I got married aged 22 in 2018. AMA!

[Betchetybetch]

I think people sometimes find this a little bit surprising, so AMA!

@Newwayofthinking I’m sorry, I’m not sure what you want me to say.

Wow this place is hostile.

I got married at 22 and my DH was 21. We celebrate our 35th anniversary this year.

Why did you post this?
Are you usually insecure and needing attention?

Married at 21 and been married for 22 years, I don’t find it strange or have never met anyone who found it a surprise to be honest. We are not religious either it’s just when you meet the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with what does it matter if your 22? My friend was married the day after her 18th birthday and they are still happily married.

@Namechange8471 why do you feel the need to post such rude comments online? Is it for the attention? HTH hun

Sorry OP there is so much bitchiness on Mumsnet. It’s really just grim. Haven’t been on in ages and now remembering why.

@Sula92 I agree. I really can’t be bothered with it.

If you haven’t got anything constructive to say, just say nothing.

Ok, you don’t think my thread is interesting. Fine, move on. Don’t post stupid rubbish calling me an attention seeker. Says far more about you than it does about me.

@Namechange8471 who the hell pissed on your cornflakes this morning?

@betchetybetch

I agree that people can be bitchy on here, but bu the same token I can't help but feel that you've opened yourself up to it.

I honestly can't see why anyone would be particularly intrigued by you marrying in your early twenties, though I agree that it would be considered young by some.
I'm nearly 46 and have never been married (don't intend to either), but DP and I have been together for over 20 years and have two children. I suppose some people might consider that unusual, but I doubt it...

I was 19 married now for 41 years.
Hope you have a long and happy married life.

@whatsthatnow74 I have said repeatedly that it’s fine if you don’t find it interesting. No need to tell me. There are far more mundane threads on this board. Move on. No need to post telling me that it’s not interesting or that I’ve opened myself up to trolling and abuse.

DH was 22 when we got married (I was 25) and people are always surprised when they hear this so I don't think it is that rare for people to be surprised when people nowadays get married in their early 20s. In terms of our friends it was a pretty even split between getting married in early twenties and late twenties but that is because DH comes from an evangelical Christian background and his group of four childhood friends all got married within 12 months of each other. My friends have definitely been more late twenties.

@betchetybetch right you are! Not sure there are many more mundane threads tbf...

My mum was married at 18 and was pregnant with me at the time

I got married at 24 and had a baby at the time

Honestly, 22 isn’t that crazy

Got married at 19 🤷‍♀️ 19 years ago

No offense op but getting married young doesn't make you rebellious or interesting. I also got married young and wish I waited and focused more on myself. Tbh I think it is sad you didn't get the uni experience of living with friends. Being married young for a women usually just means you start taking the bullshit from a man early!

I think it's strange these days to get married at 22. When friends at 28 got married I thought that was young. Most people who are telling you off have been married for 20 years already so probably a different generation. Absolutely no need for the nastiness. They obviously enjoy making people feel small.

i have been called a teenage bride for getting married at 22.

Sometimes am quite relieved to be older, cos at 27, no one judges you for being married. Once when I was at a swimming pool a year ago, a lifeguard told me very sternly that I was not allowed to be unaccompanied by a parent as I looked like I was below 16. I had to tell him that I am a married woman (showed him my wedding ring). Also, when i was swimming, a child asked me what year I was in at school!

That data is the average for general marriage - so it includes remarriages.

First time marriage age (according to the same source) is 31.5 for women.

My son and DiL married at 23 and 22 respectively.
Both grads from 'top' unis.
What were your degrees in and are you using them? And have you had to make compromises careers wise? Usually grads establish careers then marry

I’ll play. I got married at 31 (20 years ago and still going strong). I had a really good time in my 20s (as did DH) and given a choice, I would rather my children married later too. So do you worry that as you move through your 20s, you’ll grow and change in different directions?

i got married at 23 in 2013, had been together 4 yrs at that point so, not a, rushed marriage by any means.

Well to beat you, I got married age 22 AND I was pregnant the marriage ended badly when I just turned 25.

I am a typical statistic. I am now 30 but age 28 had met a much better and more suited partner, who I plan to marry and have a baby with.

Its easier to save a deposit for property as a couple. Yes I know people who saved up while cohabitating but I don't really get cohabitating really.

You are exactly the same as a married person except its easier for him to leave without financial consequences. I wouldn't like to cohabitate, I think.

I got married at 17 in 2010, 10 years this year!! 🥂 😂😂