AIBU to want Christmas in Thailand with our daughter?

What’s the cost? Is it something you as a family can easily afford?

Are you ad DH both only children? Doesn't sound like either set of parents are on their own. Meet up with them before Christmas and then fly out. Do they have the technology to be able to do video call some time on Christmas Day?

We really love the food! Lots of rice, fresh fish, noodles and delicious flavours. My little girl loves the Chicken Satay.

Go to Thailand!
I never want to have a cold dark Christmas ever again, waking up on Xmas morning and putting shorts and flip flops on is fantastic

Past 2 years have shown us what a joy it can be to be outside the UK

Well no. Because I would not want to go. There are other places I would choose to spend my money.
And there is a lot that is not wonderful about it. But too many turn a blind eye to child abuse and prostitution of children and women. For which it is well known.

Personally I'm a bit of a sticker for my traditional British Christmas. However, if you want to go and DDs are keen then I can absolutely understand why you would.

Of course, the parents are a concern, but it sounds as if you don't see very much of them at Christmas anyway. Will any other family members see them?

Just got back from Thailand this morning. Such a fabulous country.

How ridiculous of the PP what talked about kiddie fiddling etc preventing them from going there. Have you been oblivious to the grooming rings in the UK? And believe me, just because you don’t hear about it in such a blatant way, there are some horrible things going on behind closed doors in Singapore.
Having not gone to Thailand one year for Christmas because my DF said it might be my grandfather’s last Christmas, it wasn’t, and I later found out I missed out on a life-changing experience. I would be working on DH to get him to see that.

I’ll go if you don’t OP 😂

PS I couldn’t care less if I never have another traditional British dingy dark Christmas in all my days. I had them for 4 decades and I’ve had enough. We’ve been to the sun every year since covid and it’s absolutely wonderful celebrating in the sunshine.

However, I'd probably be looking at flight prices and if it was a lot cheaper to fly just after Xmas, or even on Xmas Day, then I'd probably do that. I think that Xmas in Thailand will be so different that it won't really matter whether you are actually there for "the day" or not.

How was the weather?

I would 100% go, I think it would be amazing! Is it just because he wants to see his parents in the evening? Because surely you could still just do this a couple of days or so before?

Yes I am aware of appalling things in this country and others.
It doesn’t mean I would proactively go to somewhere famous for it.
Thailand is a place I would not choose to go to.
I don’t find my view ridiculous at all. I feel angry about child abuse and angry at young men who go there to abuse women who are poor.

Go to Thailand, don't abuse anyone there. Problem solved

I agree with this. You can't go around saying "what if it's their last Christmas" no one knows when that is. My FIL died suddenly aged 65. Noone knew the previous Christmas would be the last. My dad's 94 so likely only a few left but Christmas is not how it was and seeing him any time is special.
Could you do a get together before you go to Thailand and facetime on Christmas day. After all DD1 is family too.

Go! But be aware flight costs to Thailand at Christmas are brutally expensive. Do the maths before you emotionally commit!

Go on your own. Sounds dreamy.

Fly to thailand on xmas dsy or boxing dwy.

Yeh we had 20 years of Granny Scarf telling us she wasn't long for this world. They have had lots of Christmas days with the old uns. Its time to make some special memories with thd children for the times when the op and her husband aren't around themselves.

Today is 40 years since my mum died i was 17. I havd some wonderful Christmas memories, just not enough of them.

So for your husband, 'family' means ageing parents who don't have Christmas dinner with you anyway, but not your own daughter?

Of course you should go. You say your other daughter is also keen - do you mean she'd like to go too? It sounds like an amazing family trip.

I know people will say 'Well, the grandparents might not be around for many more Christmases...' and OK, maybe they won't. But equally, none of us will be around forever, including you, so don't waste your best years by not doing things with your own adult kids.

Otherwise you'll get to the point where you no longer have your elderly parents around and you'll find you've barely left yourself any time to enjoy travelling and so on before you are the elderly parents.

Your daughter is as much 'family' as your parents and in-laws. You don't even have Christmas dinner with either of your parents on Christmas Day. As you and both your daughters would prefer to have Christmas in Thailand, surely the majority wins? Does your DH normally make all the decisions?

Go, even without your Dh. You might not get the chance to go there and spend it with your dd.

Having spent Christmases in both Sussex and Thailand, Thailand gets my vote!

In all seriousness, me and DH lived abroad for years and people always made promises to visit and nobody did except my Mum. She had an amazing trip and we loved showing her around the country we'd moved. It meant an enormous amount to both me and DH that she made the effort to come half way around the world to see us. We both got loads out of it.

Also from her perspective, she would not have made a long haul trip alone but it was made easy that we were there.

I’d go. It’s not like you have the parents over for Christmas dinner. I presume you see them briefly in evening when they are tired.
I’d celebrate with them early then see dd1. I’d prioritise seeing my adult child over parent.