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I'm a Muslim, ask me anything

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UnderBlue · 30/06/2018 21:26

So I thought I'd join the bandwagon too! I'm a Muslim, and ask me anything. :)

(Please note: I'm very happy to answer questions about my beliefs and my experiences, but not interested in debating issues or bashing please. Please start your own thread if you want to do that. Thanks)

Also, please bear with me if I take a while to reply. I have pelvic pain today and a trip planned to the beach tomorrow, so apologies in advance if I take a while to reply. I will try my best :)

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UnderBlue · 01/07/2018 10:35


He decided that it was a bit unfair that muslims have to use the hours of daylight in their own country and that everyone should follow the timings for Mecca. I said I was fairly sure that would have occurred to people before and there was probably a reason they had rejected this idea!

Clever boy! He is onto something there GrinSmile. As long as we don't get Mecca's temperature as well (that would be an utter nightmare! 40C-50C)

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UnderBlue · 01/07/2018 10:37


As you say it must be a struggle in a restaurant, but it is amazing how quickly one gets used to it and how fulfilled you feel after it. Do ask him about it though - most Muslims get really happy when anyone asks questions (except when perhaps they don't know the answer, if it is a tricky question).

OP posts:
UnderBlue · 01/07/2018 10:38

Right, I am off to the beach for the day and will hopefully not check MN - be back this evening :) Have a great day everyone - isn't the weather just fabulous!! :)

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eggsandchips · 01/07/2018 10:53

@UnderBlue thank you. I'm really interested in this - I always want to ask people but am afraid to cause offence! My own family practice a different religion and I find the whole thing fascinating. Thanks again 😊

JustGiveMeTwoMinutes · 01/07/2018 11:12

Hi under blue, great thread

I was wondering after your comment that Muslims must never judge their fellow humans, how the Islamic courts work?


French2019 · 01/07/2018 11:43

Thank you for this thread, OP, it's very interesting. I have two questions.

Firstly, my 13yo dd has a couple of very close Muslim friends. They are both lovely girls. One of them put something on social media recently about the horrible "Kill a Muslim day", saying that she and her family would be staying at home that day in order to stay safe. This really shocked and angered my dd, who was really upset on behalf of her friend. She dropped a card and some flowers/chocolate around to her friend's house to try and show some support, but it made me wonder how on earth Muslim parents even begin to explain that kind of hatred and prejudice to their children? How do you help them to make sense of stuff like that, and how do you ensure that they feel safe as they go about their daily lives? And what can others in the community do to help?

The second question relates to extra-curricula activities. Neither of dd's closest Muslim friends, nor any of the other Muslim girls she knows seem to do any clubs/hobbies outside the home beyond the early stages of primary school. Is this just coincidental, or is there a religious reason for this? I did wonder if it might be cultural but the girls in question come from various different backgrounds. All of them still socialise outside school with their friends, so it clearly isn't the case that they aren't allowed to mix with others.

ifigoup · 01/07/2018 12:57

Is it true that the reason there are so many waxing salons in places like Manchester and Birmingham is because all Muslims, women and men, are required to remove all their pubic hair? What if you live somewhere without a big Muslim population - would you do it yourself?

saucepotty · 01/07/2018 13:01

Why do women have to wear the black robes and men wear white? It seems unfair in a hot country like Saudi Arabia where the sun is strong that women have to wear a colour that absorbs heat.

HateSummer · 01/07/2018 13:02

For example, say forced marriages, some Pakistani Muslims still think that's OK despite it being completely banned in our faith (and it doesn't make any sense!).

Please don’t tar just Pakistanis with this brush. It’s happening in India, Bangladesh and African countries too! You don’t represent all Muslims and you certainly don’t represent me, so don’t try to answer questions about Islam without full knowledge. I find this comment extremely offensive!

hmmwhatatodo · 01/07/2018 13:10

ifigoup where did you get that from?!

ladybirdsi · 01/07/2018 13:12

@HateSummer I agree with you 100%

hmmwhatatodo · 01/07/2018 13:14

saucepotty, women dont have to wear black and men don’t have to wear white. That’s just traditional dress in some countries. Google images of Muslims around the world and you will see they wear every and any colour.

hmmwhatatodo · 01/07/2018 13:16

French, there is no religious reason for not doing extra curricular activities, maybe they just don’t want to/do other things outside on the weekend.

hmmwhatatodo · 01/07/2018 13:19

Hate summer, the op just gave Pakistan as an example. She’s just here giving her thoughts, I doubt she has the time to go into extreme detail on every matter, it’s just a general chat. I’m sure she meant no offence to anyone.

SoMisunderstood · 01/07/2018 13:21

HateSummer, OP is just giving an example. I am Pakistani, no I did not have a forced marriage but I certainly understand the pressures some young Pakistani women faced when it came to marriage. Forced marriages in the Pakistani community are not as common as they were 20 years ago but they do still happen. I know it also occurs in India, bangladesh etc but as I said, it was just an example given by OP.

I am proud to be a British Pakistani.

likeacrow · 01/07/2018 13:29

How can you be so certain that the faith you happened to be born into is the "right " one? What if you were born into a Catholic family do you think you'd have converted to Islam of your own accord or do you think your thread would have been titled "I'm a Catholic, ask me anything..." What if one of the many other gods or religions are right, or if none of them are?
Tbf it's a question that could be directed at any religious person, and if you don't want to answer it that's fine.
I'm genuinely not being goady or intentionally offensive. Just interested as I find religious faith quite alien.

SoMisunderstood · 01/07/2018 13:31

Also, can I just gently put this out there. There are so many variations in how individual muslims practice Islam. No two people will do or hold exact same views on various matters. OP is just putting her way of following out there, which is pretty mainstream and has not said anything that is islamically incorrect. Where she doesnt know an answer such as about evolution, she has plainly stated she doesnt know. Peace.

SoMisunderstood · 01/07/2018 13:33

That was supposed to say OP is putting her way of following islam out there.

MelanieSmooter · 01/07/2018 14:03

I can’t get my head around the idea of blindly following the rule of a book (any book) and not even considering researching science/the world and making my own choices. Is that not something you have/would do, OP?

For all that you say you have freely made choices, are they truly informed? It sounds to me more like you have chosen to follow your cultural and religious upbringing, which is fine, but I don’t think it represents independent, informed decisions.

I also find your comments on homosexuality quite offensive, if I’m honest.

Bingpot · 01/07/2018 14:20

Hi OP, thank you for answering all these questions. Could I ask you to comment on something that's always troubled me? What do you think of the fact that as a non Muslim I'm not welcome at the holiest Muslim sites (Mecca, Al-Aqsa) but you would have no trouble visiting the Vatican or the Western Wall? I've always thought it a bit unpleasant. Shouldn't Muslim holy sites be open for all to visit and learn from?

Also, I've got a maybe more difficult question - and please, I'm truly not trying to offend, it's out of genuine curiosity and I ask as you mention you've studied Islam for a decade. Why is Jerusalem considered so holy for Muslims when it is not mentioned (as I understand) by name in the Qu'ran? I've always thought that a bit odd. I mean, how can you know that the Al-Aqsa mosque is truly the one in Jerusalem?

Thanks in advance.

HateSummer · 01/07/2018 14:51

No she didn’t give an example. She said “some Pakistani” no mention of other Muslim countries where this is happening. It is even happening in countries like Saudi Arabia which is central to Islam!! Why pin the blame on Pakistan op, when this is NOT the only country where this heinous crime is still being committed upon women. There are far more atrocities upon women happening in middle eastern countries where women have JUST been given the right to go to the cinema, football games and to drive! Pakistan has allowed women the rights to these things since forever! Even to vote!

I haven’t got the heart to read the rest of Op’s Responses. If they’re as narrow minded as that comment then i don’t want to know.

Knitjob · 01/07/2018 14:57

My kids go to a school with a good mix of cultures and faiths. The only families who never accept birthday party invitations are the Muslim families. There is even a JW family who accept invitations but don't bring presents, that's a whole other thread though! Do Muslims prefer their kids not to attend birthday parties/non-muslim birthday parties in general or is it just these particular families?

rightknockered · 01/07/2018 15:16

I don't think you really answered my question OP. Just some posturing where you clearly seem confused between transgender and homosexuality. I'm pretty certain than I am 100% females, not transgender, not biologically different from any other cis female. Yet I am bi, and I didn't choose this. No one chooses to be gay! Hmm

HateSummer · 01/07/2018 15:42

So I’ve just read back and the OP is Indian. What the actual fuck? You decided to make a point about some Pakistanis committing forced marriages, because child marriages and rapes in and out of marriage in Muslim communities don’t happen in India do they? 😒

wafflyversatile · 01/07/2018 16:04

She's criticised india too.

Thank you op for starting this thread. I hope you aren't put off answering question by recent posts.

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