To be upset DGP's are taking DC on holiday?

I wouldn't have been happy with anyone but me supervising my children on a beach holiday - the risk is too great. I think you are okay to say sorry but no and yes do cancel your trip if necessary. Let them think you're an old fusspot, it doesn't matter.

If you cancel the trip because of this, that's your right. I wouldn't expect them to be available for any kind of childcare in the future, though.

It's a lack of respect and lack of respect for boundaries by the GP's. Yes, they're family, but they still have to ask, provide details and get permission.

For goodness sake, I can't believe some of these crazy replies.

GP looked after my 2 from the ages of 0/2. Sometimes they had day trips to the beach. Sometimes they went swimming. Sometimes they went on boats.

I think they even had a couple of nights away with them too.

Not once did they ask our permission to do so. By the nature of being asked to look after the children, they knew they were trusted.

Children are both very happy 20 somethings with lovely childhood memories of time with their GPs.

What is it with this generation of mothers that think it's only them who can care for their precious babies properly and mollycoddle them so ridiculously? Do you not think that GPs will be even more vigilant than they would at home? They love those children too and don't want anything to happen to them, just like you.

If there has been anything in the past that has made you doubt their care of your children, then they should not be having them at all. If their care has been exemplary, then what's your problem?

If you want the village to raise the child, then let the village raise the child. You have to let go as they get older. Start letting go.

YABVU.

"What is it with this generation of mothers that think it's only them who can care for their precious babies properly and mollycoddle them so ridiculously?"

What a belittling statement. 🙄

Would they have taken them out while in their care ? What's the difference?

Enjoy your break and they will have fun too

If it can't be argued otherwise, this thread likely wouldn't exist.

If the grandparents are trusted with young children for an entire weekend, they are going to be trusted with making plenty of decisions. I can understand them believing if they are having them for the weekend anyway, they might as well make the best of it and take them on a little holiday and didn't think they needed permission.

Honestly, it sounds like the best case scenario is OP stays home and grandparents have a childfree weekend instead.

But the facts are that accidents or injuries with children are more likely to happen within the home.

You and your brother survived your childhood. So did your children's father. Your/his parents have been parents a lot longer than you have been one. How very insulting of you to think you know more about parenting than they do.

Cancel your trip though and tell your/his parents that you don't trust them to leave your tiny village with your children. Don't leave your children with them again as they clearly can't be trusted to look after them.

I'm not a grandmother. Grow up.

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Tbh would expect to be asked even with older kids at least out of courtesy and for practical packing purposes.
I don’t think you are overreacting OP. I would seriously consider the situation and maybe even cancel your trip. I don’t think your parents are so sensible if it didn’t occur to them to ask your permission for this.

They of course should have asked. You can't just do what you like with other people's children, even if you are doing someone a favour.

And also simply untrue. Mothers have always been weirdly obsessed with making sure their kids are safe, right throughout history.

I've always been 100% about keeping them safe @JFC26 . But there's a difference between keeping them safe and being overprotective.

This thread is littered with over protective mumminess.

My children's GP did all sorts with my children and they always kept them safe. I trusted them to look after my children.

I suggested to a couple looking to adopt that they could have my children 4 days/3 nights to give them a better taste of parenting than babysitting. They jumped at it. 3 yr old DD cried when we came home and clung onto our friends, as she'd had so much fun swimming and on days out with them. I didn't tell them what they could and couldn't do. I trusted them to look after my children.

I looked after many of my friends under 5s alongside mine. Heck, I even took my 2 and two of their friends on day trips to London and France when they were in KS2. Their parents trusted me to look after their children.

A weekend at the seaside is not a safeguarding issue.

You shouldn't be leaving your children with someone for a weekend if you're not comfortable with them having autonomy over how they spend that time.

@madderthanapissedonchicken Stop over thinking it and enjoy the weekend.

This with bells on.

A quick chat so you’re aware of the plans, yes I’d expect that. Or even just conversationally ‘we are booked to go to Devon, really excited to take the kids to XYZ’ is normal. I wouldn’t need to be asked permission, take them wherever, but it would be odd not to know!

Yes op i imagine most grandparents would quickly check it was ok. If they are pushy, overstepping etc generally then I wouldnt be shocked they didn't ask.

It is very poor form, most people would expect to be asked if they wanted to borrow their lawnmower for a few days but take away the DC without checking? Nah, it'll be alright, no need 😂