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What happens with "trans" people at airports?

126 replies

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:04

I've just come home via Dalaman airport and was stopped and patted down / searched at all 3 check points (I clearly look guilty / dodgy)

Twice i had to wait until a female member of staff was available. What on earth happens with trans people? I wouldn't want to be patting down someone with a male body if my job was to stretch females.

I've been pondering this literally all the way home!

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OrangeFlower14 · 03/08/2026 02:21

I dont know but i thought they could request who they want

ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 02:25

Yes guidance directs that they are patted and searched by someone of their own chosen ‘gender’.

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:33

Wonder if the guidance states a staff member can refuse 🤔 i know I'm being arsey and that they're not giving hugely intimate searches but I'd say it's a grey area

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ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 02:42

Nope, training indicates that if you do not wish to do this then it isn’t the job for you.

Ollldy78 · 03/08/2026 02:44

I think they usually catch a plane somewhere.. 🙄

tartyflette · 03/08/2026 02:45

This is an interesting question. At what point does a person’s wish to be searched by somone presumed to be of the same sex , eg a transwoman asking for a female security officer, conflict with an employee’s right to not have to search someone of the opposite sex? So if transwoman is not allowed to ask to be searched by a female officer that does not seem unreasonable to me.
Speaking for myself as a woman, if my job required me to search women that’s fine but I would not be happy searching a male person however they presented, and nor would I (as a passenger, say) consent to be searched by any such female-presenting male. Some things really are sex specific.
And i have to say just a couple of weeks ago I was patted down quite thoroughly by a female security oficer on returning to the UK. I had no objection but she was very thorough indeed, patting firmly above, on, under, and between my breasts. I understand the necessity and it was ok — she was a woman.

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:46

Ollldy78 · 03/08/2026 02:44

I think they usually catch a plane somewhere.. 🙄

Literally no point to your response. Do you have any thoughts on security checks relating to this?

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NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:49

@tartyflette a security officer once put her hand IN my bra in a Chinese airport- she was extremely thorough

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tartyflette · 03/08/2026 02:58

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:49

@tartyflette a security officer once put her hand IN my bra in a Chinese airport- she was extremely thorough

i was flying shortly after the ‘shoe bomber’ incident in London when rules were super strict and I had smuggled a lipsalve inside my bra (I suffer from dry lips)

It was found during the search! They let me keep it but oh, the embarrassment.

BringBackLGBPride · 03/08/2026 04:55

Yes a trans identified male can ask to be searched by a female staff member, and female passengers could be searched by trans identified males.

As if that wasn't bad enough, just take a look at what's happening with the police

Challenging the shadow strip-searching regime - Sex Matters

Challenging the shadow strip-searching regime

The High Court has ruled against Sex Matters in our case against the National Police Chiefs’ Council (NPCC) and British Transport Police (BTP) over their

https://sex-matters.org/posts/updates/challenging-the-shadow-strip-searching-regime/

zebrazoop · 03/08/2026 05:04

This is so wrong. As a women who has experienced multiple sexual traumas it would be highly triggering for me to be searched by a man or transwoman

thetinsoldier · 03/08/2026 05:21

ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 02:25

Yes guidance directs that they are patted and searched by someone of their own chosen ‘gender’.

What ‘guidance’?

In the UK this should be covered by the Supreme Court ruling, and they should be searched by someone of their own sex.

thetinsoldier · 03/08/2026 05:24

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:33

Wonder if the guidance states a staff member can refuse 🤔 i know I'm being arsey and that they're not giving hugely intimate searches but I'd say it's a grey area

Oh, I don’t know. I was searched the other week and the woman put her hands inside the waistband of my trousers, under the underwire of my bra, and felt my legs right up to my crotch.

When my ds was patted down recently, the man touched his penis…

AzureLurker · 03/08/2026 06:02

Second the waistband search, which included an ever so little but noticeable bit of a finger between cheeks!

Daygloboo · 03/08/2026 06:24

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:04

I've just come home via Dalaman airport and was stopped and patted down / searched at all 3 check points (I clearly look guilty / dodgy)

Twice i had to wait until a female member of staff was available. What on earth happens with trans people? I wouldn't want to be patting down someone with a male body if my job was to stretch females.

I've been pondering this literally all the way home!

To stretch females? Gosh, what a strange job.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 03/08/2026 06:28

tartyflette · 03/08/2026 02:58

i was flying shortly after the ‘shoe bomber’ incident in London when rules were super strict and I had smuggled a lipsalve inside my bra (I suffer from dry lips)

It was found during the search! They let me keep it but oh, the embarrassment.

Why would you think a lipsalve wasn't allowed? Confused

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 06:30

Stretch females 😂😂😂
I guess it depends on trans persons chosen gender?

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 06:34

zebrazoop · 03/08/2026 05:04

This is so wrong. As a women who has experienced multiple sexual traumas it would be highly triggering for me to be searched by a man or transwoman

I thought it was about being searched not the person doing the searched gender.
I dont think a trans womens going to interested in you in a sexual way.
Fark sakes

HowDoYouSolveAProblemLikeMyRear · 03/08/2026 06:42

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 06:34

I thought it was about being searched not the person doing the searched gender.
I dont think a trans womens going to interested in you in a sexual way.
Fark sakes

It's a while since I've read such a compassionless response.

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Very common for rape survivors to find the prospect of being patted down by a male stranger traumatic, even more so when the power balance lies with the man.

It isn't any less traumatic if that man is pretending to be a woman and attempting to gaslight everyone around him.

RockSolidRobot · 03/08/2026 07:19

In many countries, particularly those that are Muslim, a trans woman would be patted down by males regardless of what their wishes were.

Palmtreesinthegarden · 03/08/2026 07:26

Surely the people who work at the airports do this so often that it just becomes routine to them and they don’t think twice about it? If it was the other way round and the staff were trans I wouldn’t let them search me though.

GriseldaandMike · 03/08/2026 07:33

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 06:34

I thought it was about being searched not the person doing the searched gender.
I dont think a trans womens going to interested in you in a sexual way.
Fark sakes

Why not?

Plenty of transwomen are attracted to women, lots of them are previously heterosexually married fathers.

Octavia64 · 03/08/2026 07:41

I’m disabled.

because I use a wheelchair I can’t go through the body scanner things, so I get patted down each time.

they’re supposed to ask where hurts first but they don’t always so I do tell them.

they usually have a woman do it but once a man was talking to me and I said I didn’t care so he did it.

they wipe bits of fabric over my hands and the wheelchair as well and put it in a machine which I always thought was for drugs

HumberSquid · 03/08/2026 07:49

tartyflette · 03/08/2026 02:45

This is an interesting question. At what point does a person’s wish to be searched by somone presumed to be of the same sex , eg a transwoman asking for a female security officer, conflict with an employee’s right to not have to search someone of the opposite sex? So if transwoman is not allowed to ask to be searched by a female officer that does not seem unreasonable to me.
Speaking for myself as a woman, if my job required me to search women that’s fine but I would not be happy searching a male person however they presented, and nor would I (as a passenger, say) consent to be searched by any such female-presenting male. Some things really are sex specific.
And i have to say just a couple of weeks ago I was patted down quite thoroughly by a female security oficer on returning to the UK. I had no objection but she was very thorough indeed, patting firmly above, on, under, and between my breasts. I understand the necessity and it was ok — she was a woman.

I guess if you aren't prepared to pat down a member if the opposite sex then it isn't the right job for you. And that's fine. Some jobs require (sometimes quite intimate) contacts the opposite sex. You accept that going in to them.

HermioneWeasley · 03/08/2026 07:51

I can’t imagine in Turkey they would have any truck with a TW insisting on being searched by a woman or expect a female passenger to tolerate being searched by a TIM

in the UK as a passenger, it should be a person of the same sex