I am a 26 year old Mother of 2 and I have never had a job AMA

[Procrastinate92]

Anybody have a question?

How do you fund yourself and your children?

My partner has a full time job, minimum wage but we get by, just about

Are you worried about how you’ll support yourself when the children are grown up?

Why have you never had a job?

Do you plan on working at any point?

Do you ever regret not pursuing a line of work that interests you? Are you planning to go to work when the children are older?

Or if something happens to your partner or if he leaves you? If you're not married then you won't be entitled to anything except the bare minimum from him.

What would be your ideal job (other than bringing up your DC)?

Did you never even have a Saturday or babysitting job as a teenager?

We don't claim any benefits, my partner solely supports us.
Iv never had a job because I fell pregnant in my final year of college, so no qualifications, full time childcare for 1 child and part time for another would be all my wages gone.
Yes I do plan on working once my dd starts school.
I have been with my partner 10 years, hoping he dosent go anywhere anytime soon
I would love to go back to college to study midwifery, not possible at the minute

As a 13 and 14 year old I had a Saturday job

Surely you are entitled to some benefits if your DH is only on MW?

Yes entitled to €20 a week. He has never claimed anything so dosent want to for the sake of €20

£20 a week is £80 a month and would help you. What about child benefit?

How much does you partner earn which he doesn't pay tax for. £20 a week is a lot of money to reject if you don't have much.

We live in Ireland. So it works differently here

Yes I get €280 a month on child benefit which everyone is entitled to

Depressing.

Please claim what you're entitled to, even if you simply save it for emergencies or for your kids.

I mean this politely but with one min wage earner supporting four people, you're pretty much living in poverty or on the breadline. With children to support, claim what you need to.

A family with 2 children in Ireland where the only income is a minimum wage at 40 hours per week would be entitled to about €144 per week in Working Family Payment or FIS. Why do you not get this?
Do you live in rented accommodation?

Do you find people are negative because you’re a young SAHM? (Happens in my area 😢)
I’m just being nosey but what did you study at college?
Are you children at school yet?
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Not a question OP but my sister had the first of her three children at 19 and didn’t have a job until she was I her late 30s. She loves working now and has been to college to get her level 2 and 3 qualifications.
You’re still so young and you have time to change if you ever decide you want to work in future.

Having life experience and your own children makes such a difference being a midwife. When the time is right for you and your family to study I’m sure you will love it.

Can i ask how old your children are? If 2 to 3 do you not get 30 hours free child care?