Anyone TTC after a recent early loss and wanting support? (Aug 26)

Springcloud26 · 2026-07-31T07:45:50+00:00

Hi, I thought I’d start a separate thread for anyone who is TTC after a recent early loss, so we can support each other through what can be a really difficult time. 💕 I’m 39 and TTC for my first. I conceived after around four cycles, but sadly had a missed miscarriage mid-July at around 9 weeks, (development had stopped at 6). I stopped bleeding last Sunday and have started noticing some cervical mucus returning over the past few days, so I’m hoping my body is beginning to get back into its normal rhythm. I’m still testing positive on pregnancy tests, so can’t use LH strips to track ovulation yet, so for now, my plan is to get back to some exercise, eating well and have sex every 2-3 days. I’m feeling positive and hopeful but also trying to take my mind off the waiting! If anyone else is going through something similar and would like to share the journey and support each other x

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Springcloud26 · Today 19:38

I’m sorry @Lost2222, be kind to yourself. I hope the house viewing goes well on Monday, I have my fingers crossed for you!

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Pottingsheddays · Today 19:24

Sorry to hear that @Lost2222 - hope you can do something nice for yourself this evening and just feel all the feelings. Fingers crossed for the house as well, that sounds like something to hopefully look forward to.

I woke up with terrible AF style cramps in the night (I never usually have them in the night) but they stopped by mid-morning and no bleeding, so not sure what’s going on. I was hoping today would be CD1 and it would almost be OPK time again

Lost2222 · Today 19:11

@fluffycauliflowers apparantly it’s for three months, but I’m not convinced, like @Mzalongst says it’s all very sceptical.

anyway girls I’m officially out and taking today as cd1.. bleeding properly now so onto the next one! Absolutely gutted and now stressing over partners work schedule ect!

I hope you all have more luck. Is anyone else roughly cd1? @Posypear it’s sure a nightmare trying to dtd with conflicting schedules! Me and my partner currently live separately in two rented houses, it’s such a waste of money but we didn’t want to move his daughter or mine to a new school so late in the year! Viewing a house Monday so fingers crossed we get it!

im gonna have a cry tonight and then put my big girl pants on and try not to think about it for a week, then start opks

Mzalongst · Today 18:00

fluffycauliflowers · Today 17:04

Well, you’re not out until you’re out so hopefully you’ll get a pleasant surprise.
If not, we go again 🫡

You raise an interesting point as well - I have also heard the “you’re more fertile after a MC” as well. Is this backed up by science? Or anecdotal? I’m really interested in how long that extra fertile period lasts?

Clinging to any hope!

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I did a lot of research (googling) this myself and honestly couldn’t find any actual evidence to support the “more fertile after a miscarriage”. Some research shows higher fertility and some shows lower. I personally have had 3 miscarriages and it took me ages to conceive in between each one.

fluffycauliflowers · Today 17:04

Lost2222 · Today 13:57

I definetly have known everytime I was pregnant. We dtd last night and it made me bleed a bit again.. also have done a test just now (so not fmu) and it was negative so think I’m out. Not sure what all this stop start bleeding is about I’m assuming it’s because the mc messed my cycle up. I’m due on Saturday apparently going off ovulation which was late and was first one since mc. I’m absolutely gutted, it’s so hard with my partners job ect to get the timing and right and we managed to do that this month and it’s not worked, especially when your supposed to be more fertile after a mc.
I hope some of you ladies fare better this month!

Well, you’re not out until you’re out so hopefully you’ll get a pleasant surprise.
If not, we go again 🫡

You raise an interesting point as well - I have also heard the “you’re more fertile after a MC” as well. Is this backed up by science? Or anecdotal? I’m really interested in how long that extra fertile period lasts?

Clinging to any hope!

Posypear · Today 14:10

@Lost2222 sorry to hear you're not feeling positive either! We also struggle to fit in dtd around DH's job. It's so stressful - I've said you just have to make it work going forward. We have a toddler too so time is limited!

@Springcloud26 and @fluffycauliflowers these a good signs! Hopefully your gut is right!

Lost2222 · Today 13:57

I definetly have known everytime I was pregnant. We dtd last night and it made me bleed a bit again.. also have done a test just now (so not fmu) and it was negative so think I’m out. Not sure what all this stop start bleeding is about I’m assuming it’s because the mc messed my cycle up. I’m due on Saturday apparently going off ovulation which was late and was first one since mc. I’m absolutely gutted, it’s so hard with my partners job ect to get the timing and right and we managed to do that this month and it’s not worked, especially when your supposed to be more fertile after a mc.
I hope some of you ladies fare better this month!

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Springcloud26 · Today 07:38

Posypear · Today 06:02

Does anyone just think they can tell whether they are pregnant or not ? I knew I was last cycle and when I got pregnant with my first but definitely don't feel pregnant this cycle! 7DPO but not feeling hopeful.

I’ve only been pregnant once (last cycle) and wasn’t hopeful when I tested, just because I didn’t think we’d be so lucky for it to happen so soon after starting properly tracking.

When I looked back, I think I had noticed implantation symptoms at 10 DPO and increased discharge. Now I am 11 DPO and feel / hope I am because had similar pains at 6 DPO and increased discharge around the same time. But again could be wishful thinking!

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fluffycauliflowers · Today 07:31

Posypear · Today 06:02

Does anyone just think they can tell whether they are pregnant or not ? I knew I was last cycle and when I got pregnant with my first but definitely don't feel pregnant this cycle! 7DPO but not feeling hopeful.

Yes, I know what you mean. I’ve been pregnant 3 times now and this time I sort of think I am. But I have never felt this desperation to be pregnant before - it’s def due to the recent MC.
I think it’s too early for me to be able to actually tell (6dpo) but I just sort of feel I am/will be. It’s probably wishful thinking or delusion!
I did test this morning and I don’t think I can see anything… but ofc it’s too early to be testing!

Posypear · Today 06:02

Does anyone just think they can tell whether they are pregnant or not ? I knew I was last cycle and when I got pregnant with my first but definitely don't feel pregnant this cycle! 7DPO but not feeling hopeful.

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Springcloud26 · Yesterday 21:22

Happymama04 · Yesterday 14:28

I reallyyyy want to be more chilled out this time. I’ve had two babies and before my first had multiple early loses so I’ve always been crazily obsessive with testing. With my ectopic last month I was the same, obsessive over lines for 2 weeks. It completely stressed me out and it didn’t tell me anything was wrong so I really hope this time I can wait until at least 12dpo and then if I do get a positive to just stop testing! Much easier said than done but I really hope I can do it 🤞

@Happymama04 it’s so tempting to keep testing isn’t it! I’m also trying to tell myself to relax a little and see what happens, but it’s not easy!

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fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 17:44

Springcloud26 · Yesterday 16:02

It’s been about 3 and a half weeks since main bleeding of MC and I still have a faint line…

When I started getting cramping at what I think is 6 DPO I thought it might be too early for implantation so asked Chat GPT to walk me through biologically what is happening at every DPO 😊. It did say implantation is a process and may take a couple of days to ‘embed’ fully.

I’ve definitely been overthinking! And I know what you mean about having nothing to do - I make sure I add a few notes to the Flo app every day to track digestion, mood, CM, even if there isn’t much to say!

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You sound just like me! At least first half of the cycle we can busy our selves with ovulation strips and the deed!

fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 17:42

Lost2222 · Yesterday 14:24

I’m going to try not to test yet, (again) cause I really feel like I’m about to start af, which I did feel the same last month so I’m praying and crossing my fingers as my spotting has gone back to clear/ white. 5dpo! I’d be a woman on the edge if I started that soon @fluffycauliflowers

im glad I’ve found this thread girls, it’s so hard not to sound crazy when you speak to people who aren’t ttc!

I’m def a woman on the edge!

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Springcloud26 · Yesterday 16:12

Lost2222 · Yesterday 14:24

I’m going to try not to test yet, (again) cause I really feel like I’m about to start af, which I did feel the same last month so I’m praying and crossing my fingers as my spotting has gone back to clear/ white. 5dpo! I’d be a woman on the edge if I started that soon @fluffycauliflowers

im glad I’ve found this thread girls, it’s so hard not to sound crazy when you speak to people who aren’t ttc!

@Lost2222 It’s so helpful to share thoughts and experiences for support. I might wait longer to test now, I think with hcg still in my system from last time it might confuse me more to test again soon. I’m basically behaving like I’m pregnant anyway with what I’m eating and drinking so if I can wait and see if AF arrives in next 7-10days and then test I might get a clearer answer. But I know I won’t be strong enough to hold on that long!

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Springcloud26 · Yesterday 16:05

FlyingHighFlyingLow · Yesterday 13:37

Exactly - plus with the difference in cycle length I know my brain couldn't leave it. So if I didnt test LH I'd get to day 24 and think I'm 10dpo if its a 28 day one I'll take a test when I literally might be 6dpo and I end up more stressed from not knowing!

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@FlyingHighFlyingLow @Witchfoot I’m exactly the same, and as I haven’t been able to test, my brain has worked extra hard to try and understand where I am in the cycle -symptom spotting has gone into overdrive! 😂

Hope you are feeling better after a break from it all @FlyingHighFlyingLow

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Springcloud26 · Yesterday 16:02

fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 11:23

Thanks for the welcome to all. I was still testing positive after the MC 2 days into my next period. Takes such a long time doesn’t it?
Shettles method is to try and conceive a girl - we have two boys already - basically to with timing of sex around ovulation. On or after for a boy, before for a girl.
I doubt there is much to back it up scientifically but I thought we would try as it’s our first month explicitly “trying” and it would be so lovely to have a girl. I’m happy with a healthy baby of either gender though and tbh if it doesn’t work this cycle then I feel like next time I would just go for it regardless of shettles. As stopping having sex a few days before ovulating may increase odds of a girl, but it will decrease legal odds of pregnancy, so 🤷‍♀️

I have got some real cramping today - central and low down. Wondering if it would be implantation but I’m only 5DPO…
It is so hard not to overthink every little symptom isn’t it!

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It’s been about 3 and a half weeks since main bleeding of MC and I still have a faint line…

When I started getting cramping at what I think is 6 DPO I thought it might be too early for implantation so asked Chat GPT to walk me through biologically what is happening at every DPO 😊. It did say implantation is a process and may take a couple of days to ‘embed’ fully.

I’ve definitely been overthinking! And I know what you mean about having nothing to do - I make sure I add a few notes to the Flo app every day to track digestion, mood, CM, even if there isn’t much to say!

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Happymama04 · Yesterday 14:28

I reallyyyy want to be more chilled out this time. I’ve had two babies and before my first had multiple early loses so I’ve always been crazily obsessive with testing. With my ectopic last month I was the same, obsessive over lines for 2 weeks. It completely stressed me out and it didn’t tell me anything was wrong so I really hope this time I can wait until at least 12dpo and then if I do get a positive to just stop testing! Much easier said than done but I really hope I can do it 🤞

Lost2222 · Yesterday 14:24

I’m going to try not to test yet, (again) cause I really feel like I’m about to start af, which I did feel the same last month so I’m praying and crossing my fingers as my spotting has gone back to clear/ white. 5dpo! I’d be a woman on the edge if I started that soon @fluffycauliflowers

im glad I’ve found this thread girls, it’s so hard not to sound crazy when you speak to people who aren’t ttc!

fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 14:08

I just want to know exactly how to resist the urge not to test. I hate having nothing to “do”! I have done two HCG tests already and am only 5DPO 🤦🏼‍♀️

FlyingHighFlyingLow · Yesterday 13:37

Witchfoot · Yesterday 13:24

Totally hear you @FlyingHighFlyingLow on it all being mentally exhausting!

I've been contemplating the 'just relax and stop trying and it'll happen' advice lately but I'm so much more conscious of my body and my cycle than I was before TTC that I don't think I could actually switch that part of my brain off!

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Exactly - plus with the difference in cycle length I know my brain couldn't leave it. So if I didnt test LH I'd get to day 24 and think I'm 10dpo if its a 28 day one I'll take a test when I literally might be 6dpo and I end up more stressed from not knowing!

Witchfoot · Yesterday 13:24

FlyingHighFlyingLow · Yesterday 11:57

Welcome to all everyone thats joined recently, sorry you're all in same position. I took a week or so off after AF arrived just to try focus on something not TTC. It's hard not to find it mentally exhausting doing LH tests, then HCG, then disappointed when AF arrives then its time to start all over again!

CD 9 today, I'll probably start LH testing tomorrow. I've had the odd 28 day cycle recently with peaks around CD12/13 but also 32 day cycles with peaks around CD17/18 so feels like I test for ages to try make sure I catch it!

Totally hear you @FlyingHighFlyingLow on it all being mentally exhausting!

I've been contemplating the 'just relax and stop trying and it'll happen' advice lately but I'm so much more conscious of my body and my cycle than I was before TTC that I don't think I could actually switch that part of my brain off!

FlyingHighFlyingLow · Yesterday 11:57

Welcome to all everyone thats joined recently, sorry you're all in same position. I took a week or so off after AF arrived just to try focus on something not TTC. It's hard not to find it mentally exhausting doing LH tests, then HCG, then disappointed when AF arrives then its time to start all over again!

CD 9 today, I'll probably start LH testing tomorrow. I've had the odd 28 day cycle recently with peaks around CD12/13 but also 32 day cycles with peaks around CD17/18 so feels like I test for ages to try make sure I catch it!

fluffycauliflowers · Yesterday 11:23

Springcloud26 · 11/08/2026 17:59

@Pottingsheddays how did you get on with the strips today? Good luck!

Welcome @Posypear @fluffycauliflowers @Lost2222, I’m sorry you are going through this as well, it’s really tough.

@Posypear I hope your appointment goes well next week, please keep us updated 😊

@Lost2222 At 7 DPO it would be the right timing for implantation bleeding, 10 DPO could still be early to show on a test? Was it FMU and a sensitive one? Fingers crossed - it is so hard not to get hopes up!

@fluffycauliflowers I am also a control freak and just want to be pregnant again! What is the Shettles method?

Thanks for the welcome to all. I was still testing positive after the MC 2 days into my next period. Takes such a long time doesn’t it?
Shettles method is to try and conceive a girl - we have two boys already - basically to with timing of sex around ovulation. On or after for a boy, before for a girl.
I doubt there is much to back it up scientifically but I thought we would try as it’s our first month explicitly “trying” and it would be so lovely to have a girl. I’m happy with a healthy baby of either gender though and tbh if it doesn’t work this cycle then I feel like next time I would just go for it regardless of shettles. As stopping having sex a few days before ovulating may increase odds of a girl, but it will decrease legal odds of pregnancy, so 🤷‍♀️

I have got some real cramping today - central and low down. Wondering if it would be implantation but I’m only 5DPO…
It is so hard not to overthink every little symptom isn’t it!

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Springcloud26 · 11/08/2026 21:46

Thank you @Lost2222, your symptoms sound exciting too, fingers crossed today was just too early! When will you test again?

@Pottingsheddays Thank you, yep the uncertainty is really hard, I hope you get some answers soon too. I know what you mean about POAS, especially with LH strips, I was using them 3 times a day around my peak, really enjoyed it!

Thanks @Witchfoot, it will be a long few days!

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Witchfoot · 11/08/2026 21:35

Ah @Springcloud26, keeping everything crossed for you! Totally understand about not wanting to get your hopes up though ❤️