Celebrity Nanny here

[AnotherCareerThread]

Noticed the trend of career threads recently so thought I'd join in, always get loads of questions when my job comes up on here.

I'm a Nanny/Governess specialising in High Net Worth/ViP families - happy to answer any questions

If this is real, then do you not think its wrong to start this sort of thread ? Do you not think its shows a lack of loyalty/discretion which is needed ? And you said you wanted to share private details on this thread but couldn't, is your personality really suited to the job ?

Do you find some mothers are jealous of your relationship with the children?

Don’t you worry about missing out on other things. I think your job sounds amazing but it also seems like it might be isolating and a bit lonely.

OP is not sharing any details that can be identifying to employers or children. She is very clear about not discussing the RF presumably due to non disclosure agreement. She is talking generally about her experience.

sara I think that too. Id have a live in housekeeper and a nanny to do childcare if I wanted or needed to work but to basically outsource every aspect of your childrens life to a nanny and never even play with them or change a nappy or feed them?You only have to look at Prince Charles to see how that works out!

cherrytrees123

But she said she would like to share, which just screams gossip.

If it's all so great why would staff not want to stay? it's rarely great. Great pay. Great perks. But ruthless hours, high/impossible expectations and no life. Plus families regularly change their minds, I've been made redundant because "I'm not French"

OP has been completely discrete as far as I can tell!

If I'd worked for a member of the RF, you can bet I'd want to share! But if I'd signed an agreement not to, then I wouldn't. Don't fancy being sent to the Tower.

And fascinating

What is it about the good parents that you appreciate?

Respect. Not being micro managed. An understanding that I'm not a robot and can't do endless overtime.
Parents who treat their kids how they expect the nannies to.

Do the parents allow you to discipline the children?
If you had a different view on discipline, how would you deal with it?

What's the average length of time you spend with a family? It must be unsettling for the children if their nanny/governess constantly change.

Why do nannies not stay in a job very long?

Do the parents get arsey if the kids get messy? yes!!! A surprising number of parents who claim to be OCD about cleanliness

Have you done controlled crying with babies under 6 months?
Yes

Do you find it hard to work for people who are uninterested in their children, but who put on a show for the public?
Yes but that's part of the job and we always try and give the best level of care, love and stability we can. I'm only ever interested in the kids, I don't care what the parents jobs are, so focus all my attention on them. I can't change the parents attitudes so do what I can to make the kids know they're special.

Perfectly.. she isn't gossiping!

AynRandTheObjectivist

But why would you want to share ?

If this is real, then do you not think its wrong to start this sort of thread ? Do you not think its shows a lack of loyalty/discretion which is needed ? And you said you wanted to share private details on this thread but couldn't, is your personality really suited to the job ?

Oh here we go, another killjoy. Please go away and leave us to enjoy a very interesting thread in peace.

Because it is fascinating and we want her to!

Do you witness domestic spats which are embarrassing?

Yes but the trick is to be invisible and non judgemental.

If this is real, then do you not think its wrong to start this sort of thread ? Do you not think its shows a lack of loyalty/discretion which is needed ? And you said you wanted to share private details on this thread but couldn't, is your personality really suited to the job ?

To not want to share some of the horrendous experiences I have had would make me soulless, which I think would make me far less suitable for a role which is completely about caring for a child/children and making sure they are growing emotionally, mentally and physically. If I was mindlessly not caring about what was going on around me, I wouldn't be able to provide that complex care.

I wonder why ruthless hours - is this because the parents can't be arsed to look after their kids outside your working hours? Do they expect you to be there all the time? Why do they have children in that case?

Do any of the children get upset that their parents are absent so often?

cherrytrees123

But she would like to....and I guess I just don't get that. Everyone deserves a level of privacy.

Place marking..

Are the children of the middle eastern families spoilt and rude?

What happens if a family decide to fire you on a whim? How much notice do you have to leave and how easy is it to find the next job? ESP if they don’t give good references.
What’s a typical day as a vip nanny like (ok I get that is a hard question!)
If your day finishes at say 6 do you get to just walk out at 6 or do they expect you to hang around?

I could actually ask a million questions.