AIBU to question a pool asking my four-year-old daughter to cover up?

Obviously not something you do everyday, but honestly, you're in public wearing clothes. Some clothing is considered more appropriate depending on location. You'd probably not be let into a pub or restaurant wearing just a bikini and it would be bloomin' freezing in my local Sainsbury's but if you're coming off the beach to buy an ice cream or go to the toilet on a hot day, I'd definitely stay just wearing a bikini 😂 ... And I'd have no problem taking a preschooler to do the same wearing a swimsuit or bikini.

I am currently pregnant with a boy. He will be put in wet suits until he’s older and then he can go into swim shorts.

for the poster to say that a full on swim costume sexualises a child like are we on planet earth? My 4 year old is flat and nothing bumps or lumps when she wears one it covers her comfortably like I said before. A swimming costume isn’t there to sexualise it’s there to cover up and just be suitable for a child where as I don’t believe just pants are it’s laziness in my opinion

To add to this
just for another perspective of mine I won’t be putting my daughter in a bikini it will either be a swimsuit or wetsuit. I don’t think bikinis or two pieces are appropriate so I’d never find just pants appropriate

At what age will you no longer cover your son’s chest?

When they move out lol! Or when they develop a voice and social understandings and awareness. Until then we are our child’s voice and protection. Most people don’t like the idea of strangers viewing their children’s skin. Same like posting on Social media. I doubt most people would take photos of their girls in pants and put it on SM for indiscriminate viewing.

It's not sexualising, it's just there policy, I don't see why it's so difficult, if you said to your dd she can only swim with a top on I don't think she would say no would she, I can't see why this is such a big deal.

Why is it their policy though, I think that is the deeper question?

Bit much to imply anyone not doing the same is not protecting their child. And millions of people post their kids on SM with no controls on who can see.

The pp I was replying to said she would put her son in swim shorts at some point anyway, so you’re presumably suggesting she’ll be somehow failing to protect him.

Who knows? It just is, me personally would just take a top or a cosy and just get on with it, I can't see a problem, it's making a problem objecting, there's an abundance of stress around in other things, so I think just enjoy the time with this little girl, why bring in any stress,? And maybe there's a good reason for this, who's to say without actually asking the management, but you could just get a nice cosy, cozzee? My daughter had one with frilly bits on the side in mermaid colours, she loved it, and it was cheap, Primark! ☺️🙏

Many things can be true at the same time. You can cover them up and be protective, you can not cover them up and be protective. Bad people will be bad people regardless. Personally don’t want strangers to see my child’s body if I can help it, I cant particularly see why you would. If you post photos on SM and don’t have any controls then you stupid, that’s a truth.

It’s not about you or the staff member sexualising your child. It’s more about another pool user doing so, and that can’t be controlled. It could apply to boys too.

Once they move from the toddler stage, a swimsuit is more appropriate.
There is so many men out there who are attracted by children. I personally wouldn’t want to draw their attention, it’s a sad world we live in, right now there are 1000’s of children being shipped out to men every day.
It is not the children’s fault nor a women but we have to protect ourselves as it is an epidemic.

Ridiculous.