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I've got Oxbridge educated professional parents - from an affluent area - my partner was brought up on a council estate by parents on benefits AMA

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:01

This basically!! AMA!!!!

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Florissant · 20/02/2023 18:03

SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:01

This basically!! AMA!!!!

OK. I'll ask you anything. What are this week's winning lottery numbers?

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:04

Sorry no idea or I'd buy a ticket !!

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NotableSilences · 20/02/2023 18:05

This is quite a strange AMA -- are you expecting people to ask you to justify
'marrying down' in social class terms, or to explain how it happened? Or is the 'reveal' going to be that in fact you both met at Oxford? Proles do go there, you know. I did myself.

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holierthanthou73 · 20/02/2023 18:06

Is this a joke AMA

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:06

NotableSilences · 20/02/2023 18:05

This is quite a strange AMA -- are you expecting people to ask you to justify
'marrying down' in social class terms, or to explain how it happened? Or is the 'reveal' going to be that in fact you both met at Oxford? Proles do go there, you know. I did myself.

Lol I'd never make it to Oxbridge in a million years !!!! Although I've visited there an like it - my academics nowhere near good enough !

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Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 20/02/2023 18:07

Do people regard you as a bit strange in real life, or is it an online thing?

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:07

holierthanthou73 · 20/02/2023 18:06

Is this a joke AMA

No - not joke - thought people may ask if we faced any prejudice from families etc

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 20/02/2023 18:08

What do you and your partner do for a living now, OP?

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Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 20/02/2023 18:08

Are you parents more disappointed that you’re not as clever as them or in your choice of husband? Or are they - gasp - OK with it all?

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Hillrunning · 20/02/2023 18:09

Thanks for starting this thread OP. Do you think mumsnet should vet AMA posts before posting to apply some sensibility to the

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:09

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 20/02/2023 18:08

What do you and your partner do for a living now, OP?

I'm an admin assistant - he works as a salesman in a department store

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:10

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 20/02/2023 18:08

Are you parents more disappointed that you’re not as clever as them or in your choice of husband? Or are they - gasp - OK with it all?

My parents have died but no - they wouldn't approve if alive

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 20/02/2023 18:11

How did the two of you meet?

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:11

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 20/02/2023 18:11

How did the two of you meet?

In a group of friends from 6th form college

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Theorema · 20/02/2023 18:11

Do you feel comfortable with his friends and vice versa?

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Slimjimtobe · 20/02/2023 18:13

Does it affect your everyday life ?
do you think it would have made a difference marrying someone of a similar background

I married someone who has had the same level of education and religion as me so I kind of think it shapes how we are together (not much conflict we literally earn the same money)

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Slimjimtobe · 20/02/2023 18:14

Sorry for the loss of your parents

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YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 20/02/2023 18:14

Like millions and millions of other couples around the world 🤷🏻‍♀️

Look, I’m not pissing on your chips to encourage a nasty pile on but it is quite a normal state of affairs. My last boyfriend was a trust fund millionaire, one of a long line educated at Harrow and lived in Chelsea. I’m the product of divorce, mum received benefits (until she went to university / got the job she wanted) lived in a council house till I was 13 and went to State school (albeit Grammar, darling 😉).

Why do you think you are different? Not meant in an arsey way - genuinely interested in your position.

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:15

Theorema · 20/02/2023 18:11

Do you feel comfortable with his friends and vice versa?

Yes - I feel very comfortable with his friends - very jovial and outgoing. He also feels comfortable with mine - we both went to the same 6th form college situated in a very working class area - in the middle of two large council estates

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:15

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 20/02/2023 18:14

Like millions and millions of other couples around the world 🤷🏻‍♀️

Look, I’m not pissing on your chips to encourage a nasty pile on but it is quite a normal state of affairs. My last boyfriend was a trust fund millionaire, one of a long line educated at Harrow and lived in Chelsea. I’m the product of divorce, mum received benefits (until she went to university / got the job she wanted) lived in a council house till I was 13 and went to State school (albeit Grammar, darling 😉).

Why do you think you are different? Not meant in an arsey way - genuinely interested in your position.

No different from anyone in a similar situation

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HaggisBurger · 20/02/2023 18:16

Are you noticeably from
different backgrounds? To the extent that’s it’s apparent to people that don’t know you?

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:17

Slimjimtobe · 20/02/2023 18:13

Does it affect your everyday life ?
do you think it would have made a difference marrying someone of a similar background

I married someone who has had the same level of education and religion as me so I kind of think it shapes how we are together (not much conflict we literally earn the same money)

No. My parents forced a friendship on me with a girl with a similar background. I hated it and hated her for that matter !

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Showersugar · 20/02/2023 18:17

This isn't that unusual is it? I can think of multiple couples in my social circle alone who have married across classes. I myself was the plebby lower class partner in a past relationship (his parents were lovely to me - probably because I was 10 times brighter and more hard working than their son who had squandered his private education).

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SteepleJill · 20/02/2023 18:17

HaggisBurger · 20/02/2023 18:16

Are you noticeably from
different backgrounds? To the extent that’s it’s apparent to people that don’t know you?

I would say -no

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 20/02/2023 18:19

It's an AMA - if there's nothing you want to ask, scroll on by. Personally I find the less unusual AMAs are often more interesting than outlandish ones.

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