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What happens with "trans" people at airports?

126 replies

NorthEastNancy · 03/08/2026 02:04

I've just come home via Dalaman airport and was stopped and patted down / searched at all 3 check points (I clearly look guilty / dodgy)

Twice i had to wait until a female member of staff was available. What on earth happens with trans people? I wouldn't want to be patting down someone with a male body if my job was to stretch females.

I've been pondering this literally all the way home!

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LadyJaneEarlGreyTea · 03/08/2026 07:51

ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 02:42

Nope, training indicates that if you do not wish to do this then it isn’t the job for you.

Training indicates that unless female security staff consent to search travellers with male bodies they can’t be employed?

therewearethen21 · 03/08/2026 07:58

Octavia64 · 03/08/2026 07:41

I’m disabled.

because I use a wheelchair I can’t go through the body scanner things, so I get patted down each time.

they’re supposed to ask where hurts first but they don’t always so I do tell them.

they usually have a woman do it but once a man was talking to me and I said I didn’t care so he did it.

they wipe bits of fabric over my hands and the wheelchair as well and put it in a machine which I always thought was for drugs

I have never once had a person ask where hurts when ive been checked as a wheelchair user. Im not a frequent traveller but did a cruise not too long ago and that involved security several times. Ive never been asked if its ok if it was a guy either, just did it.

I never even realised they would ask about my health honestly they just get on with it

Soontobe60 · 03/08/2026 08:00

ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 02:25

Yes guidance directs that they are patted and searched by someone of their own chosen ‘gender’.

What guidance? I should imagine that in Turkey it would be a sex based system.

Soontobe60 · 03/08/2026 08:04

tartyflette · 03/08/2026 02:45

This is an interesting question. At what point does a person’s wish to be searched by somone presumed to be of the same sex , eg a transwoman asking for a female security officer, conflict with an employee’s right to not have to search someone of the opposite sex? So if transwoman is not allowed to ask to be searched by a female officer that does not seem unreasonable to me.
Speaking for myself as a woman, if my job required me to search women that’s fine but I would not be happy searching a male person however they presented, and nor would I (as a passenger, say) consent to be searched by any such female-presenting male. Some things really are sex specific.
And i have to say just a couple of weeks ago I was patted down quite thoroughly by a female security oficer on returning to the UK. I had no objection but she was very thorough indeed, patting firmly above, on, under, and between my breasts. I understand the necessity and it was ok — she was a woman.

I’ve never been searched upon entry to the UK - I’ve never even been stopped! Maybe it’s different if you don’t hold a British passport.

Twoweeksinaugust · 03/08/2026 08:06

I imagine in a Muslim country you will be searched by a person of the same biological sex as you. Lots of LGBTQ / trans people chose not to travel to specific countries based on stuff like this.

I don't think you can complain aboit a countires human rights / trans agenda if you've chosen to go there, with all the information available online.

localnotail · 03/08/2026 08:11

As far as I remember you dont get patted on your privates so I cant see that the issue is?

walrushurricane · 03/08/2026 08:12

I doubt that people who do the searches care.You wouldn't do that job if you find searching people of the opposite gender traumatic. Would you expect a female health care professional to refuse to treat a man?

NormasArse · 03/08/2026 08:12

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 06:34

I thought it was about being searched not the person doing the searched gender.
I dont think a trans womens going to interested in you in a sexual way.
Fark sakes

You don’t understand that a trans woman could be interested in a woman in a sexual way?

Or that someone who has previously been sexually abused may not be comfortable with what is essentially a man dressed as a woman searching them?

walrushurricane · 03/08/2026 08:16

LadyJaneEarlGreyTea · 03/08/2026 07:51

Training indicates that unless female security staff consent to search travellers with male bodies they can’t be employed?

The job is to search whoever needs searching. If they take the job they have agreed to do that.

fashionqueen0123 · 03/08/2026 08:18

DeftGoldHedgehog · 03/08/2026 06:28

Why would you think a lipsalve wasn't allowed? Confused

I can’t say for sure but we also flew around the time of the shoe bomber and suddenly within about a days notice we were only allowed to fly with a zip lock bag containing a couple of bits like our passports and wallet.
Nothing else was allowed on the plane with you. We were going to the US and it was extremely strict. No snacks no magazines no personal stuff, nothing.

Or that may have been after the liquid bomb plot too.. we seemed to have a habit of flying soon after these events!

So I’m guessing she wanted to keep a lip balm with her.

Lifelover16 · 03/08/2026 08:20

DeftGoldHedgehog · 03/08/2026 06:28

Why would you think a lipsalve wasn't allowed? Confused

Any sort of liquids, pastes, etc ( including lipsticks/lipsalves) were not allowed. Still not allowed in some countries.

TrishM80 · 03/08/2026 08:22

You thought about this the whole way home?! You must have f-all else to worry about!

ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 08:22

LadyJaneEarlGreyTea · 03/08/2026 07:51

Training indicates that unless female security staff consent to search travellers with male bodies they can’t be employed?

Well it’s by case by case. IF someone refuses to search a passenger of the opposite “gender” then it may be construed as failing to complete your duties. Ime it’s never gone that far. BUT it may do.
airports outside of the U.K. are obvs governed by their own legislation.

wishingonastar101 · 03/08/2026 08:31

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Ponoka7 · 03/08/2026 08:34

ReturnofthePan · 03/08/2026 02:42

Nope, training indicates that if you do not wish to do this then it isn’t the job for you.

Really, in a Muslim country?
I have Trans friends. I don't know any who would choose Turkey for a holiday. Like in the days when HIV was a stigma, you'd choose holiday destinations based on how you are accepted. It's the same for many gay men, still. They can carry their original birth certificate, it depends where they are, appearance wise. It depends on if you've legally changed your name etc. You can inform your booking company under 'assistance/special circumstances' they'll handle passing on information. In a Muslim country you often have the same sex pat down. Guards at non Muslim airports have to do both sexes, anyway. So in other countries, they'll try to accommodate your wishes, but don't have to. It's less of an inconvenience to just get you through, so same gender, or private room.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 03/08/2026 08:39

DeftGoldHedgehog · 03/08/2026 06:28

Why would you think a lipsalve wasn't allowed? Confused

It's classified as a iiquid so needs to be in the clear plastic bag. Although in error I have walked through with one in my pocket and not been stopped!

wishingonastar101 · 03/08/2026 08:42

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 03/08/2026 08:39

It's classified as a iiquid so needs to be in the clear plastic bag. Although in error I have walked through with one in my pocket and not been stopped!

Never take wet wipes in your hand luggage - apparently they look really dodgy on the scanning screen! I've been pulled up twice due to wet wipes (but not make up remover wipes... idk)

tomatoplants · 03/08/2026 08:43

GriseldaandMike · 03/08/2026 07:33

Why not?

Plenty of transwomen are attracted to women, lots of them are previously heterosexually married fathers.

Not the best argument though as people can be attracted to all sexes/genders. How do you get around a lesbian searching a female??

or stretching 😉

tomatoplants · 03/08/2026 08:45

OP why did you put trans in quotation marks?

walrushurricane · 03/08/2026 08:50

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There are probably men who would love to be searched by men too. I would think the people doing the searches realise that but if it bothered them that much they would do a different job.

Lomonald · 03/08/2026 08:56

zebrazoop · 03/08/2026 05:04

This is so wrong. As a women who has experienced multiple sexual traumas it would be highly triggering for me to be searched by a man or transwoman

You can ask for an actual woman you probably would need to go down the "assigned female at birth" route but you do have protections.

tomatoplants · 03/08/2026 08:57

walrushurricane · 03/08/2026 08:50

There are probably men who would love to be searched by men too. I would think the people doing the searches realise that but if it bothered them that much they would do a different job.

Yeah and that’s the thing - there’s not time to stop and answer an interview about your preferences, identity, kinks and what not to make sure you have the preferred human doing a safety search. And then the same for searcher! Lots of people have to see/touch bodies of the opposite sex as part of their jobs. They just get on with it.

this is just a trans bashing thread again.

GriseldaandMike · 03/08/2026 09:19

tomatoplants · 03/08/2026 08:43

Not the best argument though as people can be attracted to all sexes/genders. How do you get around a lesbian searching a female??

or stretching 😉

The poster I was responding to seem to think it's impossible for trans identitfying men to fancy women. The idea that all transwomen are gay is a lie. One of the reasons some women are prepared to tolerate men in female spaces is because they have swallowed this lie (along with cross sex hormones mean they can't get aroused and so called 'bottom surgery' being either very common or a requirement to be regarded as a TW when it is in fact pretty rare).
Plenty of people believe transwoman equals castrated gay man but it doesn't, it equals any man who says they are trans.
More importantly you are correct, it has nothing to do with the person touching you being attracted to you. Lots of women just don't want to be touched by a strange man, whether the man is getting a kick from it or not.

Screamingabdabz · 03/08/2026 09:26

tomatoplants · 03/08/2026 08:57

Yeah and that’s the thing - there’s not time to stop and answer an interview about your preferences, identity, kinks and what not to make sure you have the preferred human doing a safety search. And then the same for searcher! Lots of people have to see/touch bodies of the opposite sex as part of their jobs. They just get on with it.

this is just a trans bashing thread again.

Why is it ‘trans bashing’?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 03/08/2026 09:27

My passport states 'sex - F' for female so I'm assuming all passports do. I presume you have to go with the sex declared on your legal document. I would think on the other side of it, this job is inappropriate for a trans person whichever way they are because of the complications it causes