I had a breast reduction AMA

[Bigtitsbetty]

I had a breast reduction two weeks ago. I’ve gone from a 34GG/H to a 34D.

Crack on with any questions!

That is tough, I was worried with broaching with my H until I did.Think I worried he would query it and the money too,
In the end he said ' that seems a good idea as its not going to get any better ' and he, someone who finds appearance complex (!) - has been aWESOME since it.

I think you need to think about your own body and the risk being low. its a short operation with very low risk that will have such a good long term effect.

How about you say ' i hear what you are saying and i would like to invite you to come to the consultation' then he can raise this with the surgeon,
He sounds a teeny bit selfish and maybe saying this to the surgeon might expose this?

Thank you. He’s generally a hugely supportive partner, but I think struggles with the idea of me being ill or something going wrong. And I didn’t have the words ready to explain the impact that it could have on my life. (I had a risky delivery with my 2nd baby and it was quite scary for him I think.)

I need to lose some weight before it’s a viable option for me, but I’m so excited by the prospect that the rest of my life won’t be me deteriorating into frump… I love swimming but hate being seen in a swimming costume, I want to wear pyjamas without a bra, I want to just be able to bloody run without feeling self conscious, and look forward to summer clothes, not dread them.

I’ve planted the seed and will leave it for now. Focus on losing weight and use your suggestion to take him to a consultation. that’s a great idea, thank you. X

Pyjamas without a bra omg

I have to say I just told my DP, but then he’s not my children’s dad. He knows I hate them and is not keen on me doing it but fundamentally he will support me through it. I looked in to it a few years back with exDH and he was supportive too. I think when they understand the impact on your life they come around. Little seeds now and then and good luck

I meant the tape from the drains, the tape covering my sutures were fine!

I did have an advantage in that I worked in operating theatres for years so know that anaesthetic risks are really really low, and there’s usually underlying issues when things do go wrong. When you see 50 anaesthetics a day you get a bit blasé.

Obviously my husband would have preferred me not spend £8k and to not have less boobs to play with but he knew how unhappy I was. The tipping point was when I had both mine and my son’s graduation within a month of each other so I needed two appropriate outfits. I ordered thousands of pounds worth of dresses and sent most back because they wouldn’t fit on my bust or if they did, didn’t fit else where. I was devastated because it was so hard and summed up a lifetime of clothes buying. Whereas my sons and husband walked into the shop and bought new suits and were in and out in 30 minutes.

Ha ha!

@CafeNervosa just chatted about this with my h. Is your h risk averse? Like flying or car travel?

Those who are out the other side @Bigtitsbetty @Madagascary @ILoveMyBedTooMuch @anonymouse how did your boobs compare a few days post-op to a few weeks/months? I’m day 4 post-op now and they feel very “flattened” and wide, both seem very far apart with nothing in the middle. Wondering if that’s the dressings or if I’m going to have very smooshed, wide apart boobs now 🤔😬

Yes! I had one wide. Def. It didn’t last.

Definitely looked a bit flat to start with. It takes a good few months to settle properly. First they were wide, then they felt really high up.

Oh that’s a huge relief to hear! Thanks both 😊

Did anyone do anything special to prepare for surgery? I remember reading something in a glossy years ago about how best to prepare yourself but I can’t remember any of the tips!

Do you have a pre-op assessment booked? They will give you all the instructions you need to follow in terms of fasting, no booze for a few days, removing nail varnish, jewellery, etc.
Beside that, I prepped the house and family for me being out of action for a while. Batch cooked, changed beds, cleared the washing pile, arranged school pick ups, etc. And requested Netflix recommendations and downloaded a new book!

@user80 being following your questions - how are feeling generally?

Feeling okay thanks @Singletrackmind I’m quite sore on my right side, I think from accidentally rolling onto it while asleep 🙄 District nurse coming again in the next few days so will ask them to take a look, but it’s not bleeding or weeping so I’m sure it’s fine.
It’s hard taking it easy! I’m super impatient to heal up and get back to normal. I’m a terrible patient 😂

Yep, I had the wide and high boobs too. Can't remember how long they took to settle but they look completely normal now.

Amazing thanks @user80 , pre op is 3 July. Sorry to hear you’re a bit sore but good no weeping.

How are those in recovery coping with the warm temperatures? Sweaty and miserable or enjoying the garden?

@user80 ah that sounds good. Take it easy though & good advice from the ladies on the other side 👍 I am secretly looking forward to the down time ….!

My pre op is July 5th …

Pre-ops will be here before you know it then @Martinisarebetterdirty @Singletrackmind So excited for you 😬
Part of me is secretly enjoying the down time. The other part is already bored and itching to get back to full duty on seeing OH load the dishwasher and peg the washing wrong 😂 Any Netflix recommendations!? I’m a huge scandi noir fan…
The heat isn’t bothering me too much tbh - trying to strike a balance between not doing too much and not being too sedentary for blood clot reasons.

How long until you were able to wash your hair @Bigtitsbetty @Madagascary @anonymouse ?

Washed hair over the bath quite soon ? 3 days. Didn’t get what the big deal was.

So it's 30 degrees I'm pinned up in my big ole bras, getting hot and sweaty and just got both boobs squished in the mammogram plates. Honestly, if that isn't incentive enough ... 😫...