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I'm 20 with an older boyfriend AMA

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bathtimesanity · 26/12/2018 22:04

I'm currently debating the topic of being in a relationship with an older man on another thread and got a lot of questions there, some criticism and cynical views too- so thought I'd do an AMA to give some honest answers and my view on older/younger relationships!

Promise to answer honestly! :)

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bathtimesanity · 27/12/2018 13:25

@Racecardriver ah that's so funny! SnapXmas Grin thanks, I guess it's just being 20, everyone thinks I'm a baby still!Xmas Wink

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bathtimesanity · 27/12/2018 13:28

@FannyAndMoonFace I mean enough people asked questions so I guess it was somewhat interesting? I've just had a lot of people in my life asking about it/having negative views so I thought I'd do an AMA just to share my experience. You don't actually have to read it.Hmm

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reetgood · 27/12/2018 13:32

I had a similar age gap and was similar age when we started dating. Sorry I just have some totally unsolicited advice which is don’t have babies (especially with an older partner) until you’re in your late twenties. I was with my ex for 4 years. By the time I graduated I was in a position to appreciate that he wasnt growing with me.

anothersuprise · 27/12/2018 13:42

My husband is 20 years older than me (31 & 51) and we have a great marriage. I was 24 when we started dating. My eldest step son is 29, my dad is 56 and my stepmum is 40. We have an interesting family but it works!! As long as you're happy age is a non issue.
I guess wanting kids and age can complicate things, j never wanted children so it's not been an issue for us I love my 3 stepchildren very much

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bathtimesanity · 27/12/2018 14:48

@reetgood thanks for the advice :) like I said, not planning on thinking about TTC until I've graduated in 4years.

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IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 27/12/2018 15:39

racecar not a feminist, then?

Slat3 · 04/01/2019 21:44

I’m 25 and my ‘D’P is 20 years older than me. We’ve been together 6 years and have 2 DC.
Don’t do it.
He disgusts me - I find it outrageous how he ‘groomed me’ (I’ll use the term loosely) but as a young & extremely naive teenager a grown man is only looking for one thing - control.
I am not that girl anymore & he struggles. I am a woman who does feel embarrassed & I’m in too deep to rectify things. I ‘proved them wrong though’ Hmm ... stubborn cow.
Can’t wait to leave Flowers

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