Rich Housewife - AMA

[Iho]

Ask me anything.

Well, they will if your children also earn well.

What if one of them pursues a career as a bin man, there’ll be no £2m house for your future daughter in laws.

Unless you/your husband provides for them into adulthood?

I'm super boring. I online shop.

Do you not get bored OP? I mean mental stimulation? How do you substitute the growth and satisfaction which comes from developing your skills and enhancing your career?

Oh come on, this is all getting a bit desperate.
A non mortgaged 2M home absolutely puts you into the rich category.

An income of 180k puts you in the top 1% of the country, OP’s DH earns well over 3 times that.

Amusing to me that you think 'got a Belgian trade mission coming in next week' is any more interesting or worthwhile than talking about cleaning out a cupboard. Not all of us define our worth by our jobs, you know.

What have been the main benefits for your DC?

The usual things other women do in terms of housework, it's just on a larger scale. I go out and about, garden, visit family.

I'm not a gym goer, but I keep active enough around the house and garden. I don't see self care as part of a bargain. I do have botox, I'm currently having laser hair removal, I keep on top of my roots, I might look into other treatments later on if I feel like I'm getting craggy. These treatments are for myself more than anyone else.

I'm the higher earner in my marriage and much prefer it that way.

Did what make me feel better?

If someone says “I’m a dentist ama” if it turns out they’re not actually a dentist, what’s the point of the thread?

This one made me lol. I do have a large sunhat for gardening.

Or maybe they will want to be a SAHP.

Love an AMA, did you send your kids to private schools? If so, did you see it as money well spent?

I'd have a hard time getting away with it as he works from home 😉

Why the IoW ? Surely there are better places to have a second home ?

And how do you get there ? Do you have a Sunseeker ?

A good state school. We wanted kids that have an idea about the real word.

'the growth and satisfaction which comes from developing your skills and enhancing your career'

This puzzles me - do career-oriented people genuinely think this is something everyone feels? I am not rich by any stretch of the imagination and have worked since I was 17, in a variety of jobs, and have never felt any satisfaction nor enjoyed a feeling of personal growth from developing my skills and enhancing my career. I have constantly felt a sense of exhaustion, boredom, stress, desperation and deep desire not to have to do this shite any more.

That's not to say I don't want to contribute to the world - I volunteer, do some activism and am part of some groups, etc. Paid work ain't where everyone finds their joy.

Mostly savings. We do spend a lot on nice food. We tend to make occasional big purchases rather than just spending for the sake of it.

No.

If you like to sail it's the perfect place.
Just rich.

Good for you, love. Enjoy it and make sure you have money put aside for yourself in case you need it.

Yes all of the above. I think I would look a decade older than I do now if I couldn't have botox and had the stress of work.

£170k

@Iho

The usual things women do in terms of housework?

It’s 2026.

I'm really interested in whether you feel happy/a sense of purpose without work?

Not because there's anything wrong with not working - but mainly because the few times I've been off work on my maternity leaves I've felt so sad without the drive of my career. Both me and DH are high earning and I could actually afford not to work if I wanted, so I'm interested in what your "purpose" is each day! As that is what I've struggled with when I'm not working

None.