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I used to be a prostitute AMA

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AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 21:23

Name changed for this obviously. AMA

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Hellbentwellwent · 10/08/2019 22:22

Op, when you left was there any support service for you to access? Counselling? If so was it easy to find and access?

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Nothingcomesforfree · 10/08/2019 22:25

How do you see sex now?Can you could enjoy it differently or do you think it will always seem a bit like work (because sometimes it is when one of you is more up for it).

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Bettyboopityboop · 10/08/2019 22:26

Wow OP Flowers

Were you ever scared of any of these men becoming obsessed with you? Did you ever get any stalker types?

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chilling19 · 10/08/2019 22:29

Glad you are out. ❤️

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Time40 · 10/08/2019 22:29

Oh dear, OP. You've had a hard time of it. I hope you continue to heal, and I hope that one day, you can have a happy relationship with someone (if that's what you want, of course).

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SuzieQ10 · 10/08/2019 22:29

So sorry that you went through these things. How these men live with themselves fantasising about raping their / a child I'll never know. Hope they are exposed for what they are one day and or burn in hell.
Thanks for an interesting, thought provoking thread OP. Wishing you the very best future.

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bebeboeuf · 10/08/2019 22:30

Assuming you are currently employed do you now find your job boring in comparison and is that some relief?

If there was a 17 year old out there now thinking about becoming a prostitution ina similar way and happened to come online to here what would you say to her?

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AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 22:30

I was still in college during prostitution. Did my a levels a alongside it. When I exited I went to university, didnt have to explain any gaps in CV as I just passed them off as traveling/extend gap year. Stayed at uni during all the mental health issues (althoughnit was tough) and now work in academic publishing. It was (and still is) v hard to find support, I had 10 months free counselling at my local rape crisis centre a few years ago but since then have been scraping together the money for private therapy when I can!

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Nothingcomesforfree · 10/08/2019 22:30

Also...did you ever think one of the men would “ save you” as in a Pretty Woman? That one of the men would be better than just a shag.

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PancakeAndKeith · 10/08/2019 22:34

Sometimes I hear that some prostitutes ‘actually like doing it’.
I call horseshit and this is just women telling men what they want to hear.
What is your opinion?

How did you get work?

Did you meet many other women?

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AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 22:35

I love my current job! I don't find it boring but I do feel like a bit of an imposter, like all my colleagues think I'm normal and I understandably have to hide this from them. It stops me feeling like anyone really knows me so its v hard to feel.close to people.

Romantic relationships are the biggest struggle (more than colleagues and friends). I desperately want a relationships but I struggle so much when I try to have one. I've recently been seeing someone I really care about but push him away alot, find it hard to trust that he cares about me, fly of the handle a lot, basically try and self sabotage. It's making me very sad, it's so frustrating Sad

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whoseafraidofnaomiwolf · 10/08/2019 22:35

No questions from me, just came on to say 'Thankyou' for being brave and honest - I've learned a lot just from reading this thread. Flowers

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freakshowdown · 10/08/2019 22:36

Bless you OP, going through all that while taking your A levels. You are very strong - I wish you so much luck and happiness for the future.

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SomeAfternoonDelight · 10/08/2019 22:36

@PancakeAndKeith I was in Amsterdam and they do a red light tour and I overheard the guy saying that all the girls do it because they LOVE sex!!! They’ve still got masses of pimps there!

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ifeelgreat · 10/08/2019 22:36

I can't imagine what you've been through, and I truly hope you get through the other end and able to lead a normal life.

Were you allowed to say no to certain things? What protection did you have going into these men's home?

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ScrimshawTheSecond · 10/08/2019 22:36

OP, you are brave and strong. Just wanted to offer some support. It sounds like you've had a hell of a time, I hope you are able to heal from it. Flowers

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whymewhynow · 10/08/2019 22:38

I'm appalled by what you've been through but in utter awe of your grit to get through it. A couple of questions: how did entering prostitution at such a young age come up? Was it the only viable way to make enough money to set up home away from your family? Were other prostitutes' motives for entering the industry similar to yours or was it something that they drifted into when they couldn't make enough lap-dancing/webcam work etc?

I really hope that you're able to resolve some of the mental health problems that you are experiencing and find peace - you sound lovely and don't in any deserve the shit that you've been through.

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AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 22:40

I did meet a lot of other women and had some great friendships, all of then were very troubled though (2 of my friends from that time have since killed themselves)

It's a tricky question of whether the women enjoy it. I enjoyed feeling powerful and desired and attractive, and that was intoxicating as I had such low self esteem...so I can see now that that's a toxic kind of enjoyment as I had very little real power and it made me feel like being pretty was the only good thing about me

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AGenericUsername · 10/08/2019 22:41

No questions from me. I just wanted to say thank you OP for your thread. You are incredibly brave. I'm so sorry to hear about the abuse you suffered and I hope you manage to get the help that you need. I hope you will know what a wonderful, brave lady your are.

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AMAnamechange28 · 10/08/2019 22:43

I was desperate to move out of my parents house and an older acquaintance of mine (female) suggest we try to get jobs at the local lap dancing club. I made a lot of money my first night there, within a month or so I was having sex with customers for money and then quickly progressed to agency work

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matahairyy · 10/08/2019 22:44

I’d be better at sex than doing sexy dancing

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NineteenThirtyOne · 10/08/2019 22:45

An interesting thread OP.

How did you feel during sex with your clients? Did you enjoy it or did you simply just have to get through it? If that makes sense!

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NineteenThirtyOne · 10/08/2019 22:46

Also, did your family know about it? If so, what did they say?

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timshelthechoice · 10/08/2019 22:46

You poor thing! These types of people just prey on others. Nothing 'pretty' about it.

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Jellybeansincognito · 10/08/2019 22:49

Big hugs OP, it’s obviously a really difficult time for you to think about but you’re still answering questions which i think is amazing!

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