AIBU to make a roast when my daughter asked me not to?

Mine neither until she was old enough to cook for herself.

Omg I need to know about the freezer! Come back OP and put us out of our misery!

what, why? She is the one cooking, she can decide what the meal is. She's not running a restaurant. If anybody thinks they would rather eat something else, they can cook that meal the next evening.

But she did cook something else for the daughter, a pasta bake that the DD then didn’t fancy…. Can you believe it?

No I can't really, I think it is really bizarre for the DD to thor a strop and object to roast just..being there?

It's not really about the roast. She asked you not to do something and you did it anyway. Could you not have explained the chicken needed using, or cooked it and used it in a pasta bake? An adult conversation should have been had.

In the absence of an answer from the OP, I've done some important research on frozen food.

In Tesco's, if you buy frozen raw.chicken (pieces, they don't sell whole), there is no 'sell by/use by' but a 'frozen on' date. No recommendation on when it should be eaten by

Some of their frozen chicken products like nuggets have a 'best before'.

So at this point I thought, being charitable to the OP, it could be she bought a frozen chicken from a shop which puts a best before date on them, and then got that confused with sell by/use by, and thought it was a strict date, not vague guidance.

However, very few shops sell whole frozen chickens now. Online Tesco doesn't, Waitrose doesn't, Morrisons doesn't, Asda doesn't, even Iceland doesn't (except for one halal one which I couldn't see any date on the front). I gave up the search there. On short, it's pretty unlikely she bought an already frozen chicken.

So we are back to her not understanding how freezers work.

Ps: I'm ill with a bug, hence over invested and bored.

My teen dd can be a bit like this. She likes spicy/exciting things - ramen and Nando’s and stuff like that, gets a bit mardy about too many dinners with veg and gravy.

can she cook? It would probably be easy enough for her to whip up some spicy rice to have with the chicken, or a Caesar salad, or fajitas etc if she had the ingredients.

maybe she needs her own shelf in the cupboard/fridge and a cook book if she’s going to live at home but complain about family meals

OP, I don’t think you know what you’ve started with this nonsense over the frozen chicken 😂

If you made her a pasta bake that she normally enjoys, why is she still pissy? Is it that she wanted you to all eat the same thing during your family meal? Did she feel like she was singled out because she was eating something different? Has she got some moral objection to any of the components of a roast dinner? Is she giving vegetarianism a go? Was it her turn to wash up? Is she pregnant and the smell of a roast makes her feel nauseous? I can’t think of any other reason why she would have the hump about a roast still being made when she wasn’t expected to eat it.

Why did she say there was nothing to eat, then have cottage pie if you’d made her a pasta bake?

I ate chicken that was 2 years out of date in my freezer. I'm still alive!

YANBU to make a roast though.

I had an infuriating conversation with my 13 year old about freezing things.

I bought some yellow sticker packs of breaded chicken in Tesco for the freezer, absolute bargain at closing time (the store was about to close so the lovely worker marked all six packs down to 10p each for me!)

I asked dd to put them in the fridge to defrost for the next night a few weeks later and she went nuts when she saw the use by date, said we would all get really sick if we ate them.

I had to google a thousand different sites to get to understand it was okay, they had been frozen.

Anyway, I’ve had a glass of wine I don’t know where I’m going with this. I really want a pasta bake now though.

There is a chance that it really is a 3 line whip though. I suspect that the OP won’t return now, either to clarify the chicken issue or to say whether they all have to be there every Sunday for dinner.

She could always have said I don’t fancy a roast dinner today so how about I do the cooking and we all have pasta bake’ or whatever. Rather than a 22 year old dictating what the family should or shouldn’t eat without even lifting a finger to help.

We are not told whether the 22 year old still lives at home or whether there are any siblings. Perhaps the daughter has reached an age where she doesn’t need to come to the Sunday night dinner every week.

Presumably it isn't just opand her daughter in the house tho?

Perhaps she’s getting too old for enforced family dinners and she can cook for herself in future

I voted yabu because you said you felt bad! You actually bent over backwards for her to accommodate her faddy meal and STILL she complained🙄

Clicked wrong one. If she doesn't like what's on offer then she can make her own. Don't feel bad.

Given your DD asked you not to inadvance YABU. I think you should of called DD and told her you would be making a roast and to bring something along for dinner.

I think the OP is being disingenuous. I can't imagine anyone saying 'please don't cook a roast'. There must be more to it, but the OP is being selective with her reportage. Equally, if someone did ask me not to cook a certain meal, I probably wouldn't. I'd do the pasta bake and we could all/both have that. The OP's excuse that the chicken was going out of date holds no water.

Something doesn't quite add up here.

OP could of called her DD inadvance. I think the whole thing is odd. OP is the one who failed to communicate. As she should of said no sorry I will be cooking a roast.

OP made the DD a separate meal. She didn't have to eat the roast. She seem to be objecting to other people eating roast.

Well no, she shouldn’t have called her in advance.

Perhaps the DD can cater for herself in future.

Talk about Roger Irrelevant. Her adult daughter prohibited her from cooking a roast and was sad face because she did and you are faffing with freezer politics. Fuck sake 🙄

Yes she should. Why did OP agree in the first place? She's wrong for that.