have been (young adult) teen’s interpretation, hence my question.

There is no doubt that CBT definitely helped though, at least in the short term.

a therapist should look at reasonable adjustments with the client and write suggested reasonable suggestions in any letter or report. They can’t formally diagnose, that’s a job for a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist.

BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:39

Overrunwithlego · 15/03/2026 17:41

My daughter has had CBT and it really helped her. She is keen to consider something psychology related as a result. Do you have any advice on that? She is currently year 10 so looking at A Level choices next.

A psychology degree can be a gateway to many careers -
look at the various psychologist roles
PWP
MHWP

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BeaPerry · 15/03/2026 18:41

SherbertLemons · 15/03/2026 17:43

Is it true people with trauma should avoid CBT and opt for something like EDMr instead?

No, there are good evidence based treatment protocols for trauma with CBT
EMDR is also a good treatment for trauma
it depends on the person and the trauma
however there are other modalities of psychotherapy outside of CBT and EMDR that can help with trauma
trauma is a very broad area

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