Aibu feeling uneasy about men taking little girls to the toilet in the womens toilet?

This is batshit, you’re saying it’s appropriate for little girls to be dangling bait in front of potential pedophiles in the men’s toilets but little boys can be kept safe in the women’s toilets.

I'd much rather that than a young girl having to go in the gents.

lol . I remember going to the men’s changing room with my dad when I was a kid and once I asked why don’t we go to the women’s cos I’m a girl . He said cos the women would get an awful fright if a man went in women don’t like men in their changing room. I just shrugged and accepted it . Did I suddenly feel like I wasn’t female ? Eh no. Most ludicrous comment I’ve heard so far on this thread.

Fine, pick up your badge on the way out.

But remember you don’t have the say on what other women feel though.

Sorry but this is nonsense. While gay men do hang around public toilets, they are generally very discrete and they intentionally don't try to force themselves onto other men (who are most likely straight) as that's asking for trouble.

I can’t believe actual mothers like me would put their & their DDs’ comfort over the actual safety of little girls. It’s madness to send little girls into the men’s toilets.

A man should take his child into the men’s toilet. Why on earth would he not?

I think it’s vile but plenty will disagree with me, and say that they can’t be expected to go in the men’s toilets in case they see random penises (Even though it’s not like they are standing there showing the world).

And of course using the accessible toilet is morally wrong.

Father takes daughter into men’s toilets, calling out as he does so. If needs be he shields her view. Girl uses cubicle and washes hands, father and daughter leave.

Or where do we draw the line? Fathers taking daughters into the female changing room at the swimming pool?

But then I think the only people in female facilities are women and girls - boys should go in male facilities by the time they are school age.

Men know they can go in the ladies’ toilet (even the good ones) because it is unlikely to that anyone will speak to them about it.

I’m sure a lot of them are there in good faith but given men are overwhelmingly the cause of assaults on women, the good ones should be aware of that and act accordingly. I had a friend who was a big bloke and if he was walking on the same side of the road as a lone woman in a quiet area, he would make a point of crossing over the road and even turning off as soon as he could because he didn’t want them
to be uncomfortable.

I don’t think we have the right to consent on behalf of other women.

I was not abused in any way . I was raised by a sensible parent in the real world and not wrapped in cotton wool or treated like I was precious . And no I’ve never been spanked . It’s not abuse. If you think that is abuse you must be living in a dream world.

And for those who for trauma or religious reasons would be distressed - why put them in that position? Nothing is going to happen to a small child who is accompanied by her father in the men’s toilets.

I can assure you that men are not stood rubbing their erect cocks in full view in the men’s toilets.
Just as women are not stood in full view with their legs spread wide open fingering themselves.
Adult males should not be in female toilets.

It’s abusive to a bathroom of women for a man to enter. I know there are male cleaners but it can’t be avoided.

If you go out with a child of the opposite sex you need to be able to consider the rights of other people as well.

My son was sexually abused in a toilet and has also experienced wanking next to him since. He did not disclose it at the time because he was scared and ashamed. He has had professional therapy and it absolutely isn’t nonsense. Professionals treating him certainly don’t think it’s nonsense.

Yeah I think some women have no idea what a line of men peeing actually looks like. They probably imagine them waving their cocks about!

You’re describing healthy men who aren’t abusers. Abusers don’t print it onto their foreheads.

What is this American issue you are talking about? I am American and took my son in the woman’s room with no problem when he was young.

Then this is a men issue. It needs resolving by dealing with the men. Not by saying women have to let these men into their spaces. How do we know he isn't one of those men? We can't know he is safe. Statistically, he isn't safe.

If men's toilets are a problem because of men's behaviour then deal with the men's behaviour.

I only read page 1 and the amount of hand wringing is weird. What do you think the dad is going to do while accompanying a young child? By the time you exit your private cubicle you should be finished and dressed, so nothing for him to see. I wouldn't have wanted my young DDs being taken into the men's loos - they have fewer cubicles, men may be at the urinals, and it's not uncommon for the toilets to be filthy due to men's poor aim. In the first instance they should look for a family room or use the disabled toilet if it's free, but I have no issue with a man showing his young daughter how to use the women's facilities.

By that token 90 percent of the parents bringing their child to swimming lessons are abusive . Forcing their little ds to the women’s changing rooms to get changed . Heaven forbid ! I wonder what the future will be like with all this debauchery going on in the world

Plenty of tired old tropes here, equating homosexuality and paedophilia ..

No thankyou, others can do that and I suspect it’s impossible to eradicate antway.Us parents will safeguard as we see fit.

Men’s toilets are also often stinking of pee and urinals mean that there are men’s penis’s on show. Little girls should never go into a men’s toilets. On balance a women’s toilets only will have closed cubicals. Unless you are peeking in the sink then there should really be no issue with seeing a man in the sink area of a women’s toilets with his daughter.

I have sons but if I had daughters I would rather my husband take them outside to pee than a men’s toilet !!

So, where does the girl go to the loo?