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AIBU to think everyone does what Betsy and Dylan did?

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Amusedatlife · 06/08/2026 09:50

the Betsy and Dylan storyline in Corrie- is “everyone” really doing this? Or am I just too sheltered?

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HoppityBun · 06/08/2026 20:09

Clarabell77 · 06/08/2026 17:36

I agree - and the other message which I wasn’t aware of until I watched it - that even if it’s done with consent it’s still against the law.

Is it?
S76A
2)It is a defence to an offence under this section for A to show that B consented to the strangulation or other act.

danishyellow · 06/08/2026 20:19

Jesus Christ

Alwaysalert · 06/08/2026 20:21

SummerNocturnal · 06/08/2026 10:39

Oh and you only need to look at the rise in defence claims that the murder of the woman was "sex play gone wrong" to realise that strangulation, whether accidental or deliberate, needs addressing.
It is like Andrew Tate, and misogyny in general. You need to discuss it properly without making young people feel judged. It will be interesting whether the social media ban has any effect in future.

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Hi, I agree that this topic should be discussed if it is something that many males expect from girls/women. What I would prefer, rather than young people of a certain age being banned from certain Social media sites, is that the content be banned for sites that are easily accesible by young people. As for Andrew Tate and his brother, I would not entertain them - they must feel inadequate to pull women apart and ask for or expect excellence from the females they go out with, they are a joke. I've been married to a bully (when drunk), but too violent so I sent him packing. Been out with another who after a few months also showed his violence, also very jealous like my ex husband so he only lasted 8 months on and off. I have been out with some nice blokes since then, but also other controlling or very jealous men. When they show signs of extreme jealousy or suddenly start picking on the things I wear or how my hair is done, I cut loose. Trying to navigate life can be difficult as it is, without trying to please a male who wants to exert his influence and ask or coerce you to do things sexually that you are not happy with. Someone very young like Betsy is, should be enjoying life to the full and to me, no young person, male or female, should be made to feel different or frigid or anything less than normal, for not doing sexual acts that could lead to possible permanent damage to their bodies. I mean once that act suddenly becomes the norm, what next? I wish people would not look at porn when so young as they may think that the sexual acts shown are what everybody is doing. If a person does not want oral or anal sex, a threesome, an open relationship, etc and the other person insists that everyone else is doing it, cut them free, and keep control of what you are happy to do and be confident to refuse to do an act that you do not want to do. Be young, be foolish, and be happy as the song goes but stay safe, this life is not a rehearsal, so don't take chances. For men who may read this, do not try and force your fantasies on girls/women. How would you feel if it was your sister, your daughter or another close female being coerced/bullied to engage in dangerous sexual activities.

FIoorboard · 06/08/2026 20:24

Amusedatlife · 06/08/2026 10:04

Apologies. Strangulation while having sex. Apparently everyone is doing it. In this storyline it caused a stroke.

Christ I'm not doing it!!

FIoorboard · 06/08/2026 20:26

WomensSports · 06/08/2026 15:02

Stunned everyone thinks this is a young people thing IRL. The worst culprits when I was stuck in sex work were the silver haired brigade. That was 10 years ago though so maybe the demographic has changed but they were absolute bastards for it. I don’t know if the attribution of this behaviour to young men is more “Not my Derek” nonsense. Because I can assure you that Derek can and probably has. Wish it was illegal.

I'm glad you are out of that game then

pinkdyno · 06/08/2026 20:51

NovemberMorn · 06/08/2026 19:21

I agree.
Sallys talk last night with the girl she is looking after was totally cringeworthy.
Coronation Street gets a 'topical' (or what they think is topical) controversial subject, and tries to make it into a public service warning....all they do is highlight an activity that most people dont give a second thought to.

But is that not the point? It was meant to be cringeworthy as Sally usually is?

I do the trustee stuff for a youth group, but my own work is younger children. So I was in the office yesterday.

They played the Sally clip last night and the conversation was wild. In the same response terms as crazy TIKTOK challenges become the norm. Until something happens. The shock of “everyone does it” versus “shit” was incredible. Even those who has not, had been taught it was normal.

Imgoingoutforawhile · 06/08/2026 21:22

It’s not just young people, I’m on normal dating sites where men bring this kind of shit up frequently, they are in their 30s and 40s!
it’s a fast way to a blocking from me as I’m not interested in that at all but just saying it’s not just youngsters trying to experiment with this

KitTea3 · Yesterday 01:08

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Aposterhasnoname · Yesterday 08:51

Bloody hell, Corries changed. In my day the most riveting storyline was Eddie Yeats painting Hilda Ogdens "Muriel"

Sadcafe · Yesterday 09:07

May be wrong, but isn’t the purpose of the storyline that this type of sex and the attitude towards it has become increasingly common due to the wonderful world of social media and clearly is dangerous, fairly sure many people don’t do it but it’s about getting a serious message across

Maisey1991 · Yesterday 15:13

Amusedatlife · 06/08/2026 10:04

Apologies. Strangulation while having sex. Apparently everyone is doing it. In this storyline it caused a stroke.

Yes unfortunately due to the rise in violent and extreme pornography it is becoming a growing problem in younger people’s sex lives and problems arise about genuine safety and possible harm wether intentional or not, and also consent. @lalalaletmeexplain on instagram is a fantastic social worker who has done a lot on this topic in the past.

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · Yesterday 16:23

but even before social media people did risky activities eg black lace books, nexus books, nancy friday books etc so why dont people study what they are trying ?

WitchyWelshy09 · Yesterday 16:42

I've read stats that said approx 13% of 15 - 17yo girls have experienced choking during sex. This rises to approx 35% for 18 - 29yos.

43% of 16 -17yos experienced it during their first sexual encounter. 39% of 18 -20yos.

LoafofSellotape · Yesterday 16:46

I think it's a really good storyline and the more kids see that what is shown on porn sites isn't the norm the better.

DallazMajor · Today 10:37

I often feel like strangling men after sex simply because they are that bad at it.

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