My OH earns millions AMA

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Just that really. I'm a SAHM. He's earned over a million pounds for the last few years. 7 last year probs not as much this year. Presume I will get a lot of abuse but do think that there are a lot of misconceptions as to.how much money it really is after tax and what sort of person you are so....

Elizabeth’s account is incredibly subjective and seeing as though she was the one ‘debating’ with RMM for most of the thread, this isn’t surprising.

RMM’s posts can not in any way be described as ‘very abusive’. Erratic, yes. Difficult to follow? Certainly. But not abusive. A few posters decided to diagnose her with mental illnesses and learning difficulties which she took offence to. Her upset was aimed at strangers labelling her with various illnesses, not at the idea of having the illnesses.

The ‘dead babies’ thing stemmed from one poster randomly attempting to guess and reveal RMM’s story. It went something along the line of ‘because OP has refused to talk about DC, it’s not difficult to surmise that they’re no longer with us.’ That sort of thing. The same poster then went on to guess that RMM had cancer in the past. This post in particular was the weirdest of the lot to me.

I believe it was pulled because of how grim some posts were, not including RMM’s, and the fact that from page 3ish, it was largely made up of RMM responding to posts questioning her mental stability and authenticity as opposed to what was supposed to be an AMA about something entirely different. (Although admittedly I thought it was an AMA about being a female working on the stock exchange and earning millions but OP said it was about kindness and charity, so I guess I missed the boat there).

Who is RMM ?

I'm with you Wordle

OP, you say that you don't work and you don't give much to charity. No mentioned of any volunteering or special hobbies etc. You obviously have great holidays and time to walk the dogs/go to the gym etc. That all sounds lovely, but a little empty. I was just wondering if you feel that your life lacks a sense of purpose at all? Or if not, where do you get your own personal fulfilment other than from raising your kids?

My dh earns not far off and I also don't have a paid job, just part time voluntary. Second marriage and we both have kids, none together. He gives a hefty chunk to charity mostly through fundraisers which he organises.

He has an excessively generous personality which is taken full advantage of by his siblings who have a full blown sense of entitlement when it comes to dh. Winning the lottery would actually become a living nightmare because none of them would be satisfied however much we gave them.

I very much feel people assume I married dh for money, even though they have to rationalise the fact I met him and married him when he had none.

I think the worry of losing is that money buys ls options until you have enough it when buys power. And humans dont like the idea of it being taken away or living the rest of their lives without those options if they retire too early.

OP, you say that you don't work and you don't give much to charity. No mentioned of any volunteering or special hobbies etc. You obviously have great holidays and time to walk the dogs/go to the gym etc. That all sounds lovely, but a little empty

Yes I’d be interested to know if you feel a bit rubbish about your lack of purpose in life.

It’s more like being someone’s pet cat than living a human life.

Serbska do you think the op would be happier in a job she hated but needed financially, more fulfilled? Obviously if one has a job/career one loves, that’s the ideal.
Who’s to say what the ideal is though? Perhaps she’s content with travelling, walking the dogs and going to the gym. Or should she get a job just to prove she’s no one’s pet cat?

OP, you say that you don't work and you don't give much to charity. No mentioned of any volunteering or special hobbies etc. You obviously have great holidays and time to walk the dogs/go to the gym etc. That all sounds lovely, but a little empty

I don't work and have school aged children and don't have an empty life. (although it's comparably more empty than a woman whose husband earns ££££)

Serbska do you think the op would be happier in a job she hated but needed financially, more fulfilled?

It’s not the lack of job that bother me. It’s the lack of, well, anything.

Heaven knows I could be very content if I didn’t work, I’d have lots of time to spend on other pursuits.

Maybe the Op just feels content very easily, but you’d think you’d need something to occupy your brain and focus. Some kind of hobby or passion or cause. Something to talk about other than what you did today (yoga and lunch and holiday planning - on repeat).

OP there's one thing I don't understand....
You talk about your DH being really afraid of losing it all. How on earth would that happen? You say you save a lot, you are bound to invest in ISAs up to the maximum every year (all tax free), I would imagine you have a portfolio of investments totalling a minimum of £5M.

How could you lose it all? You could live in a house say worth £800,000 and even paying bills, insurance,having holidays, general living, you will always be very rich and comfortable. I'm just confused about the 'frightened of losing it all' bit.

I don’t understand all the vitriol aimed at the OP saying how infilled and boring her life must be and she needs a job. If her DH was earning just 30k a year and they decided she was going to be a SAHM, no one would tell her her life was unfulfilled!

Mountainsided very good point. I don’t think the vitriol is hard to understand though

Op another hedge fund manager’s wife here! Agree and understand all you’ve said