To ask all the “flat” or “small” chested ladies how did you find self acceptance or self love?

I feel I've read this post before, wondering if the same poster who constantly talks about not feeling sexy because of smaller breasts. I think you really need to go to counselling, repeatedly posting about the same subject doesn't seem to be helping you.

I don’t need to ‘accept’ it. Not everyone is hung up on breast size and many, many women are just upset at having small breasts.
I love not having to have bras digging in me and thinking about what clothes will accommodate my boobs. I am really happy with them and my body but tbh I’ve never given it a great deal of thought or attention

You've been completely brainwashed OP, why would you need to "accept" having small boobs? They are a feature not a bug.

One advantage of being small is that as you get older, your boobs don’t sag!

Also, recognising that I have a pear-shaped body, and dressing accordingly has helped. I now wear clothes that suit me.

I only gained any after a baby and YEARS of IVF hormones. They still aren't much but I found that investing in a good bra made such a difference. I wore a stretched out maternity bra til he was 4! And then I bought some for me, put on some weight and bought some for me again. Lift what you've got, make sure it's super comfortable and have good posture. A confident walk, straight back, good shoulders will always turn heads. But I think so will confidence in your own body.

I understand OP, I have experienced similar bullying, from both sexes.
All my ex partners have gone on to have curvier girlfriends after me.
I’m not pretty or slim either which I find most of these influencers are, so I did come off social media as they always have something going for them and I don’t.
So ive no advice but you’re not on your own, I’m just trying to throw myself into hobbies etc and not think about it too much.

I wanted bigger breasts when I was younger. Now I’m menopausal and a bit overweight they’re much bigger and I hate them. I’d love to have my small breasts back.
Everyone is different but I have several friends with larger chests who hate it. We’ve been brainwashed to think large breasts are desirable but in reality they can be very difficult to dress and uncomfortable even if not huge. That’s not to say that there aren’t a lot of women who love their large chests, it’s all very personal.

I was always flat chested and now am completely flat after a double mastectomy due to cancer. I feel super feminine. I dress well and stylishly, I think, and that helps. I don’t wear prostheses. The only time I sometimes struggle a bit is on the beach or around a pool when I can’t wear the swimwear I would choose, but it’s a minor thing.

I walk around without a bra and I love life

What awful boys. I hope they were suitably disciplined.

You are so much more than your boobs, your intelligence, kindness, personality, abilities and knowledge add up to so much more. Please don’t let those teenage experiences define you. The sort of person who likes you because you have a curvy figure is…very strange.

Ballerinas seem to manage just fine.

I’ve had big and small boobs. I thought I would love big (pregnancy, weight gain) but actually I hated them. I didn’t know how to dress them and felt they got in the way. My boobs now are very small. I found a bra I like which gives me shape and I bought 3 of them. I run too and smaller boobs are great for that. You don’t have to love them, but you do need to accept what you can’t change. This is really to do with they bullying, not your body.

I’m so sorry boys were awful to you when you were growing up. This sort of behaviour has such a profound, longlasting, negative impact.

I was lucky not to have been bullied about my flatchestedness, but even so, I found it very hard when I was young. I felt left behind, and also socially and sexually irrelevant at a time when I was utterly boy crazy.

There was also an ominous feeling that a crucial process had failed to initiate in my body’s development, that may have other implications down the line. I was late getting my period as well - it was a huge relief and reassurance when that finally arrived.

By my 20s Kate Moss was famous, and that helped enormously - I finally felt like my body was of a format that people could understand and accept as female and adult and healthy.

In my 30s, I experienced infertility and multiple miscarriages and a stillbirth, and it was hard for me not to go back to that foundational feeling of being insufficiently or dysfunctionally female. I did eventually have a healthy baby, and once breastfeeding was done I finally felt able to just not care anymore about being flatchested. My boobs are retired.

Perimenopause has helped as well, and finally being free of the idea that the only point of me as a woman is as a sex object or a caregiver. I hadn’t even realized I thought that way until I very suddenly didn’t at all. It was like waking up from a terrible fever dream.

I’ve had lumps in my breasts a couple of times (benign cysts fortunately) and noticed them immediately because there’s so little tissue there, so that’s a bonus.

I hope you find peace, OP.

Another thing that helps are tshirt bras. They weren’t around when I was growing up. They give me a much better shape, than a Lacey bra.

I’m flat chested and it’s never bothered me whatsoever. Don’t be so shallow OP. Surely there’s more to than your physical appearance?

Oddly enough my second husband thinks they are amazing, seeing yourself through others eyes can be wonderful.

I've been both and literally nobody cares.
The only time a comment was made was by a "friend" who said her boyfriend detested flat chested women and how she pittied them herself.
(That didn't work out too well for her in the end😈)

It's never, ever bothered me.

I see so many women struggle with bigger breasts & limit what they do & wear because of it & moan the costs of bras & problems of bra fitting.

I've only worn a bra for special occasions a handful of times eg wedding. Otherwise a crop top more to hide nipples than for support.

Society has just primed women to feel inadequate in our bodies - too big this, too small that. Too pale, too dark etc etc

I think body “trends” change with time. Small boobs are all the rage now. Women are having their implants removed and, apparently, small implants are the most popular choice for augmentations now.

I go to the gym regularly and many, many women have small breasts and look great in their sports bras and crop tops.

I have large breasts and am having a reduction and a lift. I feel they are far too big for my body. I cannot wait to be part of the IBTC and be able to wear a sports bra in the gym, without feeling like a porn star. And, not having to buy size 6 bikini bottoms and a size 18 bikini top. And, wear button up tops/dresses without them gaping! Embrace what you have!

I never really think about it. I think I look cute without a bra even as a mum of three. Probably not helpful but I actually really love my small boobs! I can sleep on my front, I can run. I’ve never had any complaints from those who have seen me naked. They are unlikely to swing by my belly button like my nanny’s did in her late 80s 😆

I know these kind of comments are well meaning but I doubt they’ll help the OP.

I have very small breasts. I never had an issue with men being attracted to me. Some wouldn’t have liked my body type but plenty did. I’m absolutely sure the ones who did weren’t taking anything they could get. The small boobs haven’t stopped me feeling sexy. I’ve had breast cancer now which is a whole other issue and I’d very much like my totally unremarkable small boobs back.

Also realistically your only option for changing them are implants. They have their own issues. They don’t feel natural, you’ll have scars, there is some risk of capsular contracture, which can make them uncomfortable and look terrible. A lot of men don’t particularly like them anyway if that’s your concern. I’m not anti implants- I’ll have one myself as part of breast reconstruction- but I wouldn’t choose them over a natural breast.

I have A cup breasts and like you I was bullied by boys for having small boobs. I spent years wishing they were bigger and wanting to get a boob job because I felt I wasn’t good enough and that men wouldn’t be attracted to me. I felt this way throughout my teens and twenties and I felt so down about it at times.

And then I met my dh- when I told him I wanted a boob job he just stared at me in a bemused way, told me I was mad, that I had a beautiful figure and why would I want to ruin my healthy perfect boobs by having surgery. And he wasn’t wrong.

We’ve been together over 20 years now, I’ve breastfed two babies for a number of years, and as a result they’re not as perfect as they once were…and yet…every time I have ever mentioned getting a boob job he has told me to look at myself and love the body I have. And I can honestly say I have learnt to do that. I’ve had the money in my bank account to pay for a boob job for years now but I have never wanted to take the next step because I now love my boobs- I like how they look in clothes, and they’re perky and neat- but most importantly, they’re just a body part. They don’t define who I am, they don’t give me value or not, they aren’t something that makes me more sexy or less sexy. They’re just breasts.

I've got very large boobs and I'd give anything to be much flatter.
Nothing looks good on me.
I absolutely hate them.

My dh says that anything more than a handful is a waste!

34B isn't big, but it's really not the same as 32AA or similar.