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Whats the point of consent and asking permission if you get lied to

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MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · Yesterday 17:52

Whats the point of consent and permission ? friends meal and they cover the cost, they said here is x amount get what you want, so permission is asked what the limit is eg £20 and i can get whatever food / takeaway with it, the yes permission is given that i can buy what i want within the budget.

turns out a day or two after wards a sarcastic comment was made because i had 2 jacket potatoes with different toppings, so i said why is that an issue and it turns out that they still thought id get one instead of two ,

so i said i asked permission of what the budget was and i did ask what i could get then all i got was oh id still thought you would get 1 so i said why then say i can get x why not just say and be honest.

i guess this is more me moaning but why do people do this, say yes to x then they actually want you do to x instead its like why ?

before anyone asks we usually do a weekly meal out, and no they are fairly wealthy

OP posts:
JWhipple · Today 06:35

Just say next time you'll pay for your own. That way you can order 3 jacket spuds if you want.

WhatNoRaisins · Today 06:59

I don't get how this friend hasn't learned to change their own behaviour if this arrangement bothers them so much.

Terfarina · Today 07:12

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · Today 00:13

true, but it would help if they said only one meal, as i had already asked the budget so to me its mixed communications

I don’t think anyone would expect someone to order two meals and it wouldn’t occur to say don’t order yourself two dinners

TheDivergentEnigma · Today 07:13

OP, they've given you an inch and you've taken a mile.

BudgetBuster · Today 07:13

WhatNoRaisins · Today 06:59

I don't get how this friend hasn't learned to change their own behaviour if this arrangement bothers them so much.

Tbf... the OP keeps referring to the friend "moaning" when in reality the friend never moaned, merely mentioned the fact the OP ordered more than usual.

Terfarina · Today 07:15

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · Today 00:33

ill try

If yiu do and she orders two portions of fish and chips how would you feel?

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