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DH-same PJs, no pants, 7 days… am I overrea

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Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

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echt · Yesterday 10:47

Sahara123 · Yesterday 09:56

You don’t change your bodies ?! I have reserve ones growing in bell jars in my garden shed so that I can literally have a clean body each night

Excellent.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · Yesterday 10:52

WerewolfOfLoudon · Yesterday 00:01

But do you vacuum the mattress before getting back into bed?

Yes, this is essential! It’s been proved that dust mites in the average double bed produce 3 billion poos daily.

AlwaysExtraHot · Yesterday 11:01

JudgeJ · Yesterday 10:34

My late OH had 'visiting pjs' for when he had to go to the bathroom during the night in someone else's house!

Similarly, DP and I sleep naked and have clothes for wearing 'around bed' when visiting people Grin

wishingonastar101 · Yesterday 11:26

Never met a man who wears PJs.

Timeforachange26 · Yesterday 12:01

Eastie77Returns · Yesterday 08:38

To those of you who state “I do not know any guys who wear pyjamas in bed”…how do you know what all these men wear at night? Can’t say it’s ever come up in conversation with any of my male friends or acquaintances!

Husbands boyfriend's sons etc is who people are referring to. And even dads. My dad used to put on a dressing gown to come out of the bedroom in the night

WerewolfOfLoudon · Yesterday 12:28

ScarlettSarah · Yesterday 09:49

I think pyjamas for men are coming back into fashion... my 15yo DS wears them (NOT the type with a collar, mind... his are more akin to loungewear).

That's exactly the sort of pjs I meant. Mostly Marvel or DC or most recent addition was the Cookie Monster (on a kid who has never seen Sesame St) My 17 and 20 yos and apparently their friends all wear them too. Straight into them after school/college/work if they aren'tgoing back out. "Santa" delivers new pjs too and everyone in my family for our large Christmas gathering has at least one pair of Christmas pjs.

A few years back, grown men came to work in onesies on casual days. Hard to believe so many don't know men who wear pjs.

WerewolfOfLoudon · Yesterday 12:34

Watee · Yesterday 05:40

Exactly this. Wash everything including PJs, jeans and hoodys after every wear. Towels for entire household washed after every use. Bedding for a family for 4 washed two to three times a week. Need to drive an SUV because they have a child. But don’t worry they wash out every yoghurt pot and are disgusted by their neighbours that don’t recycle because THEY are the ones killing the planet!

I do recycle but don't do any of the rest of those things. It is possible to not wear pjs for an entire week without washing them and also not wash everything after a single wear.

QuinionsRainbow · Yesterday 13:20

Yousay55 · Yesterday 09:30

I’ve just shown DH the thread. He’s delighted that he’s found “his people.”
Unfortunately, I’ve also read all the comments about ball sweat, arse cracks and commando pyjamas, so I’m off to John Lewis to buy a fresh mattress, replace the flooring in the bedroom and stand in a Dettol shower until further notice.
Thanks for the laughs - this thread has been absolute peak Mumsnet. 😂

As a teenager at boarding school in the mid 1950s, DH's uncle found that clothing, bedding and laundry thereof were managed by the staff of the "Linen Room". Every Friday evening, each boy found on his bed a "laundry bundle", containing one each of flat bed-sheet, pillow case, shirt, vest, underpants and pair of socks; alternate Fridays saw a pair of pyjamas as well. The sheet was intended to last two weeks, the first on top, the second on the bottom, and the PJs for two weeks in succession. The remaining intimate garments were intended to last a week, with the option, rarely exercised, of drawing further items from the Linen-Room store if absolutely necessary.

According to DH, almost everyone in his uncle's dormitory of some thirty boys went commando under their PJs, with no forced ventilation or air conditioning!

Is this the sort of environment that inspired your DH's preferred night attire? And having "spilled the beans", as it were, on DH, what about your own good self?

Imtornanddontknowwhattodo · Yesterday 13:39

As long as that's all he's "spilling" lol.

SylvanMoon · Yesterday 15:54

Sahara123 · Yesterday 10:47

Just thinking about it my mum had 4 kids and washed once a week. Knickers in bed alone would mean two pairs a day each times 6 people times 7 days 😳 ! 84 pairs a week good grief ! That definitely didn’t happen . Washing day was an all day event, twin tub that drained into the sink . Long wooden tongues lifting sodden washing into the dryer. Tuesday was ironing day. We are so lucky with our automatic machines. Not surprisingly we re wore things more than once !

I don't even wear knickers during the day; I'm certainly not about to start wearing them while I sleep.

estrogone · Yesterday 16:24

SylvanMoon · Yesterday 15:54

I don't even wear knickers during the day; I'm certainly not about to start wearing them while I sleep.

Too many questiond. How do you wear jeans or frocks with no undies.

What about when you have your period?

Dont your clothes get stained and marked eith normal vaginal discharge?

mrswhiplington · Yesterday 16:28

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:11

I think I’ve seen you in John Lewis a few times when I buy my new mattress each morning.

😂

SummerDive · Yesterday 16:32

I have to say, the first time I heard about wearing underwear under pjs was on MN. For a Man or a woman.

And yes dh was sleeping naked anyway. That is until the dcs got older and were more likely to see him naked. I had to point out that maybe there was a time it wasn’t suitable anymore to see each other naked, even if in the middle of the nigut.

FastFood · Yesterday 16:34

Lifesyoungdream · 06/08/2026 23:08

I can’t believe you only changed your bedding twice a night. I change mine every hour.That is so gross.

I can't believe you sleep in your bed. Vile.

Hollowvoice · Yesterday 17:41

I can't believe so many people are repulsed by a man in pyjamas

Mrstawnyowl · Yesterday 17:52

I thought only llamas wore pyjamas.

SylvanMoon · Yesterday 18:37

estrogone · Yesterday 16:24

Too many questiond. How do you wear jeans or frocks with no undies.

What about when you have your period?

Dont your clothes get stained and marked eith normal vaginal discharge?

I stopped wearing knickers once I had a hysterectomy and tbh feel a lot cleaner and have had much fewer yeast infections than I previously used to have. I haven't worn jeans since I was in my 20s and wearing other trousers feels fine. I've also no issues with wearing a dress and no undies (I'm well past the age of wearing miniskirts). Although many years ago, I did have an embarrassing moment on Oxford Street one summer. I had an armful of books and tripped spilling all the books and scrapping my knee, but also my dress rode up. I think I gave the Japanese tourists who were behind me quite a fright. I was pretty mortified, but just picked myself up and carried on as normal. And it didn't make me change my underwear habits either.

LemonSnail · Yesterday 19:12

Eyesopenwideawake · 06/08/2026 23:24

I burn my house down every morning. It’s the only way to be sure there’s no germs.

Finally a sensible post.

katepilar · Yesterday 19:35

AlwaysExtraHot · Yesterday 09:57

I know this isn't the point, but could someone clear up a related issue for me?
Is it correct to wear underwear with PJ trousers, or no underwear? I think you wear it but my DP is adamant that PJs with underwear is weird.

Why do you want to wear underwear at night? Is that something your family did when you were a child?
Especially as a woman one should want to give your body a break from the tight modern knickers /and I dont mean anything extra tight, just average knickers/ and let your crotch to get some air /sorry dont seem to find better wording here/. Pyjamas are a lot looser than day clothes.

katepilar · Yesterday 19:42

estrogone · Yesterday 16:24

Too many questiond. How do you wear jeans or frocks with no undies.

What about when you have your period?

Dont your clothes get stained and marked eith normal vaginal discharge?

I think ladies who dont wear knickers usually wear skirts and dresses.
Not everyone has a regular discharge, most dont I should think.

katepilar · Yesterday 19:52

chocoluv · Yesterday 09:08

So he’s only wearing them for 2/3 days without washing - that’s normal.

No one wears a different pair of PJs every day.

Most people sleep naked or with no bottoms anyway and no one changes the bed sheets every day.

You seem to have interviewed everyone on the planet.

katepilar · Yesterday 20:05

I guess people are different but I have never heard of getting sticky at night (bar peri/menopausal women or similar). I thought that people generally get sticky and dirty during the day rather than at night.

I do understand the too tired to wash in the evening.

Woodfiresareamazing2 · Yesterday 21:24

Mrstawnyowl · Yesterday 17:52

I thought only llamas wore pyjamas.

Not llamas, it's bananas...

Justchillinhere · Yesterday 21:30

I sleep in the cats bed so I don't dirty my sheets!

AlwaysExtraHot · Yesterday 23:23

katepilar · Yesterday 19:35

Why do you want to wear underwear at night? Is that something your family did when you were a child?
Especially as a woman one should want to give your body a break from the tight modern knickers /and I dont mean anything extra tight, just average knickers/ and let your crotch to get some air /sorry dont seem to find better wording here/. Pyjamas are a lot looser than day clothes.

I don’t remember either way from childhood. I wear knickers with pjs as they’re trousers, and I wear knickers with other trousers.
My pjs aren’t all that loose.

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