I'm paralysed from the waist down. AMA

[BlossomIsSoPretty]

Female, aged 64, paralysed from waist down following car crash when I was 9 years old.

AMA

Do you have to manage calorie intake/pay attention to calorie burning to manage weight, as your activity levels will be different from those who can walk?

Do you enjoy going to the cinema, theatre, live music gigs? I am assuming that it must need some planning ahead and despite the fact that places are meant to be fully accessible I guess that things are not nearly as good as they should be. If you are into music what bands do you like?

I’ve read all these comments and answers and I just wanted to thank you op for your openness and honesty. I think your life with your husband and your garden sounds peaceful and happy. All the best. 😊

I don’t really have any questions myself, just wanted to say thank you for a really interesting thread that I’ll continue to read, and I’m so sorry that you went through everything you did in the years following the accident x

Your username is nice, and I agree that they are indeed so pretty!

Thank you for this thread @BlossomIsSoPretty, I know this sounds cliched but I feel humbled.

You definitely come across as content OP.

Did you ever need any counselling when you were older to process what happened or had you already come to terms with it?

Thank you for this thread, OP. It’s good to hear discussion about disability that isn’t all negative.

I was going to ask this. I'm losing the ability to walk and I constantly dream of stairs and challenging terrain. Weird!

Did you have your colostomy from the accident or is that something they did afterwards? I care for a lot of paraplegic and quadriplegic patients and usually the have a bowel care routine over a colostomy.

What a wonderful job you have. May I ask how long it took you to learn sign language?

How did you meet your husband? Was it a long courtship or something you both knew everything was right fairly quickly? Had he had prior experience with disabilities or did you have to educate him in some ways?

I just want to say thank you for opening yourself up and sharing your life in this way.

This is one of the most interesting threads I've ever read on MN.

🌺💝

@BlossomIsSoPretty or @AndrogynousElf please may you link the other thread for me? I cant seem to find it.

@BlossomIsSoPretty I am so sorry for your losses.

If you meet someone new, do you prefer that they just act like they can't see that you are in wheelchair amd ignkre the chair, or do you prefer people to actively acknowledge that you are in a wheelchair?
In real life, do you mind people asking why you are in a wheelchair or prefer not to be asked unless you volunteer the information.

(I never know if I am offending a person by not acknowledging their wheelchair, or if I will ofend them more if I do acknowledge?)

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5309517-things-in-life-you-never-thought-you-would-recover-and-move-on-from-but-you-did?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

hope this link works

Do you believe in God?

I'm so sorry to read about what happened to your family. You sound quite extraordinary to not just get through that but to be so open and generous about your life with people here.

If you could change one thing related to society and disabilities, what would it be? Awareness, access, law, empathy etc?

No questions but I did just want to comment on the amazing attitude you have despite your circumstances. You seem to be living a happy and fulfilling and loving life and I’m so happy for you lovely x

I understand that, I have read about intense emotional feelings from the waist up which are very enjoyable.

Do you have any feeling in your lower body, legs and feet for example, even though you can't move them?

Do you have a well designed kitchen with adjustable work top heights, pull out cupboards etc? Any special design features that you would consider helpful/must have?

Nothing to ask here - just want to say:
What a great thread
OP - You sound incredible!
Wishing you lots of happiness x

What a wonderful strong woman you are.
Do you go out in your electric wheelchair alone for shopping?
I hope you enjoy lots of hugs from your husband.💐

Aside from being paralysed is your health good?
Would you like to go abroad? And if so do you think you will / won’t,