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I used to be a prostitute AMA
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:23
Name changed for this obviously. AMA
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:27
That's a tricky one. I would have said it was my choice at the time but I was 17 when I entered, was from a v middle class family but I didn't live with them (out of choice). It wasn't technically a necessity as my family hadn't thrown me out but I couldn't bear to be there as they were abusive.
LemonAddict · 10/08/2019 21:27
How much did you earn on average? Disk you work independently or did you have a boss/pimp?
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:29
TRIGGER WARNING
I stopped because a customer tried to kill me, or at least I think that's what he was going to do (he strangled me until I passed out). And it had all got too depressing by that point anyway
Time40 · 10/08/2019 21:29
How long were you working as a prostitute? Did you work from your own home?
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:31
I didn't earn a lot. 120-200 an hour but bookings were sporadic and I also spent a hell of a lot. And 30%went to the website that hosted me (adult work), I was very naive at the time and thought that was just an admin fee but I realise now it was going straight into the pocket of a pimp.
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:34
I did it for about 4 years on and off with stripping/lap dancing in the off times. Never worked from my home, I worked for an online agency which would send me to mens homes and hotels. I also breifly worked for a 'hostess club' (code for fancy smanchy brothel) and would occasionally get customers from the lap dancing clubs I worked in (men would always ask for extras)
Earlywalker · 10/08/2019 21:34
Oh god OP that’s awful! I hope you got justice.
Did you ever do street work?
What do you think the best way is to help women in prostitution? (Sorry if that’s patronising, I mean to avoid them being in a near death situation like yours)
Dandelion1993 · 10/08/2019 21:34
Was it just old men or were there some real, good looking blokes.
MrsLoganEcholls · 10/08/2019 21:35
What would you say to the people that say prostitution is empowering?
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:35
Thanks Timeout! My main motivation for doing his post was a conversation with a friend today where she mentioned that, in public/the culture, we rarely hear from women who have exited prostitution, only from those still in it and their supporters
Leafyhouse · 10/08/2019 21:36
Was there anything at all that you enjoyed / didn't mind about the job, looking back? Or was it all just total shit, and you'd say avoid-avoid-avoid?
Time40 · 10/08/2019 21:36
At the time, did you hate doing it? Looking back on it now, do you think it damaged you psychologically?
ReeReeR · 10/08/2019 21:39
What was it like to sleep with someone for money? Do you ever enjoy it? Does it feel disgusting? We’re the men clean??
HollowTalk · 10/08/2019 21:41
Are you in favour of state registered brothels? The idea of women going into men's homes is terrifying.
PurpleDaisies · 10/08/2019 21:43
Have you/would you tell a serious relationship partner?
SomeAfternoonDelight · 10/08/2019 21:43
Do you regret it OP? What’s your relationship like with sex?
Summerfalls · 10/08/2019 21:43
Oh gosh! How awful for you OP! That must have been very scary, did you report him to the police?
AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:44
Occasionally there would be a young good looking bloke. Mostly old or middle aged men.
@MrsLoganEcholls I would say it is empowering for the men who get to pay for sex without consequence!
I never did street work, i have a lot of privilege (class and i am white) and have observed that women like me tend to end up hidden away in the up market brothels and online agencies. I couldn't say which is worse or safer, both are inherently grim and dangerous. But I think street prostitutes find it harder to exit as they often have drug and alcohol issues and are homeless and dont have privilege to fall back on (I'm over generalising)
I think the answer to the question of how to help women is v complex and difficult. It depends a lot on what other issues they have (e.g. drugs, alcohol, homelessness, in my case mental health and child sex abuse trauma which lead me into it) I think we should be more aware that child sex abuse makes women very vulnerable to entering prostitution
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