To be upset DGP's are taking DC on holiday?

Speaking as a grandparent,I and my husband have frequently taken our grandchildren away. In UK and to France when older.
We didn't actually ask if it was ok. But we did tell my daughter and SIL our plans. Needless to say they were always delighted .

Can i just say in defence of GPs - we are only in our 50s, fit & active & watch the GC like hawks. I am also very mindful to respect different parenting techniques & would never do anything that didn’t fit.
i can see why you are a bit annoyed at not being asked op but they probably didn’t think & just presumed it would be ok as they were having them anyway.
They probably think they are doing something lovely for all concerned & I am sure they will be hyper vigilant. I know we are and am sure most other GPs are the same.

They are watching them for a whole weekend. Surely they aren't going to just sit at home with them for a weekend?

If they are good enough to take care of them over a weekend then I think they can manage to take them away. Plus they raised you so I’m guessing they are competent enough or you wouldn’t be leaving them with GPs. I would leave them to it.

Watching DC at home is not the same as out and about with them.

How much topping up of sun cream can there be in the space of a nap?

I’m actually amazed any of us reached adulthood given how incompetent we seem to think the previous generation were.

Ah missed this. If OP had felt strongly enough, thinking there were safety concerns or something, she could/should have told her parents to cancel it and keep the child at home.

They did tell her. If they didn’t tell her at all it would be bonkers. The point is she thinks they should have sought her permission before booking.

You sound ridiculous and ungrateful OP

She wasn’t asked though. She was told. I can’t believe more people don’t think this was a bit odd. Clearly you should be asked if it’s ok to take your children somewhere. It’s also not hard for the grandparents to simple ask the question - probably would have taken 30 seconds.

They should have asked you first. They’re undermining your parenting by not asking, they’ve done that deliberately thinking they know better than you, and it would make me worried about other decisions they’d be making, knowing that they’re going against your wishes.

It’s possible to love and trust them and be grateful, but at the same time not agree with this.

A less important example of where I felt similarly… this summer my MIL (who I love and appreciate) insisted I was putting too much sun cream on 3 yr old, only applying a tiny bit then letting her play for hours in the paddling pool in full sunlight at 2pm. In theory she was child minding so I could have a nap (I’m pregnant and have some health issues), but in reality it meant I had to stay up anyway to secretly top up sun cream. So kind of took away the whole favor she was doing me, and on top of that made me the bad guy.

They are doing you a favour providing you with childcare and ontop of that are paying to take your kids away. Probably think it will be easier for them, and more enjoyable for your kids to be somewhere where i assume there will be pre arranged entertainment and activities to keep kids entertained. I dont see the problem

It’s really not. And I speak as a parent to a 10 & 6 yo so arguably part of “this generation of mothers”.

For all you know they’ve already done a family holiday. But regardless, you’re missing the point (and sound a bit sanctimonious).

I think it's normal for you be overprotective of children age 6 and 4 when they are being taken to a different place from usual with grandparents for overnight stays. Even though you trust them and appreciate their help, I think they should have consulted you first.

If you dont trust them then look after your own kids.

That isn't the issue though because OP did get told before they went. She wanted them to ask permission first.

Im missing your point, she does know and was told before they went.

It’s not about trusting or not trusting the grandparents. Clearly she trusts them. But most rational parents would want to know where their very young children are sleeping at night, regardless of who is looking after them.

I'd feel the same no matter which Grandparent it was if they can be trusted.

Fair point.

It’s much nicer for them to have their own break away while you are off with DH.

I used to go away with my DGP which felt like a treat rather than feeling “left behind” by DM and DF.

They’ve told you and really can’t see the issue with going on a UK weekend away it’s much nicer for your DC. I would feel grateful as their DM.

If I was anxious to this extent I wouldn’t book trips without DC while they are still young (assuming it’s not a work trip). You can’t expect your parents just to keep them at home for days.

I agree with you. I’m surprised so many others are giving a blanket yes. It depends on so many factors. I think it’s only polite for them to ask first. For example all of our grandparents are pretty old so I would be worried about them taking my children to new places.

I can’t help but wonder what the voting would have been had it been a MIL taking them away without discussion….