AIBU to think Jess should identify her ex after passport update?

She is doing a great job of educating and supporting others in similar situations

she deserves an MBE

you are petty mc petterson

Going to court costs thousands each time and often results in little to no changes

she is a busy working mum so taking on and slaying “ THE SYSTEM “ is a tall order that politicians , richer parents layers and celebrities have failed to do , so your expectations of an ordinary busy woman are s bit ott

She literally has non of the criteria of a narc

not one

she comes across as maybe PTSD but has no narc traits at at ? Would you care to elaborate?

It's impressive that someone so busy nevertheless manages to carve out so much time to post videos, pics, and podcasts online.

Utter rubbish

it takes minutes to make a post snd help thousands

time to drop it now chicken boy 🐓

I totally agree. I’ve followed her for a long time and she’s an incredible person. Unless you’ve walked this mile, you have no idea how helpful she is.

It bothers me that she knows he sees her page. He will retaliate using the kids because of this.

(My ex somehow sees my professional socials, not sure how or under what name as it's not his name, and often makes snide comments about things I've posted professionally to make it clear he sees them. I can imagine this times a zillion for Ex-Jess.)

Don't know anything about her kids apart from their dad dicked around with their skiing trip and there was a french trip and we know they have British passports

which is nearly every school kid in the country

jess could easily have changed details French = spanish trip
skiing = football trip

See I don’t see what the issue is with that. Maybe the girlfriend didn’t want to drop them off, or couldn’t, or had other plans. Maybe she’d set up a fun day for the kids but they told their mother they did nothing because they’re stuck in the middle and say what they think each parent wants to hear.

But she can't change her face being recognised by friends, family, school acquaintances, passers-by and so on. And that means that her voluminous criticisms and accusations regarding her children's father will almost certainly become public knowledge to her children's friends and so her children.

No matter how shitty your ex may be it's not in your children's best interests to slag off their father to that extent and that publicly.

I haven't been following her that closely so I must have missed where she posted the evidence that he's been diagnosed with a personality disorder. Because if he hasn't, why does she spend so much time saying he's a narcissist?

Im Not saying the kids have a better time with him than they do her - but that their time with him maybe isn’t as bad as she wants to admit / is willing to accept. Otherwise the eldest who must be around 13 can absolutely refuse and his wishes would be taken into account. Most of the posts involve the eldest after all so why isn’t he? And since if the court order states the passports have to be handed over 1 month before the father is in breach of the court order and she can take him to court? If she doesn’t do that what is that saying? She’d rather post about it than put something in place to stop it happening again?

all the hoo hah over the VR set? The kid asked for it twice and didn’t get one for either bday or Xmas…. Why didn’t she just buy one and return it if the dad did end up producing one?

i don’t deny he sounds petty. Because he clearly is. But I don’t think her behaviour covers herself in glory either

I don't believe she's said anything about the children not having a nice time at their dad's, as far as I can remember. She's said a couple of things about them spending more time with his gf than him but that's about it. From what she says, she doesn't talk to the children about any of the issues other than anything factual like the dad having the passports. I dont think it's a case of the children wanting to stop contact but a case of how intentionally difficult he makes her life

You've no idea what you're talking about. Her son being a teenager and being able to choose whether to go or not does not mean he has a good time there! Abusive parents are very good at manipulating their own children! My 14 year old daughter would choose not to go to her dads in a heartbeat and I would respect her decision, but he manipulates her to go, she also goes because she doesn't want her little brother to be on his own there. She also knows he will blow up her phone if she doesn't go. She in noway has a good time while she is there and hates it and it breaks my heart! Him still choosing to go does not mean he has a good time there. And judging by his behaviour and stuff he's already put that lad through, I don't think for one minute he has a good time there. He has also mentioned before that his dad and GF have had him in tears slagging off his mum and being nasty to him. 13 is still very young to make a choice like that and stick to it.

And if you watched all her videos, she is taking it to court about the passports! So it can't happen again.

I felt very sorry for her today. Ex has got what he wanted, he’s ruined the holiday, she’s taking the kids away alone and without her husband as he can’t go at that time. What a nasty piece of shit that man is. So hung up on hate for her that he’s prepared to destroy his own children. She is going back to court and mark my words, the kids will vote with their feet eventually. She looked absolutely battered with it all.