AIBU to keep my sister’s former dog after she moved back?

I said I stepped in and told my daughter to leave it.

My daughter has had to deal with stress caused by my sister and is allowed an opinion when it involves her dog though and her life has been impacted. It is my daughter’s home and my sister has asked to be brought here. My daughter missed a night out when we went and collected my sister as she was needed to look after her younger siblings. She also missed out on a day out with me today that we had planned for weeks. Her life has been impacted and she is annoyed that our family has bent over backwards to support her and all she has seen my sister be is rude to me, my husband, my mum and dad today. My daughter was annoyed that my sister caused a big fuss about having the dog back and then now doesn’t give a shit about the dog and is off again. She is annoyed that my sister seems to have given no thought as to how stressful this has been for anyone else, her young cousins and us. She saw my sister demand rather than ask that she was taken back home tonight. By the time my sister left, it was like everything was sorted for her and she didn’t give a shit about the stress she had put anyone else through. My daughter has helped strip their beds and wash the bedding and tidy up the mess left by my sister and the kids as she has just breezed out now all is sorted for her.

My teen was spot on. I stepped in because I didn’t want another row. She has booked her flights, had made her decision, upset my parents, fucked everyone around, decided she was now ok and fuck everyone else and the dog. I stepped in because I just wanted her to leave by that point, not because my daughter was wrong. Don’t dare come for my daughter.

Oh for fucks’ sake give it up. OP’s sister is a flake. She doesn’t care about the dog and never did - that’s obvious, to everyone except you. And she is a terrible mother. She dragged her kids to another country, split up with their dad, dragged them home, changed her mind and dragged them back again. OP has made it perfectly clear what happened - you just don’t want to see it because it doesn’t suit the assumptions you made from the beginning.

Sounds like your sister and her kids have had a shit time recently. Why would you not do anything you could to make that better? Give them their dog back.

And sheis a terrible mother

You don't know this woman at all!!
The fact that OP has you and a load of other strangers on the internet believe that about her sister and eviscerating her character like this , says it all. That's exactly my point.

That’s exactly what I was thinking, she’s your sister and the kids are your neices and nephews, they’ve had a really tough time, give them the bloody dog, your kids can visit. Then buy a puppy.

That’s exactly what I was thinking, she’s your sister and the kids are your neices and nephews, they’ve had a really tough time, give them the bloody dog, your kids can visit. Then buy a puppy.

And sheis a terrible mother

You don't know this woman at all!!
The fact that OP has you and a load of other strangers on the internet believe that about her sister and eviscerating her character like this , says it all. That's exactly my point.

Yeh, not sure you seem the kindest to your poor neice's/nephew's who've been dragged across the world by their parents and now dragged back by one and oh yeh, they are separating and may divorce. Dad's abroad so they wont get to see him which is crap. Maybe show some compassion to them who had no choice and give the dog back? Or help them get a new one? I'm guessing your family life is abit more stable compared to their cousins and the lesson learned is don't get roped into helping your sis out with the first dog again. It might teach your kids that sometimes we do kind things for other people, especially when they are having a shit time.

And sheis a terrible mother

You don't know this woman at all!!
The fact that OP has you and a load of other strangers on the internet believe that about her sister and eviscerating her character like this , says it all. That's exactly my point.

Dont listen to those idiots OP, dont even respond, if they honestly believe you should've given the dog back out of pity or any other dumb reason then they are just as self-centred and thoughtless as your sister (no offence)
You adopted the dog, the dog officially brlongs to you end of, and good on your DD for having a pop too, hopefully it would've given your sister something to think about on the flight back.

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I'm sorry you've been put through this stress @WatchTheStormTouchDown , and I feel so sorry for your sister's children, they don't deserve this chaos, they need stability, poor little mites.

It's admirable that you did what was in the dog's best interest, despite being put under pressure from close family. You deserve to have him and he's very lucky to have you.

I said I stepped in and told my daughter to leave it.

My daughter has had to deal with stress caused by my sister and is allowed an opinion when it involves her dog though and her life has been impacted. It is my daughter’s home and my sister has asked to be brought here. My daughter missed a night out when we went and collected my sister as she was needed to look after her younger siblings. She also missed out on a day out with me today that we had planned for weeks. Her life has been impacted and she is annoyed that our family has bent over backwards to support her and all she has seen my sister be is rude to me, my husband, my mum and dad today. My daughter was annoyed that my sister caused a big fuss about having the dog back and then now doesn’t give a shit about the dog and is off again. She is annoyed that my sister seems to have given no thought as to how stressful this has been for anyone else, her young cousins and us. She saw my sister demand rather than ask that she was taken back home tonight. By the time my sister left, it was like everything was sorted for her and she didn’t give a shit about the stress she had put anyone else through. My daughter has helped strip their beds and wash the bedding and tidy up the mess left by my sister and the kids as she has just breezed out now all is sorted for her.

My teen was spot on. I stepped in because I didn’t want another row. She has booked her flights, had made her decision, upset my parents, fucked everyone around, decided she was now ok and fuck everyone else and the dog. I stepped in because I just wanted her to leave by that point, not because my daughter was wrong. Don’t dare come for my daughter.

My husband has said enough is enough and I’m in agreement with him. Even my parents have said she has behaved appallingly. They have apologised to me for their behaviour in pressuring and guilting us and admit we had better judgement of the situation than they did. I’ve told them we are having a break from all of them.

Why did you quote this and type agree before deciding to delete this...as seen in the edit history.

Because I quoted the wrong post.you clearly have a lot of time on your hands 😅

If we’re going to engage sensibly with any OP then we have to trust that they’re telling the truth. I can’t see anything in any of OP’s posts that make me disbelieve her. Nobody is eviscerating her sisters’ character - but simply calling out self centred behaviour and appalling lack of care for her family.

Your daughter sounds great. I understand why you stepped in as you just wanted rid of your sister, but well done to your daughter for saying what most people would be thinking. Your sister has been incredibly selfish throughout.

For the children’s sake, I hope it works out this time. If it doesn’t, the dog stays with you and there is no conversation to even be had about that from now on.

What a load of patronising shite. I think it’s you that may need to ‘talk to someone’, not OP, if those are the conclusions you have come to. 😬 Or maybe there is some other explanation…

OP has said she’s ignoring certain sorts posters, so hopefully you’re one on them.