My OH earns millions AMA

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Just that really. I'm a SAHM. He's earned over a million pounds for the last few years. 7 last year probs not as much this year. Presume I will get a lot of abuse but do think that there are a lot of misconceptions as to.how much money it really is after tax and what sort of person you are so....

Do you always feel at ease, like you belong where you are, or do you ever feel a bit awkward or under pressure, e.g. having to socialise with posh people (as my dad would say) or appreciate fine wines, or hang about coolly in marbled hotel lobbies (if you do any such thing!)?

Do you still spend Christmas etc with wider family? Any friction due to spend levels?

I don't get why there's this recent rash of AMA in AIBU. It's really not interesting and this one is the worst so far. SAHM with rich oh. Why on earth would we want to ask you anything? Have you done something worth discussing? And even if you have, it should probably be in Chat.

I don't like my peer group. I don't conform to the nice wife that's a lovely handbag stereotype. But I'm comfortable in ££ restaurants.

I am not trying to hijack your thread OP but my DH is a very high earner too (not millions but at least £500K PA). I recently told him that one of the very best things about him earning that amount of money was that i was able to shop in the M&S Foodhall and buy anything i wanted without worrying about it! That is how glitzy my life is!

What do you think/do when you see homeless people living rough? (People who are exactly the same as you except they didn't have the hefty dose of good fortune you have had).

pinkdelight - to be fair to OP, this is in the AMA section.

And it’s not wildly different in scope from the footballers wife one either, although there is obviously a hierarchy of wealth people find palatable and footballers are pretty high up and hedge fund managers pretty near the bottom!

oh describe your house pls?

How do you ensure your kids stay grounded, mix with all types of people in society and don't become spoilt?

Why don't you give much to charity?

We earn five figures between us, two kids, tiny flat, and we give loads. Sending two kids in Africa to school. Why don't you give more?

How are your kids affected by being rich? Do they only have rich friends? Do you worry they take money for granted?

What do you do for yourself if you don’t work? How do you occupy your mind? Do you do voluntary work?

Does it make your relationship with the rest of your family difficult, if they're struggling to pay bills etc. I always remember reading about a large lottery winner who refused to treat anyone. He said he lost all his family and friends because they couldn't keep up with his lifestyle.

How do you children view money? Have you taught them the value of every pound and to appreciate it all?

@pinkdelight - this is in the Ask Me Anything section, the perfect place for it.

Do you privately educate your children? Do you worry about spoiling them?

@pinkdelight obviously lots of people don't share your view or we wouldn't be asking questions..
this post is in the 'ask me anything' section which is exactly what OP is posting for.

I'm with @GorgonLondon. I'm a high net worth person. Have two homes, high earnings and I'm not going to say more. We came from nothing...,working class parents and comp educations.
We've always even in bad years given a lot to charity. We pick different charities each year: this year Shelter and Rohinja Muslims in Bangladesh. It makes us happy to do this.
Tell me you do something OP. Otherwise I've no time for you.

I'm out and about. So slower response. Yes to private education. No to spoiling. Think spoiling is s behaviour more than a financial amount.

Are you my younger sister J? I ask because you have the same income and you go on holiday to the same places, and, as you say, you haven't provided any family handouts - I did enjoy your photos of Laos/Vietnam though!

Whether we're related or not, I do have a question. Do you think that money has affected your relationships with wider family, particularly with those substantially poorer than you?

What is your house like? Do you own more than one house?

How do you invest your savings?

How do you feel your relationship with your sister has been affected Susanmartha.

We are nowhere near OP's bracket, but we have had successful careers - both always working extremely hard. There is a lot of nastiness from DH's sisters, that seems to basically come from jealousy. Although, funnily enough, we're the ones they come to for help when they need it!

How do you define giving a lot to charity though? We are comfortable. Give £700 a year (12x£50 plus £100 at Christmas). To be honest it's not a huge percentage of our income though.

What percentage do you give OP?

OP I'd rather hear from someone modest like you who says they don't give/do much for charity, than any number of people wagging their finger at you because they are so virtuous.

That's a fascinating bit of mental gymnastics Deck whereby you've managed to turn being a multimillionaire who doesn't give to charity into a model of virtue and modesty.

Don't think my teens view money diff. To any others.