Friends mocking my engagement :(

It was a beautiful proposal. Your friends clearly spend too much time on Instagram watching fake staged proposals. You're happy that's all that matters.

With friends like those who needs enemies. They should have just kept their opinions to themselves.

Congratulations, it seems to me like your fiance did put a lot of thought into it despite it not being his intial idea. Much better than the cliché restaurant or similar!

Jeezo op. You need new friends. These are not friends, they are jealous bitches. Congrats on your engagement.

At best they were tactless at worst they are nasty and not good friends. If they do anything else I would stop talking look at them and say “did you mean to be so rude?” Then carry on. If that doesn’t put them in their place you maybe need a conversation about why they can’t be happy for you.

Congratulations! I love a romantic proposal story. I have been married for almost 50 years and it is a standing joke that neither of us can remember a proposal in any shape or form.
Those people are really not your friends.

I think your proposal sounds sweet. Thoughtfully he deliberately chose a place that was meaningful to both of you, surprised you and made the whole thing into a charming story to tell at your wedding, and to tell your children and grandchildren in the future.

Congratulations, he sounds like a keeper.

Aw he sounds like a romantic guy who has listened to your wishes and still managed to turn the 'low key' proposal he knew you'd prefer into a romantic special one.
Congratulations 🎊 , ignore your mean 'friends'

The proposal was beautiful and incredibly romantic!
Your friends are not friends and incredibly cunty!

You need new friends they sound absolute arseholes. What were their engagement proposals like?

Congrats, he sounds lovely.

This is the problem with the expectations of all these ‘insta-worthy’ proposals etc these days. So many people are so false now, all has to be huge, expensive gestures otherwise it can’t possibly mean anything. I think the proposal sounds thoughtful, romantic and suited to you both. Your friends are not true friends imo.

Get better friends, they sound awful and very immature.

Remembering where he first told you he loved sounds pretty romantic to me.

Congratulations.

They're not your friends. Ignore them!

I think your proposal sounds incredibly romantic and heartfelt, congratulations.

Are your friends married or engaged? It sounds like massive envy to me - they are total plonkers

Sorry OP but these bitches will get what they deserve! A fiancé that was made to propose in a particular way so that it looks good on the socials. A marriage that falls apart before they have even finished paying for the wedding. Sounds to me like you have a romantic guy who thinks the world of you and kept the proposal private and for a time that was meaningful. Congratulations.

As an aside, I often wonder what happens after the big performative proposals, the ones where the whole audience are in on it type of thing. How many women who said yes because of being put under pressure then said no to a marriage?

I think it's lovely and romantic. Personal and spontaneous!

I know a few people who have carefully engineered proposals. My cousin told her other half (and most other people she knew) she wanted to be proposed to on a gondola in Venice with a certain type of ring. She was quite vocal about it so when he booked a short trip to Venice I thought oh here we go. Sure enough lots of Insta photos of her in gondola "so surprised" by the romantic proposal and diamond ring. Even my mum muttered "I think she had the proposal all planned before she even met the bloke". Fair enough but definitely not "romantic".

Congratulations. Your friends are dicks

Maybe your friends would prefer a ott social media purpose proposal. Your man clearly remembers the small but important details and this proposal was right for you. Your friends sound jealous. I think I would choose new ones.

What's more romantic than a bloke knowing where he first told you he loved you?

Keep him, ditch the 'friends' and I wish you a happy life together 🥰

are your friends married? what were their proposals like?

Sounds like they might be living too much in instagram and not the real world!

99% of MN think your friends are jealous, mean, rude idiots. I suspect the 1% who didn't vote this way think you are unreasonable simply because you are giving them any headspace. I'm sorry these women are your friends and suggest you drop them and spend more time with kind, supportive people (like your lovely fiancé).

What a thoughtful way to propose. Congratulations! 🥂

Your friends, however, are jealous. Jealousy always gets the upper hand, even in friendships as longstanding as yours. They need to apologise.

Please don’t let them bring you down. This is the happiest time for you and it sounds like you have a wonderful fiancé!

Honestly, real friends wouldn't say such unkind and mean-spirited things. Real friends would just say 'how lovely! and congratulations!

I think that is very romantic - he remembered a very significant event in your relationship, he listened to your views on proposals. Proposals should be a surprise, not staged for Insta posts. What matters is what the two of you think and feel, not your "friends".

And it's also a lovely story to tell your children and grandchildren!

Have they literally never ever behaved link this before and you are shell shocked? As I would be if my best friends suddenly behaved like this!

Or… a pattern?

He's right. You are right. You're friends are unpleasant

If seeing that specific place is now 'your place' enjoy it!