If your dad didnt bother with you, then showed up 20 years later asking for a kidney for his child - would you say yes?

No

that's the screening process, not the donation.

US of A and Canada beg to differ - I just watched a horrid podcast about the US and their hospital 'donation teams'.....
Thank God for UK, thank God for the NHS and even thank God for the private sector nephrologists, for it was one of them who threw the evil plan of corrupt Nigerian minister to rob a poor Nigerian of a kidney (transplantation were to be in Wellington Hospital).

I was thinking Lost, Anthony Cooper reaching out to Locke for a kidney and then pissing off.

Absolutely not

I am close to 3 people who have received organ transplants and think donation is such an important thing. But in the scenario the OP has described, even I would struggle to say yes.

I’d absolutely do a live donation of a kidney to my loved ones. I think there’s also a scheme where a non-matching relative of someone waiting for a transplant can donate to a stranger and the patient can receive a donated from elsewhere. Like an organ swap, I guess. It’s hard to explain!

Maybe a blood draw is simplifying it. I think you have to take medicine a few days and then it’s just a blood donation. A friend did it and said it took about 5 hours.

I'd donate stem cells, but I'd do that for a stranger anyway and have been on the donor register since I was 18.

Kidney absolutely no way.

You are of course entitled to your feelings. I agreed to a medical post mortem for my late DH and it was hard but I did it for what they could find out to help others. After death (and I really think it would be properly certified in this country) I see me as spare parts and if they can save someone, great. I don't think though that most of mine would be much good to anyone now, but I carried a donor card from the age of 5 (and I did understand what it meant)

I cannot donate anything due to a blood transfusion I had.
I feel like going into the Blood Donations with a Brian Blessed Voice saying "What do you MEAN you won't accept my blood - it is quality" but obviously they have rules and thems the rules .

I used to donate blood back in the day

So can we say that's a "no" or d'you want a bit of time to think 😉

Nope!

😮

i just don’t know. As I have two children, I guess I wouldn’t - just in case they needed it?? I’d feel guilt saying no but having children changed the picture somewhat. Equally, parting a body part for someone you have never met is a pretty big deal.

interesting q!

No, I wouldn’t donate a kidney to anyone apart from my DC. It’s a serious operation and I wouldn’t want to risk complications or my remaining kidney failing in the future - I want to stick around as long as possible for the sake of my DC

Stem cells are a different story though, yes I would donate them

The moral dilemma isnt even the 'stranger' bit it's that the dad didn't give a toss until you became useful. Some people will give a kidney to a complete stranger.
My DM was a nurse and said you have 2 kidneys and can survive on one but not if you've given one as a living donor- that you dont know whats round the corner . I think many parents would happily give to their child and i know one lady who actually gave one to her husband .
Im happy to donate anything once im gone (if anything is worth having!).

A friend had a kidney transplant years ago. She wasn't well before, she still isn't healthy now. Wouldn't give up a kidney nor accept a transplant for myself. Might donate to my DC if I had to, but that's it.

I suppose it would matter who was getting it. I have a very sick cousin at the moment, I offered her my kidney and bone marrow if we were a match. So far it hasn't got that dire.
I also know that she is sick through no fault of her own. She has always been a very active, healthy person until she got sick. Not sure if I would have offered if she was sick due to unhealthy living.

Cheeky. He can give one of his own.

I wouldn't donate a kidney to anyone but those that are the most close to me. That wouldn't be a father who abandoned me or a sibling I never knew existed.

If it was blood or something else rather "benign", no issue. A life is a life. But i wouldn't give up a vital organ for just anybody. What if I donate one, but years down the line my spouse or someone else close to me also needs one from me? Then I would have already given the one I had to "spare" to someone else.

No

Our family had a terribly sad situation a few years back when my sibling’s child was gravely ill and required a donation.
It opened a huge can of worms and destroyed several relationships.
The only circumstances I would consider living donation now are to my own children.
I wholeheartedly agree with organ donation in death.

I would only do this for my own children or partner.

I haven’t seen my Dad since I was 2 nor has he ever attempted to bother with me or paid any money for my existence.

I’d laugh in his face.

If it was the father asking then it'd be a big fat 'NO', but if as in this (Eastenders) case, it was a sibling who neither of us knew we even had, and I could help, then I believe I would, but I guess it would depend on my own situation at the time.