Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

Anyone TTC after a recent early loss and wanting support? (Aug 26)

503 replies

Springcloud26 · 31/07/2026 08:45

Hi, I thought I’d start a separate thread for anyone who is TTC after a recent early loss, so we can support each other through what can be a really difficult time. 💕

I’m 39 and TTC for my first. I conceived after around four cycles, but sadly had a missed miscarriage mid-July at around 9 weeks, (development had stopped at 6).

I stopped bleeding last Sunday and have started noticing some cervical mucus returning over the past few days, so I’m hoping my body is beginning to get back into its normal rhythm.

I’m still testing positive on pregnancy tests, so can’t use LH strips to track ovulation yet, so for now, my plan is to get back to some exercise, eating well and have sex every 2-3 days. I’m feeling positive and hopeful but also trying to take my mind off the waiting!

If anyone else is going through something similar and would like to share the journey and support each other x

OP posts:
Thread gallery
22
tabbycatslave · 06/10/2026 09:03

Witchfoot · 06/10/2026 08:10

Great news @Posypear! I hope all continues well and you're able to relax a little in time.

Sorry no BFP for you yet @Springcloud26, I understand the disappointment. That's good news about your cycle returning to normal though - hopefully this time around is easier without all the uncertainty around what's going on in there!

I found out that yet another friend is expecting a baby yesterday and I self-indulgently had a good ol' jealous mope. It feels even worse knowing that I would have had mine around the same time 🙁

What's everyone's approach to moderating caffeine/alcohol/junk food etc. while TTC? Part of me feels like I should abstain from all vices if I want to give myself the best chance, but I ALWAYS crack as soon as I have a bad day 😂

I love coffee and wine and junk food so have not (so far) been willing to give up until a BFP. It's stressful enough without having some vices to enjoy. Am sure it affects chances somewhat though, so I suppose we all have to make our choices.

@Springcloud26 Sorry no BFP but hopefully next month will be completely back to normal and easy to track - is not long at all until you'll be ready to start trying.

fluffycauliflowers · 06/10/2026 11:50

Well done for finding a positive in there @Springcloud26

RE vices I am the same as @tabbycatslave!

I just came back from a fertility acupuncture session (first one) and it seems doctors orders are very much - less stress. So that’s what I’m trying to manifest!

Original poster
Springcloud26 · 06/10/2026 11:59

Witchfoot · 06/10/2026 08:10

Great news @Posypear! I hope all continues well and you're able to relax a little in time.

Sorry no BFP for you yet @Springcloud26, I understand the disappointment. That's good news about your cycle returning to normal though - hopefully this time around is easier without all the uncertainty around what's going on in there!

I found out that yet another friend is expecting a baby yesterday and I self-indulgently had a good ol' jealous mope. It feels even worse knowing that I would have had mine around the same time 🙁

What's everyone's approach to moderating caffeine/alcohol/junk food etc. while TTC? Part of me feels like I should abstain from all vices if I want to give myself the best chance, but I ALWAYS crack as soon as I have a bad day 😂

Thank you 😊

It’s so hard when people around you are expecting!

I haven’t cut down on junk food or sugar, but have carried on limiting my caffeine to 2 cups a day since my MMC. I haven’t had a drink since July and I used to have a glass of wine quite regularly! I feel like I don’t want to choose it now and break the streak, but I do miss it.

OP posts:
Posypear · 06/10/2026 13:26

I'm also the same as @tabbycatslave. TTC is hard enough without something to look forward to !

Posypear · 07/10/2026 10:24

Very strange. Finally getting a temperature peak and my app is saying I ovulated anytime betweens day 14 and 19. Bit worried I've missed the peak really but I did dtd on day 16 and 18 just in case but had a break between 14 and 15 which might have been the peak days! How frustrating! However I'm convinced I'm pregnant this month now - as I'm boiling, cramping and waking up extra early. Fingers crossed I'm right!!

fluffycauliflowers · 07/10/2026 12:05

Posypear · 07/10/2026 10:24

Very strange. Finally getting a temperature peak and my app is saying I ovulated anytime betweens day 14 and 19. Bit worried I've missed the peak really but I did dtd on day 16 and 18 just in case but had a break between 14 and 15 which might have been the peak days! How frustrating! However I'm convinced I'm pregnant this month now - as I'm boiling, cramping and waking up extra early. Fingers crossed I'm right!!

Everything crossed for you!

Posypear · 07/10/2026 15:08

@fluffycauliflowers thank you. I think I'm delusional as I'm potentially only 2dpo ha ha !
How are you doing?

Original poster
Springcloud26 · 07/10/2026 17:35

@Posypear fingers crossed you hit the peak days!

How is everyone doing?

CD1 for me today, I’m feeling a bit disheartened, especially with all the mental energy I put into this cycle, so I will try and relax a bit more for the next one (easier said than done!)

OP posts:
Witchfoot · 08/10/2026 08:51

Hugs @Springcloud26 💐

It's so hard not to feel disheartened each BFN.

ElinorDashw00d · 08/10/2026 10:35

I’m sorry @Springcloud26 its so disappointing each month 😪

Posypear · 08/10/2026 12:02

@Springcloud26 sorry to hear that. It's hard when you feel you've done all you can. Fingers crossed this is the cycle for you !

Original poster
Springcloud26 · 11/10/2026 17:49

Thank you everyone, it’s hit me harder than I thought it would and needed a bit of time away from the threads, and a focus on work rather than thinking of TTC all the time! I even had a couple of glasses of wine over the weekend, so my streak is over 😂.

How is everyone doing?

OP posts:
ElinorDashw00d · 11/10/2026 20:07

Think it’s about to be CD1 for me too. About to start a week’s holiday and just feel so down about it.
Might join you in the wine. Trying to stay positive that it will happen.

Posypear · 12/10/2026 06:31

@Springcloud26 sorry to hear you've been feeling down about it. I'm sure having a few glasses of wine and relaxing is probably a good thing - don't they always say to try to relax when TTC ? (Ha ha -obviously impossible!?!).

I'm okay - still symptom spotting like mad. Still have an elevated temperature, cramping and sore boobs but I always think I'm pregnant! Also I'm anywhere between 7dpo and 12dpo as my ovulation was delayed so the app can't pin point it like usual ( so more like 7 dpo I think?!). I have a big work thing on Thursday so going to try to hold out testing until Friday as don't want the stress of that as well. It's annoying it looks like ovulation has been delayed so it's now almost a 3 week 2ww!!

Original poster
Springcloud26 · 12/10/2026 17:40

@ElinorDashw00d I’m sorry you are also feeling like this, it is really rubbish. I hope you manage to enjoy your week off, including with a wine!

I was hopeful that after tracking properly and having a positive, I could do it again but realistically I know even with perfect timing it only has so much chance of being successful.

I will continue tracking ovulation but going to dtd a lot more throughout the month and not worry too much about being perfect with the timing.

@Posypear it’s always harder when ovulation is delayed and you add another week to the waiting! Fingers crossed for Friday! 😊

OP posts:
fluffycauliflowers · 12/10/2026 23:23

Hey all. I had a chemical end of last month and was hoping to get straight back on the horse (sorry, husband) but am wondering if I’m even going to ovulate this month. Algorithm suggested 8th but it’s now 12th and no surge yet…
I haven’t had a period or anything since, but my last period was the chemical so I figured normal ish timing can be expected?
Could it be that I ovulate late? Or not at all?
I’m hoping not the latter because I’m impatient as it is!

Posypear · 13/10/2026 19:38

@fluffycauliflowers I ovulated 1 day late and 2 days late after my second but have ovulated 5 ( July and August) days late this cycle so it definitely could still happen. Any other ovulation symptoms?

fluffycauliflowers · 13/10/2026 19:41

Posypear · 13/10/2026 19:38

@fluffycauliflowers I ovulated 1 day late and 2 days late after my second but have ovulated 5 ( July and August) days late this cycle so it definitely could still happen. Any other ovulation symptoms?

Thank you, I appreciate the insight.
i don’t think I’ve had symptoms really so makes me less sure that I would have missed it.
Only thing is, the darkest LH strip I’ve had by some way (but still def negative) was on 6th, and I also noticed CM that day was ovulation-y. However that would have been only 12 days after the first day of bleeding from the chemical period. So in fact, early.
but no EWCM since and not had a dark lh strip either…
I don’t think I’ve ever ovulated early before since tracking!

Original poster
Springcloud26 · Yesterday 07:55

Hey @fluffycauliflowers I’m sorry you have the uncertainty around ovulation, are your LH strips still low? Could you maybe have tried to ovulate on 6th and your body will try again soon? Hope you get some answers soon!

OP posts:
fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 08:02

Springcloud26 · Yesterday 07:55

Hey @fluffycauliflowers I’m sorry you have the uncertainty around ovulation, are your LH strips still low? Could you maybe have tried to ovulate on 6th and your body will try again soon? Hope you get some answers soon!

Yes still low - I keep testing. Hopefully I’ll ovulate again as I don’t want to miss a whole month of trying 😔
How is everyone else doing?

Posypear · Yesterday 08:38

@fluffycauliflowers sorry that must be frustrating! Are you still dtd to try to cover bases? Just did a digital test at 9dpo which was negative so assume I'm out. I'm completely devastated as I was sure I was pregnant and I actually burst into tears which isn't like me! Irrationality more upset than after I had my chemicals ! I guess the late ovulation probably meant our timing was a bit off too.

Posypear · Yesterday 09:02

Okay now realising this digital wasn't actually an early detection one and I've always tested at 11 or 12dpo so maybe I've been slightly dramatic- ha ha! Think the odds are low but I'm not completely out from my frantic Google searches. Ugh TTC is such a mind fuck !

tabbycatslave · Yesterday 17:14

Posypear · Yesterday 09:02

Okay now realising this digital wasn't actually an early detection one and I've always tested at 11 or 12dpo so maybe I've been slightly dramatic- ha ha! Think the odds are low but I'm not completely out from my frantic Google searches. Ugh TTC is such a mind fuck !

You need to give it more time! I think it's less than half of pregnancies that are detected at this stage, isn't it? Plus your dates could be slightly wrong or you might have had a bit too much water before testing. Try to hold off until Friday then test again.

fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 17:30

Definitely give it more time but perhaps this is a soft launch to prepare you for either answer, positive or negative. It’s all so mentally draining isn’t it.

anyone else sick of people suggesting it’s not happening because we want it too much? 🙃🙃🙃🙃

fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 17:31

We dtd 6th, 7th, 10th and will tonight. Life gets in the way sometimes 🥱🥱