The double standards on here are getting out of hand

I wouldn't have come here if it wasn't called 'Mumsnet' because I would have thought it was like everywhere else on the internet- dominated by male perspective.
There's actually loads of stuff here for everyone but I would suspect that some women come here for support in the first instance just because of the name.

I think you’ll find that a significant number of posters are not parents.

And it was the exact same posters on both threads giving conflicting advice was it? Or no, it wasn't and you just expect women not to act like individuals but one big hive mind?

Convenient

Yeah you see it all the time. Someone suggested the double standard on the woman who cheated and started her thread ‘no judgement’. I told her her behaviour was abhorrent and that is exactly what I would say to a man.

And quite a few no doubt are, like me, long past the parenting stage, so are here for other reasons.

Why does a woman's perspective mean it's inherently against men? I just see it as a different way of viewing the world, not as it necessarily being some sort of defense or attack of men.

It is called misandry: contempt towards men. And it is an attitude as abhorrent as mysoginy.
That coupled with the fact that some women are green with envy that other females are leading very successful and fulfilling lives while they are alone and miserable.
Thankfully, only a minority of posters showcase these appalling attitudes, but they surely know how to disrupt the threads.

Thank you for perfectly demonstrating misogyny. Womens motives are always jealousy.
Do you have a link to any evidence of your claim that this is how women behave?

Therr is a really nasty double standard here and in society.

Oh, there is. And you're suggesting that men in general are the ones to suffer under this professed double standard? Really?

Get real.

There are sites peddling and pandering to this arrant nonsense everywhere on the www. Not to mention 'society'. The clue here is in the name: Mumsnet.

The cancer thread yesterday was as low as it gets.

TbH though, I think that we can acknowledge that affairs happen on both sides, so maybe it’s not unreasonable to assume that all stories have two sides even when it’s the woman being cheated on.

What I find fascinating is the way politicians etc with utterly abhorrent views and policies, including misogynist ones, suddenly become heroes when they advocate gender critical policies.

Oh look, a thread from a man complaining that "A FEW" women having double standards means that Mumsnet is getting out of hand. Come on ladies, buck your ideas up and stop saying things that might upset men.😂😂😂

I think what happens on here is similar to something I've experienced with colleagues.

So you're all in a relatively shitty job, some of you manage to see the job for what it is, a way to make money. You may vent about it on occasion, but it's more a method of social bonding than expressing the turmoil haunting your soul. You have no plans to uproot your life to find a new job.

You have 3 sets of other colleagues. You have the ones like you. Then you have the ones who can't move job but are terminally miserable. They are resentful of anyone like you who doesn't want to rock any internal boats.

Then you have the people who are pushed out by the awful conditions. They stick around and encourage everyone else to also jump ship. Even when it wouldn't be best for them and they know their decision has come with hardship. It might have even been hasty.They think anyone who doesn't want to is too stupid to realise or are even colluding with those in control for their own gain.

It's generally an acknowledgement that the entirety of our society is structured in a way that benefits men. This is the fundamental disconnect between the rights of the two sexes and the issue that equality has not only never been achieved, but its prospects seem to be moving rapidly backward.

It is not a level playing field, and this is the situation women have to navigate. This in turn means we are not in a position to negotiate it in the same terms as men. This is simply not possible.

Read the thread about the hideous discrimination against a pregnant woman in her workplace. About the numerous references to women's aid, the danger women are in when leaving an abusive or controlling partner, the alarmingly frequent murder of women by men, the necessity of having to risk-assess in everyday situations. The proliferation of incels, now openly boasting of their grotesque misogyny offline, and all-too often infiltrating this site.

The concept of a double-standard benefitting women as opposed to men is so transparently ludicrous as to be risible. But the OP very likely knows this. The site is lately full of wind-up threads intended to push the buttons of its members.

Sure, but this is not a bloody competition to see what sex/gender stoops the lowest.
This is a place where posters come to seeking advice which is meant to be reasonable and not based in hatred.

Do you have any evidence to support your claim that is the real reason? Are you in touch with the site admins?
Because from where I stand it looks like you plucked that nonsense out of thin air.

I guess my view is more that society is set up to benefit a particular demographic of men. A demographic that isn't even the majority of men. So a woman's perspective IMO, isn't against all men, even if you could argue that it's against some men. And even then, my views suggest that those very same men are pigeonholed by the patriarchy.

I'm a mother of son's and a daughter, partner, sister etc to males. Nothing in my perspective is against men. It's for equality. That's what feminism is about.

I didn’t say it was, and I quite agree.
I was merely pointing out that the double standards exist in the real world as well as on MN.

Where exactly did I say that those were ALWAYS the motives? Don't put words in my mouth (or fingers).

Ah, yes, of course. The old misogynistic stereotypes. Women recognising patterns of abuse and/or using their own, usually hard-earned experience to help others, by definition must be bitter. They must be of that unenviable brand of woman who is unable to catch, or keep a man - as though this is the entirety of the measure of women's worth. Angry women are 'haters'. It just isn't done, or a desirable feminine attribute, for women to be legitimately angry at the inequalities they still experience on a more-or-less daily basis. 'Shrill'. 'Bossy'. 'Harridans'. 'Bitches'. 'Harpies'. All are examples of pejoratives I've seen used against assertive women on this very site to put them back into their box.

If Mumsnet has any problem with double standards, it's internalised misogyny, and posts like the above beautifully demonstrate precisely this problem.

Very good point. I agree with you.

Yes but the majority of care givers are women. So it’s a site for parents but posters are mainly women.

[citation needed]