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AIBU to think school skirt bans undermine choice rather than equality?

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BadBadCat · 04/09/2026 08:29

AIBU to think banning school skirts reinforces the opinion that to be equal, women need to be more like men.

I don't fully understand the reasons behind banning skirts in the drive for equality. I can only think that there are other reasons behind it that are not being made explicit by schools- maybe to eliminate up-skirting issues, to avoid having to deal with girls wearing inappropriately short ones, to eliminate the issue of transgender boys wearing skirts etc.

However, in my opinion, removing the choice of a skirt, which has been the traditional wear for women and girls and enforcing trousers, suggests that men's traditional attire is superior to women's. I'm all for girls wearing skirts if they choose, but I think it should be a choice. Schools saying they want to ensure comfort for all is disingenuous in my eyes because girls who feel uncomfortable in skirts can wear trousers if they wish.

It seems to me another removal of women's rights,

What do you all think?

OP posts:
Allseeingallknowing · 05/09/2026 14:17

likelysuspect · 04/09/2026 22:01

I think girls are being blamed for rolling up their skirts and showing their underwear. Nothing more, nothing less.

And they're doing it so males look at their underwear and bums.

Just like apes!

DressOrSkirt · 05/09/2026 14:24

Differentforgirls · 05/09/2026 13:12

Even boys?

Yes, even boys. Why would it be different for them?

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:40

Of course boys shouldn't wear skirts to school.

DressOrSkirt · 05/09/2026 14:50

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:40

Of course boys shouldn't wear skirts to school.

Why not?

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:53

DressOrSkirt · 05/09/2026 14:50

Why not?

Skirts are what girls wear not

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 14:53

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:40

Of course boys shouldn't wear skirts to school.

Well no. Not if skirts have been banned.

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:54

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 14:53

Well no. Not if skirts have been banned.

If skirts are allowed for the girls that's normal. Not for the boys

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 14:56

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:54

If skirts are allowed for the girls that's normal. Not for the boys

If skirts are allowed they should be allowed for everyone.

Goge · 05/09/2026 15:02

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 14:56

If skirts are allowed they should be allowed for everyone.

No they shouldn't. Boys don't wear skirts. It's not normal.

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 15:06

Goge · 05/09/2026 15:02

No they shouldn't. Boys don't wear skirts. It's not normal.

Most boys don't wear skirts. But if a boy wants to wear one then where's the harm?

DressOrSkirt · 05/09/2026 15:08

Goge · 05/09/2026 15:02

No they shouldn't. Boys don't wear skirts. It's not normal.

It's not normal to think children/teenagers should dress based on their genetailia instead of on their comfort, activities, and personal style.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 05/09/2026 15:12

Goge · 05/09/2026 15:02

No they shouldn't. Boys don't wear skirts. It's not normal.

Piss off, boys can wear skirts or whatever the fuck else they want, as can girls
The issue in schools is the appropriateness and endless fucking arguments about the correct length. I deal with this on a daily basis and frankly it's boring. Our uniform policy is flared & knee length, there are very few girls that can grasp this meaning and I see far too much arse cheek unfortunately. A flat out ban eliminates this.

Differentforgirls · 05/09/2026 15:18

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:40

Of course boys shouldn't wear skirts to school.

Why?

Differentforgirls · 05/09/2026 15:19

DressOrSkirt · 05/09/2026 14:24

Yes, even boys. Why would it be different for them?

That was my point.

Differentforgirls · 05/09/2026 15:20

Goge · 05/09/2026 14:53

Skirts are what girls wear not

What about kilts?

MightyGoldBear · 05/09/2026 15:28

For me I chose to wear a skirt because it actually hid my massive bulky sanitary pads rather than the school trousers which were ill fitting and made me look like I was wearing a nappy when I had my period. I do think choice is important particularly at a time of life where you feel your choices are restricted anyway. I have far more freedoms now as a adult as I did at university too. I think schools have lost the plot a bit with uniform. It all seems unnecessarily difficult. Not to mention expensive for parents to buy.

catlover123456789 · 05/09/2026 16:12

It should be a choice. I hate wearing trousers and would always choose a skirt.

jellybeancockapoo · 05/09/2026 16:48

I think if you actually research it you'll find skirts have historically been unisex, just like trousers, not female-centric.

I believe everyone should have choice, therefore if girls are allowed to wear skirts, boys should be allowed to wear shorts, which they often arent.

What I do think though, is that girls should stick to the uniform policy if they do wear skirts. If they say 9cm above the knee, that's 9cm above the knee, not 9cm below their crotch. Suggest it's quite likely school are fed up of girls wearing wide belts instead of skirts; blame the girls who consistently break the rules and spoil it for everyone else instead.

Nighttimeistherightime · 05/09/2026 16:57

Goge · 05/09/2026 13:37

As far as I know I don't see purposeful sagging in secondary school.

I deal with it every day, every class…

Nocameltoeleggingsplease · 05/09/2026 17:01

It is absolutely because of upskirting and ridiculously short skirts, in secondary anyway.

You ABU

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 05/09/2026 17:05

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 14:56

If skirts are allowed they should be allowed for everyone.

Ah, this takes me back to 1980 and boys being admitted to the sixth form of our ancient Girls’ ex grammar school.

on Founders” Day there was a special service and guests, etc, and we were exhorted to ‘wear a nice dress, not jeans’ by our headmistress, who was not yet used to the idea of boys.

seceral of tbe lads did indeed turn up in nice dresses, but not for long …

Twoweeksinaugust · 05/09/2026 17:25

I really wish our local schools would ban skirts. There is absolutely no need for a child to have a wide belt like cloth, showing their arse, and walking around like that. Unfortunately there is so much pressure put on girls, but other girls, to roll skirts up - this is doing much more harm than mandatory trousers ever can.

LlynTegid · 05/09/2026 17:31

MightyGoldBear · 05/09/2026 15:28

For me I chose to wear a skirt because it actually hid my massive bulky sanitary pads rather than the school trousers which were ill fitting and made me look like I was wearing a nappy when I had my period. I do think choice is important particularly at a time of life where you feel your choices are restricted anyway. I have far more freedoms now as a adult as I did at university too. I think schools have lost the plot a bit with uniform. It all seems unnecessarily difficult. Not to mention expensive for parents to buy.

I agree.

I think uniform should end other than having sports kit. Just have a clothing code of what is and isn't acceptable.

DPotter · 05/09/2026 19:10

Keymoment · 05/09/2026 14:14

But short skirts aren’t in fashion. They haven’t been for years.
Personally, I’d be very happy with trousers for all schoolchildren.

They may not be in general fashion but in school amoungst 14-15 years old there remains a trend for short skirts

Goge · 05/09/2026 21:09

TheEdgyMoose · 05/09/2026 15:06

Most boys don't wear skirts. But if a boy wants to wear one then where's the harm?

It's not normal at all. Men don't wear skirts, dresses or lingerie. Men wear clothing for men. Women wear clothing for women.

I'd probably say they'd deserved to get teased for it for dressing like a girl.