I'm an only child ask me anything

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Fire away...

I have an only. The only thing that bothers me about it is that after DH and I die our family will be gone and he'll be on his own, but I hope he'll have a partner by then. He does have cousins he is close to.

I have an only by choice
Ive been called selfish, mean, told im denying dp a DS
I know whats right for us though.

Whats your favorite childhood memory as an only? Ive actually been told dd wont have as many happy memories cos she dont have siblings lol

I find a lot of people, not all obviously, are not close to siblings and if anything have their lives made difficult because of it. Arguing over money or resentment caused by one taking on the lions share of parental care etc
Estranged from my brother at 15
My dp has 2 brothers, we only speak to 1 of them

@OctopusNow
I am in the exact same boat as you. Have a wonderful DS who's 5. Been trying for 3 years, had treatments and nothing works.
We are generally happy and don't think about this. We enjoy life to the fullest. It's only when those mean, inconsiderate people come along and say Ahhh poor little one, he'll grow lonely, you should at least adopt... it just hurts.
It's tough. But it's nice to see we're not the only ones.
Stay strong x

I'm always surprised on these threads when people comment that they have more than one child so they can share the burden of elderly parents when the time comes . Huge assumptions that both children will grow up with the same moral compass, be solvent, agree/like each other and/or their parents or live in the same country.
I have just supported a friend through the death of their parent where quite frankly it would have been better if she was an only child as her sibling was awful.

Thanks @Dnapolymerase, you too.

I can assure you I was NEVER lonely as an only child. I wasn't "alone" there were three of us me, Mum and Dad. I had lots of little school friends, some of whom would come to my house or I would go to theirs, I had other relatives and neighbours to play with. But then I could come home and just play with my toys or watch cartoons and not squabble or fight with anyone. It was great! Sometimes my Dad would let me stay up a bit later and I'd watch TV with them. My favourite memories are definitely CHRISTMAS. The whole build up to it and the day itself, my Dad waking me up in the dark and whispering that Santa had been, then running into the front room to a huge pile of presents that I know they'd scrimped and saved for all year for just for me. I know not every only child was blessed to have such a happy childhood but for those of you on here worried about having only one... don't! As long as you drench your little boy or girl with love that's the only thing that matters.

I know it's not my place to judge others but I'll be honest I can't help wondering about the Radford kids and how on earth they would get any quality time or peace whatsoever. They know no different of course just like I don't but I'm sure I would have absolutely been driven mad by it.

As an adult if I ever feel bored or low I do try and find a way to entertain or occupy myself rather than rely on or need others straight away. I believe that's because I used my imagination so much as a little girl. It's a healthy life skill to have.

Also having a second just to share equal responsibility when your parents get older? I can't think of one family that has worked out well for...

I'm extremely introverted and need a lot of quiet time alone and I do think that's because my happy and stable childhood was like that.

It doesn't work like this. I'm very much an introvert and am one of four extremely noisy siblings. DD is less of an introvert than me and an only child.

No questions but just to say I'm happy you had two nice parents and close extended family. That counts for a lot.