To feel angry that some people can’t accept sometimes accidents happen? (Title edited by MNHQ to avoid any confusion)

Your post is badly worded with incorrect spelling and abbreviations. Posting about how dense everyone else is seems a bit rich.

I’m so sorry @Isittimeformynapyet

I am from Belfast and an accent happened to me too. Then I did the Masters in Voice at a well known drama school and lots more accents happened to me.

Thoughts and prayers.

Just did a hard laugh out loud drinking my morning coffee 🤣🤣🤣

There was a phase locally when a bird of prey kept attacking the heads of bald joggers until the follically challenged were advised to wear caps during nesting season to avoid attracting the bird's attention.
It left some nasty gouges on their heads.

I don't know if the birds have a local accent or cared about the men's accents though.

Princess diana her death was an accident its probably the most investigated car crash ever it was and still is an accident but people still scream she was killed I mean its a pretty shite way to try and kill someone all she had to do was wear a fucking seatbelt and she would have survived

But yeah noah dying was an absolute tragedy but kids drown thats why learning to swim is a life skill

As a likely neurodiverse 3 year old , swimming was probably not on the cards at 3 years old.

Don’t be so ridiculous. Even the strongest swimmer can drown. Of course accidents or unusual situations can happen. Look at that poor couple in Spain a few weeks ago in the hot tub.

@AngelinaFibres

Accidents always happen because of the negligence of someone.

That’s a batshit crazy take… not just carelessness as with @CostcoFanofThree but full on negligence!

By your logic I suppose you’ll be calling for the grandfather to be charged with manslaughter, and his parents too for not stopping the grandfather, and corporate manslaughter for the Council for not building an impenetrable fence around it.

When I slipped down the stairs and broke my arm, was I negligent for not buying a bungalow?

A previous poster shows what happens to people mentally when you actually believe you have the power to control for every possible bad thing, stop every “accident” simply by being more vigilant and mitigating everything they do… they become nervous wrecks. Your attitude is at the root of what is literal madness.

Most accidents ARE preventable. Very few are genuine “couldn’t be foreseen and unavoidable”. There is usually negligence or incompetence involved.

Yes an accident but caused by a drunken driver and survivable had seat belts been worn, so negligence and incompetence again.

Of course there are accidents. Someone has a heart attack at the wheel, totally out of the blue - their health has previously seemed robust, no reason for them to have stopped driving. Their car ploughs into and kills a lot of other people. Accident.

A toddler or an elderly person tripping and falling - also an accident.

There are loads.

I agree that some situations we call accidents could technically speaking be down to a momentary lapse of human vigilance, but is it really helpful to persecute those responsible for this? Given that all of us are human and therefore 99.9% of us will occasionally be fallible. It's the human condition.

what happened to the wasp?

My late budgie loved her. Especially that duet with Kenny Rogers. He wasn’t fussed about the transatlantic accent.

But I agree with the thread title in principle. Some ppl are very unaccommodating of other ppl’s accents.

Hes from Yorkshire and hs an accent,?
EE Bah gum!!!

Don't be ridiculous. Being able to swim does not stop people drowning.

Your last paragraph is the heart of this matter - well said.

Of course all accidents are preventable if human beings were absolutely perfect, never influenced by momentary emotions, tiredness or illness.

As the above poster says, thinking you can prevent all accidents will drive you into a state of anxiety that in itself could well make accidents more likely.

The whole point of implementing reasonable safety measues in the home, driving carefully etc isn't that these things can guarantee 100% safety. It's to reduce the number of near misses and hence the likelihood of a near miss actually becoming a serious incident.

I agree with your sentiments OP. Accidents can and do happen however cautious you are. Unfortunately as well situations like cause an absolutely vile and unfair backlash from the underbelly of social media which makes parents terrified to allow their children any freedom. Yes children are precious and vulnerable and it's our job to protect them but it's also our job to allow them the freedom to develop the skills and self-confidence to become independent and assess risk for themselves. They aren't going to be able to do this if we're constantly within grabbing distance of them and stopping them exploring their world. I'm far from neglectful with my 8YO but I do allow her to explore risk for herself. She has climbed trees and climbed to the top of any jungle gym, for example, for many years. I can't count how many times I've had judgy looks or comments for this. It would have been perfectly normal for kids to do this though a couple of generations ago and probably without their parents watching like a hawk and you know what? These kids were, on the whole, happier, more confident and more indpendent for it. The world is scary and we have to accept that we can't fully eliminate risk and we need to stop chastising parents when something bad happens that could just as easily happen to any decent parent.

DS was a beautifully behaved little child. He was biddable and sensible from a weirdly young age.
I was walking with him holding his hand when he was 3, when he suddenly wrenched his hand away and ran across the road.
It took a split second. I honestly nearly had a heart attack. I can still vividly remember the sheer horror of that moment even though he now has a luxuriant moustache and a car..
Accidents happen.
My deepest sympathy to Noah's family.

I agree with that.

@TwentyDunhill - I had some similar-ish thoughts / beliefs when my son was a baby that he would die. And I thought I’d caused a colleague’s baby to die because I’d been jealous. My CPN also mentioned magical thinking. It’s truly horrible. I hope you are feeling better now.

I also think on a less dramatic scale that an attempt to remove all risk also causes harm. If you don’t let your child have age appropriate independence then that’s not good for them either.

Some accidents are preventable with reasonable actions. But for some the actions needed to prevent would be disproportionate for the risk or cause their own harm.

my heart goes out to Noah’s family. I can completely understand how an accident like that could happen and it doesn’t rely on the grandfather being negligent. I can’t imagine what he’s going through

I always wanted an accent, I feel quite bereft.

We are used to root cause analysis - the plane crashed, it was an accident. Why? the engine fell off. Why? The engineer had not fixed it properly,. Why? Short staffed and penny.pinchong supervisor made him rush.
We are also used to news facts up to date 24/7 and explained right away. If not 'its a conspiracy ". "Some of us fear a cover up. A woman was raped and killed" who did it - a man, "it was an asylum seeker". No description - "obviously asylum seeker. "No, description is a white man. "Oh thank goodness the poor asylum seekers. But it was a man, a man, bastard man. All men are bastards.... "
Sometimes we want it to be who we would like it to be.

Even if humans were perfect, we couldn’t stop all accidents!