To feel angry that some people can’t accept sometimes accidents happen? (Title edited by MNHQ to avoid any confusion)

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maybefour · 17/09/2026 00:07

I’m not really sure if this is an AIBR/AIBU but sometimes I see things online/in the local news and people forget that sometimes accidents DO happen which end up with an awful outcome? Do we live in a country now where we will always question things (which I understand), but even those that appear to be logically understandable.

Will we ever manage to balance that intense narrative that everything is ok to the other where everything is planned/sinister? I am so glad we live in a world we can speak freely, but I fear we are starting to overanalyse everything.

(I’m only asking this because I have small children and I’m curious to know how things may go)

(I need to add this is nothing to do with anything s*xual or children being vulnerable in any form, that is not what this post is about)

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LeaderBee · 17/09/2026 15:48

LongTallTally · 17/09/2026 15:23

Have you actually read any of the rest of the thread?

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Yes but I wasn't talking to someone who was talking about the original point was I? Yes it's tragic, but i've not made light of it, get over youself.

notwhingingjuststatingfacts · 17/09/2026 18:34

Ponoka7 · 17/09/2026 15:21

It doesn't help that people are so tuned in to America. There's nearly an identical case just happened, except the parents have been arrested and charged with unlawfully placing a child at risk. The wording is "at an unreasonable risk of harm affecting her life and safety by failing to provide supervision and safeguards appropriate...". So people are asking why we haven't got those charges. Then there's the conspiracy idiots.

If we are talking about the same case then they are nowhere near identical cases!
This was a little boy who ran off when his grandfather fell over leaving the play park and sadly drowned.
The US case was entirely different. She absconded from the house she was staying in whilst not being appropriately supervised nor was she wearing her tracker. She was a known absconder - to such an extent she always wore a tracker - who was in an unfamiliar place. Despite knowing she wasn’t wearing her tracker the parents insisted she was and significant time was wasted in trying to locate her tracker not searching for her.

The two cases are not remotely comparable.

Ponoka7 · 17/09/2026 19:44

@notwhingingjuststatingfacts it wasn't that case. That came up, then my news feed brought up other cases. It's puzzling to me because some of the child deaths in cars, I don't think were accidents, but there's often no charges. I don't agree with the comments, but like during BLM protests, people seem to think the UK and the USA is the same place.

Let's hope anyone on the fence about harnesses and wrist straps now opt for one.

notwhingingjuststatingfacts · 17/09/2026 21:39

@Ponoka7 I think the thing with what happened to Noah is that the events leading to him running off are almost certainly caught on CCTV. From that the police will have been able to quickly see that this isn’t a case where there was negligence or foul play on behalf of anyone. It’s just a really horrendous accident.
ultimately nobody is going to blame themselves more than the poor grandfather anyway. I desperately hope the family can get some peace and that this doesn’t tear them apart.

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