My son is a trans man AMA

[User444]

I have been interested in the AMA threads from trans people and thought it may be good to discuss from another perspective. I hope I won't be flamed for it. I have been a mumsnet member for many years since my now adult DC were much younger. I have name changed for this.

@grey12

Do he feel offended by things that are female? Like the idea of screening for breast cancer or other female afflictions? (He had a lot of surgeries so don't think he has periods or anything)

I ask because there is a huge erasing of gender everywhere like "menstruating person" or "breastfeeding person" and just think that it is all too much.

What is his opinion about this?

As you say he has had a lot of surgery so does not need smear tests or breast screening. He and I do talk about the cancelling of so many terms relating to women. He and I both agree that it is ridiculous. As mentioned in my last post I am a feminist and do not agree with the erasure of women. I believe in women's rights and support the LGB alliance in their stance on protecting the rights of LGB people. Just because I am the mother of a trans man does not mean I am a Trans-activist. I firmly believe the trans community are not acting in their own best interests in alienating women in the way they are doing. My DS agrees with me on this. Unfortunately my DD does not agree and in the interests of family harmony my DS and I do not discuss it with them.

If I do not answer questions immediately it is because I have stuff going on in my real life.

I apologise for being offline for several days and not answering posts on this thread. One of my family members is terminally I'll so I have been dealing with more practical concerns.

Please don't worry about not coming back whenever there is a new question. I am sorry to hear about your family member, and i hope their last days/weeks/months are comfortable and that it is not too much for you.

Thanks for the explanation, as an ardent feminist and not stereotypically female in my hobbies etc, it is a really really important point for me.

And yes, i was referring to the GRC. I am still making my mind up about it, on balance i think i prefer the previous way, which was rigorous (and sorry for people that had to go through hoops, but i do think it's better to be sure).